Angry how could my hubby do this to me??

Question

I am 26 yrs old and my hubby is 40 have been married 5.5 yrs he took care of anything financial.I have two kids girl and boy who are twins from a prior relationship.I met my hubby when he was my bosses bosses boss and when we got married i stopped working.I signed a pre-nup the day before we got married it was handed to me by his lawyer i thought it only ment i could not get alimony thats what lawyer told me. Which i just found out is not true it prevents a lot more than that.How could he lie to me like that?This hurts more than the cheating our whole relationship he lied to me?

No i did not read the pre-nup i was in a rush to you know get married to him i was already late and had to get to the church!

By the way we got married at 1 a.m in morning on valentines day.

Answer 1

Although, it was a bit sneaky to hand it to you the day before you got married, (almost as if he didn't want you to read it) you should have had your own attorney look it over and NOT have gotten married until you understood what it was that you were signing. I personally don't think pre-nups are a big deal, but you should ALWAYS READ EVERYTHING BEFORE you sign anything. In time, (years from now) if you are still together, you can ask him to have the pre-nup voided.

Answer 2

You should have been the BIG REG FLAG when his lawyer presented you with a pre-nup agreement the DAY before the wedding. You fiancee should have talked to you about that way before the wedding to find out how you felt. You probably really did not read it thoroughly because you TRUSTED him.
He has lied to you and cheated on you from what I'm reading here. Whatever trust you had for him is probably gone.
I believe you need to see your own lawyer to determine what rights you have so that you can be prepared if this sneak pulls another one over on you.
You deserve better and so do your children.

Answer 3

Change that anger into productivity! Get back into the workforce
and put your income into accounts for each of your children as
designated beneficiaries. Don't stay home losing contributions
to your social security benefit that also provides for your kids if
you or they become disabled before age 66. Your husband will
commend you, not condemn you, and like your initiative for
making yourself as important to you as he is to him. For now,
you and perhaps your kids if with you are his tax deductions.

Our first responsibility is to ourselves, then our children, followed by the spouse. Like it or not, he did what's right for Him.

With pre-nup in hand, seek a different attorney to consult with
on how to protect you & your kids with income you earn over
the next 25 yrs. You married for life, as I did at my age of 26
to a man 40. After 26 married years, 9 good, 17 bad, it all
ended with consumed assets. A nonrecoverable break-up
in the 10th year when I let him come back, thinking we will
rebuild a stronger marriage, became more corrupt each year.
He only wanted more for him, while working less, and much
less for US. My goodness was rewarded by verbal & physical
abuse that I was not put on this earth for. His loss of anger
management turned his love of life to hate all there was.
Our last day, he took all that was new & his personal property
leaving me in total Peace with no monetary resources.

I may never remarry, but should it happen, I'll commit myself
100%+ to the man, but no pre-nup signing, for I want equal
status with my partner that nothing can put us under. I do
believe today's couples need His, Hers & Ours to deal with
a crisis or drastic change and be "Even Steven" to meet it
together or if left alone.

How would you stand if a man such as this had a massive
heart attack this year or next? It was an eye opener for me
to live in my car with things in storage 90 days until asking
for help from my family trust. It wasn't accessible while I
was married for my protection or it would have been gone!
That was a big Hate my spouse had; the Trust & my family.
It isn't a pre-nup, it is a Trust Account an attorney can set
up for you and your kids protection any time! Fee: $1,000.+

Answer 4

He didn't lie, you just didn't read. It is your own fault for not reading a legally binding contract. Point the finger at yourself. Pre-nups are always drawn up to initially be unfair. Then you take the pre-nup to your lawyer, and then the negotiations begin. That's how it works. If you weren't willing to put in even the tiniest bit of effort to watch out for yourself, then what do you want from us?

Answer 5

It was probably illegal for you to be forced to sign a pre-nup 24 hours before the wedding, so I'd get a lawyer if you plan to divorce him.
The document should have been signed as early before the wedding as possible to avoid the appearance of coercion, a key reason why some agreements are rendered null and void. This should have been presented at least 30 days prior to the wedding.

Answer 6

Why are you worried about the pre-nup anyway? Are you thinking of leaving? He didn't lie to you....you were young and "dumb". You should have read it carefully with an attorney of your own before signing. If you love this man, a prenup shouldn't even be on your mind. If you're thinking of leaving him, get yourself a good lawyer. Your hubby must have thought you were a "golddigger"...what can you say? Godloveya honey.

Answer 7

So are you saying you married him for the money? If yes, then your hubby was right in letting you sign the pre-nup. If no, then what are you mad about? Usually, a pre-nup stipulates that if you were at fault, you get nothing. But if he was at fault, get a good lawyer girl.

Answer 8

Unfortunately there is nothing you can do. You leave the marriage as you came in with nothing. Let this be a lesson to you never sign anything without having your own lawyer present. Ask him if he can find it in his heart to help you and your twins financially until you get back on your feet. I'm sure he cares for the children after all he supported them 5.5 years, he must care. I wish you all the best.

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet. Enough trials to make you strong. Enough sorrow to keep you human. And enough hope to make you happy.

We don't always have the best of everything, We just make the most of everything that comes along our way. God Bless.

Answer 9

Sorry to say it sounds like this relationship was doomed from the start. I don't know about how you feel about him, but it is obvious how he feels about you. He wanted a younger woman and figured you were after him for the money to support your kids. I don't know if you were or not, but he figured it was a trade off, you get money he gets younger woman. He sounds like a real ******, what was it about him that made you want to marry a guy who decides right off the bat, it might not work out, and if it doesn't he wants to leave you with nothing, (or whatever ever was in the prenup that you were so upset about)?

Are you getting a divorce? If so, I would just chalk it up to lessons learned and move on, he is not worth it. If you are not, it does not sound like a thing that will be easy to resolve, but if you love each other I hope you can work it out. Personally, I would never sign a prenup, that's just not my kind of guy or relationship. If he really loved you why would he feel he needed to protect himself against you?

Best of luck.

Answer 10

If he has cheated on you, then the pre-nup is invalid. Pre-nup are based on either "no fault" or the other party's fault. If he cheated, he is at fault and the pre-nup is broken by him.

Get a lawyer. If you dont' want to break up, then go to counselling.