She cheated on her husband while they were engaged and after the wedding too. She had an abortion. Both of these facts none of her friends know about. What right does she have to decide who needs to know what, especially when we have gotten divorced and everything is over. She helped me to decide not to tell him after I left because it would "only be hurtful to him." Why then, would she tell?
2007-04-01 06:01:04 · 32 answers · asked by Chuck 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wouldn't lower myself to her level. That will only get you a reputation as a blabbermouth, as she is. You now know that she is someone that you can't put your confidentiality or trust in.
2007-04-01 06:08:37 · answer #1 · answered by Pom♥Mom Spay and Neuter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not a real friend what so ever. However even knowing that I would NOT go telling that secret about her. That could ruin her family and it isn't your place to do that nor would you want that weighing on you for years to come. I would flat out knock the crap out of her though.
No telling why she would tell something like that but hey, he is your ex so it shouldn't bother you too bad. If you were together it would be different but you aren't. Yes be mad but not mad enough to ruin a family. Remember, two wrongs don't make a right. Have you asked her why she would tell him that? Maybe she was too drunk to realize it or maybe she is just too stupid to realize what she did. I don't know her but there could be so many different reasons, main one being that she might just love drama.
2007-04-01 06:10:38 · answer #2 · answered by ~*~frankie~*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey this not a friend. This is some body trying to get past you to your ex. Do not tell her any more secrets. And tell her to her face that she is no longer your friend. Or you could find out all her secrets and share them with the rest of your g/f. Knowing women the way, I do those will not be secrets for long. And it would not be you telling her secrets it would be other women. Good Luck that friendship is over...
2007-04-01 06:09:17 · answer #3 · answered by fnbug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a wretched woman that doesn't deserve your friendship and time. Blabbing her secrets will not change your relationship w your ex. You should be an adult and keep the secrets, as not to lower yourself to her level..............
............on the other hand............ i'd be a hypocrite if I didnt say: vengeance is sooooooo sweet......... if u do decide to go that route......... make sure that you live far away enough as to not have to deal w her anymore. Bc sister, you are not going to be friends ever again after she takes a taste of her own chocolate. But who needs friends like that??????
2007-04-02 12:57:35 · answer #4 · answered by kitty98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friend you said? Do you feel safe with this history with her?
No trust, no friendship!
Only out her if you
1. Have no other secrets she can blab about you
2. Want to end your ties with her
3. Are sure she is not psycho and won't flip
Otherwise tell her you could have gotten even but would rather write her off and end your friendship with her.
Wondering about the name Chuck though???
2007-04-01 06:11:29 · answer #5 · answered by Hi'Lo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who needs enemies when you have friends like that. I say take the high road. Even though it might make you feel better, you would be using her husband. I feel for you. It would be very hard for me to not tell on her. I also say confront. You could tell her some of the things you know about her and ask her how she would feel if you told people.
2007-04-01 06:08:30 · answer #6 · answered by Ryan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her this question as you don't know why it came up now. What did he say to her about you? Did she just call him and say it? Find out more details before you make a decision. also, tell her you feel betrayed and you can't trust confiding in her due to this I would not lower myself as to rat on her but I would let her wonder if I was going to tell her secrets to her husband.. That would be more payback then you can imagine.
2007-04-05 03:13:24 · answer #7 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry so much at the ex knowing as I would about your so-called "friend". Be direct with her and tell her you're not going to share anything with her again and tell her why. She has no right to talk to anyone about your past. As for "blabing her secrets"....you'll be just like her. Just drop her as a "friend" and find some better company. She has no loyalty for affection for you, honey. You can't trust her. Godloveya.
2007-04-01 06:15:17 · answer #8 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that would depend on if you still want a friend or not. Telling on her won't change the fact that you ex already knows, and really doesn't serve any purpose other than getting even. And who cares what your ex thinks anyway. After all, she is your ex...or do you plan on trying to get back together with them?
2007-04-01 06:08:58 · answer #9 · answered by auditor4u2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stoup down to her level, keep your dignity. Next time you talk to her, say something to make her feel guilty and feel like a bad person about what she's done to you, but don't tell any of her secrets, no matter what she's done to you, because that makes you the better person and she'll know it.
2007-04-01 06:07:07 · answer #10 · answered by Kimberly K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋