I am in my first relationship and I really love my bf, he's great. We have been going out for about 6 months, I've known him a little longer but not much. He has been out for a couple of years, myself about a year.
My 1st problem is : I'm his 1st boyfriend and he is mine, I met him when I moved schools. He's really open about himself and is so understanding of me. The only thing is I find myself wanting to know more about his past as there was another guy in his life but they never had a relationship. Instead from what I understand they 'experimented'. As I understand they were friends but this happened one night or more I dont really know. I don't know how close they where but I want to know. His friends all know about what happened between him and this other guy but yet I feel I should ask him.
I don't think he would mind me asking but would I be too nosey to ask him about something that happened a couple of years ago or should I just forget about it?
2007-04-01 04:05:02 · 15 answers · asked by helpme?? 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
you should never ask about past sexual relationships. Its not healthy, they are in the past and thats that, over and done with.
dont get yourself all worked up about this, he is with you now and thats all that matters
2007-04-01 04:08:44 · answer #1 · answered by looby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was the same as you in my first relationship, I was 21 and very wet behind the ears.
What I have learnt is that as you go into further relationships it doesn't matter who they have dated before or what has happened with other guys, the point is they are now dating you. It can do your head in a bit if you constantly want to know and during my first relationship it caused a few problems. Now I'm a lot older and a different person and it doesn't bother me one bit, as you get older everyone has a past and previous relationships under their belt.
If he simply tells you fine but try not to worry about it, experimential experiences are part of growing up so don't be threatened by it.
2007-04-01 22:45:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, why do you want to know? If it's because you just want to find out even more about his history and become closer to him, and you think you could deal with anything he tells you, then ask him. It sounds like he'd tell you with no problems!
If it's for any other reason, or you feel that there's something he could say that would make you jealous or uncomfortable, don't go there. Curiosity killed the cat!
When I first starting dating my boyfriend, I wanted to get as close to him as possible and know all about his exes. Once he'd told me, I wished I'd never asked!
I'd personally leave it alone - you don't need to know. All that matters is what happens between you. But if you're really dying to ask him and you know you could handle *anything* he tells you, then go for it. If he doesn't want to answer though, don't force it.
I hope you and your boyfriend have a happy future together!
xx Emmie
2007-04-01 12:39:56 · answer #3 · answered by Sparklepop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im like dat too dw I always ask my gf about all her past partners and wen i do get an answer i get hurt, coz its like...i want to kno but i dont...if u kno wot i mean....so i think u better be careful...if u think ur gona hear something u dont want to...i think u better just forget about it and move on. If his with u now and is on top of that OPEN about it...he must really like u, so u have nothing to worry about. Enjoy ur time together :)
2007-04-01 04:16:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget about it. You're not going to be with him forever. This realtionship will deteriorate on it's own. Newbees relationships don't last very long. You'll go through several realtionships before you find a keeper. Don't take things too seriously, it's not time to yet. Just be careful with your heart and always wear a raincoat. Good luck to you.
2007-04-01 04:12:04 · answer #5 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My first concern is that if you two are or plan on being sexually active then perhaps you both should get tested for HIV before going any further.
Second, if you are sexually active, are you using condom? He is your first, but it seems you are not his.
Other than that details of the previous relationship are really unimportant.
2007-04-01 06:30:45 · answer #6 · answered by hopeartaspirer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its better left unsaid what you dont know won't hurt you. its better not to know because it may just hurt you. its not good to talk about past sexual affair. as long as you both love each other and you're both happy with each other nothing to contemplate about the things that may ruin your relationship. or maybe to feed your curiosity to know him better just get an idea of what happened but i suggest not to let him elaborate each part of it.
2007-04-01 04:31:26 · answer #7 · answered by argylyme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 19:13:38 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey! u know wht i really think, u should ask him coz u will not get it out of ur mind , belive me u won't till u know sth. may be on the answer he gives, u may learn a lot abt ur realtionship. anyway it is worth knowing
2007-04-02 11:39:06 · answer #9 · answered by aka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should ask him about it...communication is very important between couples...Im pretty sure he wont be mad b/c youre making an effort to know more about him and get closer...just be direct and positive about it and Im sure youll do fine...good luck dude!!
2007-04-01 04:11:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋