Why can't they let me Study?????????

Question

I am 21 years old and I am a pre-med student. I love to study and I want to become a surgeon. But my parents are always after me to marry someone. I am a good girl, I focus on my studies but I don't know why they are doing this. I am getting sick of this and I sometimes feel that I might hurt myself because I am not allowed to do focus on my studies. I was the valedictorian of my high school. Ever since my parents keep on telling me to marry I get distracted and not able to focus. I don't understand why my own parents are doing this.I never did anything wrong. I never got involved with anybody then why are they not letting me focus on my dreams.

Answer 1

Sad. You have every right to pursue any career you wish. You also have every right to expect support from family and friends. But, there is ONE minor problem. Parents ALWAYS believe they know best for their babies. While they'd rather die than hurt you, they sometimes inspire young adults to dream of strangling the parents, or moving to Tahiti. The fact is, that you will always be their baby; and they'll always feel that way. About the only two things worse would be having parents that don't give a damn what you do, or when you lose your parents. Someday, you'll wish mom was there to interfere. But, for now, put up with it. They love you.

Answer 2

Which state you are in? As far as I know, in certain state, @ the age of 21 n not married is consider old maid. That's might be the reason why they do this. If you are not position in such of state, then you should do something. Get to talk to your parents abt it? About your dreams and etc. Hope this help. All the best.

Answer 3

Maybe you should tell them that by leaving you alone and let you study this will give you a better chance of making more money in the long run.Money that may very well be used to keep them in a run down nursing home or in a plush retirement community with assisted living quarters.That should shut them up.

Answer 4

you could ask your parents if they would sit down and LISTEN to you and let you talk....

you can tell them that you feel they are intruding on your dreams, and that YOU are the one who is going to have to live your life... and they can help you by supporting you in your efforts to do well in school right now.

tell them that you want a bright future as a surgeon.

if you feel that you'd like to get married someday, after medical school, let them know about that, too.

tell them first things are FIRST, and your education is first right now.

excuse me for saying, but your parents are strange -- i don't understand them... if you were my child, i'd be thrilled for you!

i don't understand why parents would want you to rush into marriage... do you even have a boyfriend?

take care of YOU... focus upon your dreams....

i wish you all the best in the world, and i'm proud of you... stick to your dreams!!

Answer 5

Your parents evidently have cultural (social) issues that make them value you being married as HIGHER importance than you getting your degree.

You need to talk with your parents and explain that your dreams are important too.

If you get into an argument with them, you might need to have a good long think and work out if your dreams are important enough for you to leave home (or face being kicked out of home).

My mother kicked me out of home in the middle of my medical student years because I refused to conform to her idea of her dreams (she wanted me to let her choose a wife for me *rolls eyes* or at least marry a nice Chinese girl - I had my own ideas).

Answer 6

could they be worried that you study to hard and have no social life? are you from a culture that disagree's with women in the work force? it's time to tell them to back off. you need to sit them down and tell them exactly how this is affecting you.if it continues maybe you could live on campus. best of luck in your studies.

Answer 7

Maybe you could hit them where they hear it and suggest that your degree would help you attract a high-ranking doctor.