how does a parent monitor what their teens are doing on ( my space ) when you dont know their user name?

Answer 1

You can't. That's why I made my own account, asked my teenage son outright what his user name is, and we added each other to our "friends" lists.

If he's too embarrassed for me to see what he's up to on line, then he probably shouldn't be doing it. For the most part, he hasn't disappointed me (except when he stated his age as 21 -- he's just 15 -- but we talked about that); however, I've been a bit shocked at the language that his friends use when they leave messages for him! Ewwwww! What potty mouths! Was I *ever* that bad as a teenager? ;-)

Answer 2

As long as their computer is in a public place and as long as you walk around while they're using the computer you shouldn't have too much of a problem.

I don't see why parents feel the need to invade their children's privacy like that. What you are doing is awful, would you have wanted your parents to know every little thing about your comings and goings? Are you really that awful of a parent to suspect that your child is some Internet ѕlut or whatnot?

I think the media puts too much emphasis on the whole predators online thing. I realize that there really are freaks out there but it is not that serious. I have met people from the Internet since I was about 15 years old and 4 years later, I am still alive, not raped, not molested, etc. My parents trusted me so they did not monitor me and I don't drink, I stay away from the drugs and I am quite far from being a promiscuous young woman.

Answer 3

Look at BeNetSafe. It is designed for this problem with social networking accounts.

http://www.benetsafe.com/home.php

If the above isn't what you want then look at this site. This is an excellent program. My daughter uses it to monitor her childrens computer activity.

Using this program my daughter was alerted to someone my grandson was emailing. This person claimed he was 15. Some of the things said in the email made her suspicious and she contacted her step-brother (high ranking officer on the PD). The Cyber Crime unit got involved and 2 months later a 53 yr old pervert was arrested when he thought he was meeting my grandson.

In the case of my grandson the cost of this program was worth every penny, and more.

http://www.spectorsoft.com/products/eBlaster_Windows/

Answer 4

My daughter got an myspace account and lied about her age. As soon as I found out I contacted myspace and had them delete her profile. The only way you can monitor their mypsace stuff is to know their username and password and that should be a standing rule. My daughter will be allowed to have one when she actually hits 14 in a few weeks but I will NOT allow her to have one without me being allowed full access to everything on it.

Answer 5

Keep computers out in the open - not in bedrooms.
Set yourself as administrator, then, from Internet Explorer:
Tools
Internet Options

Carefully review the Security, Privacy. and Content tabs.

On the Content tab, if you click "enable," you can set restrictions and ensure them with a password.

However, as a parent myself, I can tell you that unless you have a good relationship with your kids, what they don't get into home they will be exposed to outside. Unfortunately, we can't protect them from everything unless you want to lock them up until they're 21.

Wasn't it Mark Twain who said (paraphrasing) kids should be tied up at age 12, and at age 19 thrown into a dung hole?

Answer 6

For partial information you can get your own myspace page and become "friends". Or I agree with the other person. Thats part of having the freedom to use myspace. Means your parent gets to login and check in at anytime.
There are other supposedly more secure networking sites such as facebook.

Answer 7

I reckon you should just ask them. Don't sound worried about them, tell them that you trust them. If they are 13+ you should let them do their thing.

All failing that you could just install a key logger, one without a virus, and record their username and password. Just becareful as keyloggers can contain viruses. And by the way myspace log in names are their email adress. All you need really is there password.

Answer 8

Go to http://keyhole-spy.com/ and download their software. Its completely free, i have it on my computer youll get to see
the web pages theyve been on.
1-What computer programs theyve opened
2-Webcams take picture every couple seconds to let you know what they were doing(wheter the webcam is on or not)
3-What user name and passwords they been using
4-It logs every keyboard stroke (useful if you wanna know what they been talking about on messengers)
5-Documents theyve opened
anyways check it out...I love it

Answer 9

Install a keylogger on the computer that they're using. You can find some for free on www.download.com. Good luck!

Answer 10

You just have to click on people near the search box, and type their name in and search. Then click on the myspace that is theirs.