Hai I am 17.Though I am beautiful I am black and fat.Eventhough I have achieved 4 state awards,I feel guilty of myself.please help me.......
2007-04-01 03:23:48 · 13 answers · asked by Ramprakash R 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Come on now...............four state awards & u r still bothered about looks!!!!!This may sound phony but the Lord u r named after was also dark...........Looks really don't matter,these days everybody looks glamarous with loads of make-up piled on their face & slimming techniques but what we don't get r naturally good-hearted people & I already feel u must be a lovely person.U have inner qualities of head & heart,u sound like some genius to me, feel proud about that.
U can easily loose weight with so many slimming centers around.Moreover, aren't u familiar with the phrase "tall,DARK & handsome",dark guys look appealing in many ways.Don't feel guilty about ur looks 'coz they're God gifted,try to accept urself the way u r, u'll feel better.Good luck.
P.S:Keep on with the good work of winning awards.
2007-04-05 04:13:10 · answer #1 · answered by Tulip 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, after winning 4 state awards should u feel like that? appearances matter nothing in life unless u go 4 modelling or acting; being black is not ugly, so nothing to worry about it; in fact more melanin in ur skin makes u resistant to sunlight & some skin diseases. Ur overweight isn't a problem until it crosses the limit 4 ur age; if it's too much 4 ur age & height follow diet control techniques & exercise regularly.
2007-04-01 07:47:24 · answer #2 · answered by $ri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I would question your true belief that you believe that you are beautiful if your are following this statement by calling yourself fat. If by beautiful you mean internally then I could see that but I can see that your self image is bothering you and making you feel inadequate amongst your peers. The awards seem to make you feel as if you accomplished something in your life. Do not use them to brag on yourself for that is the sign of a weak, insecure person but more as to use them as motivation to further your bettering of yourself. I do not understand the guilt of myself. You are young now but do not feel as if your 4 state awards (whatever they are in) will get you through your life. Do not be the man who is 40 and living in his glory days of high school. (Al Bundy Syndrome) If you are overweight and can not change it then you may want to see a psychiatrist. Many humans attempt to fulfill the emotional needs for Love or Companionship through eating and this will have the opposite of the desired effect.
2007-04-04 15:33:23 · answer #3 · answered by chris h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hai you are 17,quite young,enargetic, beautiful and achieved 04 state awards.Fine.You are feeling guilty because of black colour and obessity. Now let us talk about colour,You just think about the colour of "LORD KRISHNA". How many "WIVES" he had? and how many "GOPIKAS" were behind him?.So colour doesn't matter ur life. It is ur soul that matters.About ur FAT: As you are young and only 17 u can reduce ur weight by proper diet control,regular walking,exercises and "YOGA".Don't feel guilty.Cheer up and go ahead. God bless U.
2007-04-05 16:44:40 · answer #4 · answered by Radhakrishna K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Convert it into your strength.
If you find a book" Importance of feeling inferior" you must read it.
Overcome this habit and attitude.
"There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so"
All you have to do is do not resort to doing any harm to others and don't tell lies frequently.
If you have made a mistake here and there, see that these are not repeated. From each mistake learn the lesson and don't repeat it.
Good luck!
2007-04-05 16:56:52 · answer #5 · answered by Ishan26 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't do much about the black. The fat you can lose, even if it takes a year. Then maybe you will believe that you're a worthy, beautiful person. Join Weight Watchers its worth it - AND SO ARE YOU!
2007-04-01 03:34:24 · answer #6 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reduce your excess fat by regularly excercising in the gym and once your have become trim, go to a men's beauty parlour and make your appearance better and appealing by adhering to the prescribed beauty regimen.
2007-04-01 06:31:36 · answer #7 · answered by spiritual healer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what 4 state awards and u r sad plssssssss
u have lots to do in ur life
nowadays people expect bueaty by heart
2007-04-01 03:56:42 · answer #8 · answered by colorfull_spirit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are ram, enlightened (prakash).
if you still feel down, follow this :
take a piece of paper.
write down your strength, weakness, opporunities and threat.
whereever you feel weak, take specific steps to improve and review the position every week.
simultaneously, write the name of well known people who have/ had the same weakness, but achieved great things.
you will feel, you are much better than many people.
2007-04-01 03:47:01 · answer #9 · answered by sarjan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont bother much about your inferior status.(if any).
You may have many minus points, so what.?
As long as you dont hurt or come in the way of others and are not jealous of others, ..dont feel guilty.
Need not be good but never be evil!
2007-04-01 06:22:27 · answer #10 · answered by Maliha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋