Do my parents get me 2 much stuff?

Question

i got alot of stuff for my 13 b-day. i got a celly, computer, credit card and dior sunglasses. this grl in my grade says my parents get me 2 much stuff and her exact words "If u asked ur daddy for a house he'd probably get it for u." that is not true or at least i think. what is ur oppinion and please give me som advice.

Answer 1

I guess that only you know if you get everything you ask for or if you are ever told "no."

But my opinion would be that parents who give their kids everything are not preparing them very well for the real world. The real world doesn't provide us things simply because we want them, nor does it provide us with the top of the line products. Children who don't understand the link between hard work and material goods end up with a sense of entitlement that does not mesh well with other people.

Of course, other kids also just tend to get envious of what other people have. It's important for you to be conscientious about the people you are friends with. Perhaps their parents would never be able to afford even one of those gifts, let alone all of them.

Answer 2

Do you have chores or a job. Do you have to earn any money to help pay for the bills that this "celly" and credit card will run up? Do you have to get good grades and keep your room clean. My children will never be given a credit card, ever. My husband is in the army, spends years (literally) away from his famil working his butt off and neither he nor I have Dior sun glasses. I have this great $15.00 pair from Wal-Mart. There is nothing wrong with having nice things, as long as you appreciate them, know how lucky you are, look at the world around you, seeing children that don't even have shoes or enough to eat. As long as you don't become self consumed and those products are not the most important thing to you. I think if you are going to have a cell phone and credit card that you should make an arrangement with your parents to do work around the house to pay for those things.

Answer 3

Wow, your parents were generous with you. Did you thank them? If your parents are rich, then it wasn’t too much for them. The real question is, how are you receiving what they’ve given you? How are you acting with all this privilege?

If you’re flaunting these things around, talking about them a lot, that’s bragging and it’s not nice. If you’re responsible, these things may be well deserved!

If you want to have some perspective, I encourage you to get involved with volunteering!! There’s a wonderful book called “Teens with the Courage to Give” by Jackie Waldman. Read that book and think about ways that you can contribute. I think you’ll find hours spent helping others are much more meaningful than hours spent shopping at the mall.

Good for you for asking the question and searching for what’s right. I’m sure you’ll find the right answers! You have a lot going for you and a lot to give. Reach high and live up to your potential with a lot of joy; be kind to all you meet along the way. Use your wealth for good and it will be good.

Cheers! :0)

Answer 4

I think your parents are probably giving you a very unrealistic view of "the real world' . But I'm sure they mean well.

If I had the means... I would love to do the same for my kids.

I guess a good way to make the best of it, would to ask you parents about how to be responsible with these things.

onl use the C.C when you have an emergancy. ( which means you'll probably not use it... seeing as how most 13 yr olds shouldnt have emergancies that require a C.C._)
Have them remind you about your cell service. what you get and what u dont. do not go over your minutes... that sort of thing. Be responsible on your computer. Show them that you can pull off these exensive, and adult gifts.
If youprove that you are responsible enough to have them, then I guess you are old enough.

Remember... this isnt your money!

Answer 5

You did get a lot.
Is she envious?

Just realize that you have it great now, perhaps, I don't know your life, but you have a lot of stuff, anyway. Still, it's just stuff. Your importance comes from within you, not the stuff you have. Try to be considerate, don't brag about your stuff.

I wouldn't want to be you. I hate to share, and since you have so much, you may be asked to share by some peer. Luckily for me I don't have much, so that solves the sharing problem for the most part.

Just be helpful and kind to others. Then they won't resent that you have so much, and anyway, in general it's best to love your neighbor as yourself--it pleases God.

Answer 6

WELL YOU COULD LOOK AT IT LIKE THIS MAYBE YOU GOT THAT "CELLY" FOR SAFETY, THE COMPUTER SO YOU COULD EDUCATE YOURSELF JUST A LITTLE MORE, THE CC JUST IN CASE YOU GOT SOMEWHERE AND NEEDED EMERGENCY MONEY AND NO BUYING THAT DIOR JACKET FROM NEIMAN MARCUS TO MATCH YOUR GLASSES IS NOT AN EMERGENCY NO MATTER HOW YOU LOOK AT IT...LMAO ! TRUST I UNDERSTAND THAT LABELS ARE FUN AND EXCITING BUT DON'T BOOST ABOUT WHAT YOU GET BC THAT COULD STIR UP THAT JEALOUSY ! ENJOY HUN AND STAY A KID FOR FOREVER...HAPPY BELATED B-DAY ! OH AND WHAT COLOR ARE YOUR DIOR FRAMES ? WELL GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS !!!

Answer 7

yes u do get to much stuff a 13yr old girl does not need all that in my opinion, but obviously ur parents can afford it and see no problem with u having it so, but ur friend probably is just a little jealous which is to be expected.

Answer 8

i think you are very spoiled and that the girl was right about you getting a house if you asked for one.At 13 years old that is too young to get a credit card you can get in debt and mess up your credit.most ppl dont get a credit card until they're in least in college.

Answer 9

Well...in my household, I don't mind getting a thing here and there for my son. But a cell phone and a credit card?.....no way. Those he has to earn himself. The idea of expensive sunglasses is on the lines of WHY? to me. Paying for a name is foolish to me.

When you start paying your own way, I'm sure you'll appreciate them a lot more...since you earned them. I'm sure your parents are nice people who want you to have nice stuff. But starting to earn a buck on your own will do worlds of good for your self esteem. Then when your friend sees you with that stuff, you can say you earned it....I'm sure they will be more impressed.

Answer 10

Dont worry! Your parents wouldn't get you those things if they couldnt afford it. That girl is probably jealouse and pluse, turning 13 is a big deal lol. Your dad just loves you and wants you to be happy.