I know he would never do it and he's said he never would. We fought this morning and I told him I was tired of having sex all the time and that we don't spend enough time together. I feel like the time we do spend together is not quality time. He plays his game while I play on the internet, or we have sex. It's all my fault somehow, and I know he has his side, too, but how should I feel after he said that he would find sex somewhere else? I love him and maybe I'm just scared to be alone, but I don't want to lose him.
2007-04-01 06:25:01 · 21 answers · asked by mi para siempre 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would be pissed. Even if he didn't mean it, it was a childish thing to threaten you with. SAY WHAT YOU MEAN AND MEAN WHAT YOU SAY.
2007-04-01 06:37:28 · answer #1 · answered by Pom♥Mom Spay and Neuter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all it's not your fault and dont take the blame for.If he reall,truely loved you he wouldn'nt have said he would find sex some where else.Sex is only a part of a relationship.It's not the whole relationship.Why don't the both of you just stop playin on the internet and stop playing the games and go do somrthing together.For example go out to eat together and danceing,go to a movie,take a walk together.If he values his games and sex over haveing quality time with you then you need to do some serious thinking on whether or not if he is the kind of man you want to spen the rest of your life with.
2007-04-01 13:37:39 · answer #2 · answered by michele k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well after you tell a guy that you're tired of having sex all of the time, I can't say I blame him. If you want to spend more time together, take action and get off the computer and do something together. It's not that hard! If you're pleasant around him why would he be playing video games all of the time?
2007-04-01 13:58:32 · answer #3 · answered by SillierKimmie! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he said that he would cheat on you, then that means that he he could or will cheat on you and thats not a good thing and I don't believe all that crap that it's your fault for being on the computer all the time or not wanting sex because if he really loved you he would be finding out why you don't want to have sex not telling you that he'd cheat on you. I mean come on lets be serious would you tell him that if the tables were turned? Probably not right, well then I would definitely be talking this over with him because this is serious and it could lead to a bigger problem than just saying he could if you don't find out!!!!!!! Good Luck with that one.
2007-04-01 15:46:58 · answer #4 · answered by Krisy P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quickie answer: make a deal with him. If he wants more sex and you want more quality time then you two should be negotiating one for the other. It's not fair that he expects YOU to give him something and not return the favor. Your desire for more quality time is just as valid as his desire for more sex.
Longish answer: get counselling. His saying that is either an idle threat (manipulation) or a bad attempt to communicate how upset he is (lack of expression) or a warning that he's already planning such (bad judgement) in any case, you two need to learn to negotiate better and express your desires in a manageable way.
2007-04-01 13:37:01 · answer #5 · answered by Cassandra G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps it was only a threat because he was experiencing an angry outburst, but if you feel that your marriage is truly at risk, then seek marriage counseling.
Go out for a nice dinner, have a fun time at an amusement park or even just go for a bike ride! Activities that you both enjoy will bring you closer together, and you will realize what fun it is to be around each other.
2007-04-01 13:40:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that it's nice to spend quality time together, and to talk...
perhaps your husband and you could find things to do together which involves interaction and communication... something simple as playing a game or cards might help... would he be interested? can you go for a walk in the park, make a couple of "dates" a week and go to lunch or dinner?
i believe all couples need time to do things together... you're not wrong.
it's not YOUR fault....you are married to each other.
let your husband know how you feel, ask him to listen. that's the best you can do.
hugz
2007-04-01 13:31:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you already have lost him, hon. Marriage is respect, admiration, passion and trust, with a whole lot of lovies, time together, romantic things, kindnesses, solving problems without rage or resentment.... you aren't even close, if this has a shred of truth.
How should you feel? You're already alone. And because you are still there, you can't find a guy really worth you....
2007-04-01 17:00:53 · answer #8 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would start making him wear condoms to bed. Tell him if hes going to start finding it somewhere else, your not risking getting an STD.
Men hate condoms, and sure he will apologize and try to make it better just to have sex without it, and then he will think twice before saying that again. (but dont give in to easily)
This is only if you KNOW he never would though.
It was an extremely shitty thing for him to say, and I wouldnt give him sex just because of that. But start with making him wear a condom. Just to get your point across.
2007-04-01 13:35:34 · answer #9 · answered by Zenthae 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then don't tell him you are tired of sex,just try to work in some time to go out together and have some fun.
2007-04-01 13:33:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he just love his game too much to look for somewhere. how about having sex when he is playing game or he having sex with you while you playing Internet. it sound fun.
2007-04-01 13:33:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋