my bf always uses abusive n insulting words 2 me (very , very bad words). i always bear with him. he is always angry wit me. still, he sayz he luvs me so..much. he nvr takes me out or anything like dat. but he says he will tak me out after marriage... yesterday , he abused my mom n dad so much n called my mom a very bad word. 2day he sms d that he loves me n will never leave me. i called him n said i want 2 be out of this relationship. nw i am in a fix.. shd i approach him n continue d relation or should i stop this?
2007-04-01 04:15:55 · 23 answers · asked by Cutie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Since he is so mean to you and your family you know he is NOT the right guy for you and for your life. Break it off with him and move on with your life and you will be a much better person for it. Seek counseling and help for what you have been through to learn how to deal with and get past this. He will NOT take you out after marriage if he does not already do so. Things will only get much worse if you actually marry this guy. GET OUT NOW and do not look back. Good luck to you and here comes lots of hugs your way today. The best way to stop all of this is to end the relationship with him all together.
2007-04-01 04:30:41 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, marriage will not fix this, if anything it could escalate to physical abuse plus verbal abuse which you deal with now.
Out with next weeks garbage darlin, he's not worth it. I had a cousin who thought marriage would fix things when she ended up with a verbally abusive guy. He ended up tossing her down the stairs after he busted her jaw with his fist, locked her out of the house in the dead of winter after he dragged her to the street. She's lucky to have survived. Then she divorced the dirt bag and what does she do? Marry another idiot except this time he abused her son...the son ended up living with her parents and she's still with this idiot. Some people never learn...but you can.
Get out of this and don't look back, he's not good enough for you. Next time you question your decision to dump him...remember how he's treated you and your parents...that's totally unacceptable and not worthy of your consideration.
2007-04-01 11:45:26 · answer #2 · answered by dustiiart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know what....one who does not respect u as a person does not deserve to be in ur life.
of course he is abusing u & ur family.
just get rid of him.
Or else may be u can speak to him & tell him what u feel about all this. U might as well give him a chance.
But if he continues to be the same then its better that u leave him. He will never make u happy. If not now then never.
2007-04-01 11:23:30 · answer #3 · answered by cosmos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to look at a bunch of things. Well why is he insulting you and your parents; is there actually a reason. Does he just spew out things at random, do you make mistakes that he doesn't like, do your parents insult him.. all that factors into it.
You have to look in yourself and ask do you really love this person? Is there more good things in both of your lives being together than bad? Does he really love you and if he does then why does he verbally abuse you? only you have the answer to that.
Good Luck.
2007-04-01 11:20:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still with him? I know, I know I was with baby's daddy for over two years, and I stayed with him because I loved him at that time. He would also say remarks about my parents, and at that time I didn't nothing of it. I didn't speak with my parents for a year or so. I guess when we are inloved we get blinded sometimes until the blind folded is taken off. Please get out soon as you can because I was there and it was very emotionally dreany and physically. It was hard really not being able to talk my mom, siblings for a year or so because of my lousy ex. We have no explanations for our behaviours, why we do things the way we do. I hope it would not take you long to realize that this, what he is doing to you and to your parents are wrong. Talk to someone you really trust. Talk to your parents about helping you; I moved out to my parents house and they were there to help me even though I was a lousy daughter for deceiving them over my ex.
2007-04-01 11:31:26 · answer #5 · answered by heavenlyours2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop it immediately. This is the worst person in the world for you. He doesn't love you. He is using you. You are a doormat that he likes to walk on. He'll probably never leave you because no one else would want him if they knew him.
Don't give him another word or look.
2007-04-01 11:20:40 · answer #6 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of the relationship! He is definitely being verbally abusive toward you. If you stay, in time your self esteem will be so low that you will begin second guessing everything you do. Also, often times, it starts with verbal abuse and will eventually escalate to physical abuse. Get out while you can.
2007-04-01 11:26:40 · answer #7 · answered by kari w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you let someone abuse you,by talking or fighting it is not love it is him trying to controll you.And if you live with it,then you are letting him.Dump him today and never ever talk to him again.But you have to let him go,and I do not mean tomorrow.And while you are at it go get a restraining order against him so he will go to jail if he hits you.Why do people think it is love to to abused? Would you let someone else hit you or talk to you that way.This is not love and you need to move on with your life.SPREAD THE WORD........ STOP LETTING PEOPLE ABUSE YOU
2007-04-01 11:25:59 · answer #8 · answered by junior1108 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the BUM! and get with a good guy like me ,but most women want the bad boy,gangster,thug who treats them like shi* so don't complain if this is the type of person you go after what do you expect.
2007-04-01 11:29:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not respect you at all, now he still treat your parents in this manner. Dont even bother about him at all. You deserve better so does your parents. Kick his *ss off and get out. Why degrade yourself. Sorry if I sound offensives. Hope you will find your truly Mr Right.
2007-04-01 11:27:28 · answer #10 · answered by Joy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋