i didnt help plan it ..and it is susposed to be a surprise..but i have a lot of friends emailing me telling me they are gonna bring their kids with them to my baby shower..i told my mom who is throwing it about them trying to bring their children and shes not fond of the idea..its not a childrens party ..its a baby shower...i dont even want children there..i feel this is my first baby shower i dont want to hear children screaming or misbehaving..i mean 30 people are coming..and out of the people who responded that was about 10 kids they were trying to bring ..im trying to help my mom now b.c i dont know what else to do but have her call them and tell them please dont bring children..is that mean>? or do you think it is fair..?please no mean answers this is stressing me enough..and my mom is having a terrible time with it at the moment.
2007-04-01 04:47:22 · 10 answers · asked by ~Ashley~ 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i have one younger sister but she is coming to the shower and she is 21..all the kids they are trying to bring are really under the age of 4.
2007-04-01 04:56:01 · update #1
yes when they did the invites it just said the name of the person that was invited..that was all..
2007-04-01 04:59:20 · update #2
this is for autmun..when your pregnant you dont need stress anymore than what you got..and second of all its not a childrens party anyways..it should only be for adults..and i would never bring my child to an event like this..that is just plan out rude and ignorant..so you get over it..
2007-04-01 05:18:53 · update #3
I am in total agreement with you....it is rude to automatically assume it is okay to bring your children with you everywhere. A baby shower is all about Celebrating Baby with the new mom and other ADULTS. If the invitiation didn't specify that kids were okay.....the guests really need to arrange a babysitter (on their own!!).
However, it seems like the guests at your shower are not aware of this social etiquette. In which case....the best thing you could probably do is hire a teenager (or two?) in your mom's neighborhood to watch the kiddos. Let the parents coming know that this is an ADULT shower and that you are going to provide babysitting on site. Rent a great Disney Flick from Blockbuster....put kid snacks out....along with some leggos and coloring books----and SHUT THE DOOR!! Definately encourage parents to enjoy the shower without their little one holding onto their shirt tales!!
I really wish everyone realized that it is NOT okay to take your kids with you everyplace you go. You wouldn't dream of taking your kids with you on a date night with your spouse, or to a cocktail party you were invited to....why do people automatically assume it is okay to take them to a baby shower? It is not....and the hostess isn't being rude by not including your kids. This day is about the MOTHER TO BE and HER child......it is not about the guest and HER child. Period. Not rude.....however, deciding to take your kids with you without checking with the hostess IS!!
Live and learn.....I encourage all baby shower hostesses to include the words "Adults Only Please!" on their invites. It's a shame it has come to that.....but, I suppose, it just has.
Meanwhile.....there are a lot of stressed out hostesses and mommies-to-be out there. It is incrediby stressful and disappointing to spend two weeks (or more) planning this wonderful celebration and then learn that a bunch of 4 year olds are going to be running around tearing apart the diaper cake, getting into your nice China Hutch, and demanding Macaroni and Cheese.
LADIES.....LEAVE YOUR KIDS AT HOME WHEN YOU GO TO A BABY SHOWER!!!!
And as a afternote.....can I just say how truly horrible it is that her SURPRISE SHOWER was runied because people wanted to bring their kids? I am SURE that the invite said it was a surprise....but people are so determined to drag their kids along that they felt it was okay to send the person that was supposed to be SURPRISED an email letting her know kids were coming and, oh, by the way SURPRISE!!! I mean I am sure the invite had a RSVP on it (her mom??). Why didn't they call the RSVP....because they KNEW they shouldn't be bringing kids and they thought if they contacted the mommy-to-be (their friend) they would be able to get by on that. Rude, rude, rude!!!
2007-04-01 07:05:38 · answer #1 · answered by diapercakesbybecca 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is a really tough problem! Ladies of an age to attend baby showers often have little ones of their own, so it gets difficult to figure out what to do.
Do you have a sister who can babysit the little darlings in another room during the party? If you do that AND keep the party itself kind of short, you may be able to make it through without the kids taking over (as they so easily do) or tearing down the curtains!
I understand how you feel; I have 5 sisters who had a dozen kids by the time I was 16 and I thought my entire life was consumed with chasing around little screaming urchins!
2007-04-01 11:53:03 · answer #2 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe your mom could make the shower later in the evening, so that it will be past the children's bedtimes. Also, maybe your mom could let your friends know that there just won't be enough room to accommodate children.
I'm sure your mom wrote out the invitations just addressed to your friends and not "Mrs. Mary Jones and family". Your friends are being thoughtless by bringing people who aren't invited.
2007-04-01 11:57:47 · answer #3 · answered by salsera 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you say something along the lines of, "I'm really looking forward to us girls getting together, and I'm sure you're looking forward to some time with the adults and without the kids. Is your husband available to watch them while you come to the shower?" This will convey your point and also commit the person to either get a sitter or skip the shower.
2007-04-01 11:52:31 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Lucky♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's totally understandable that you don't want a bunch of kids all over the place. It's your party. Your time. If you haven't sent out invations or anything, when you do send them you could write please do not bring your children. Or if worse comes to worse you or your mom could email all the people and just nicely ask them not to bring their children. I hope everything works out alright for you!
2007-04-01 11:52:30 · answer #5 · answered by jessykah757 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is more than fair. Since, they emailed you, if you feel comfortable just say, hey I love your kids but say there will be alcohol there and you would feel more comfortable if there weren't any children there. Or your mom can say that. Also, you can add there won't be anything for the children to do and that it really wouldn't be fair to bring them. If they say, oh, it's not a problem. You'll just have to say it's nothing personal against your kids, I would just perfer for it to be a kid free environment. I hope that you understand.
2007-04-01 11:55:13 · answer #6 · answered by Lolly07 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can email them with that many people you don't need an extra 10 kids to distract you and your guests. After all it is youe baby shower.
2007-04-01 11:57:06 · answer #7 · answered by shorty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could put the kids in a play room and hire a babysitter or two to watch them.
2007-04-01 11:50:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think your in the wrong send them emails ( if thats how they RSVP) or notes or call and tell them that this is yours and your babys day and not to bring their KIDS.
2007-04-01 11:51:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um... you're pregnant and you have a problem with listening to children make noise? I think that you should have thought about that BEFORE you got pregnant. I think it is really sort of rude of you to just expect people to come to this party and bring a present AND pay for babysitters. Most baby showers I've ever been to their were children present. It's called life, get used to it.
2007-04-01 12:16:10 · answer #10 · answered by autumnofserenity@sbcglobal.net 4 · 3⤊ 8⤋