I know that the obvious thing is to just clean the place and get over it. Having a clean house is very important to me, possibly too much, in that it's a big issue. Try as I might though, I can't keep the place clean. Things pile up, I don't know where to put them so I ignore them for too long, and no matter how many trips to Ikea I make, it never seems to improve. I'm allergic to dust and even if I take antihistamine, sorting through bags or piles of stuff sets me off. I'm juggling a daughter, a new business, depression (which I'm starting to overcome), and a husband working weird hours and needing food, and the cleaning issue makes me feel worse. My husband is fed up of it (yes, understandably). He's vaguely obsessive about washing, but leaves most of the housework to me, with the exceptions of his clothes and the occasional one hour cleaning spree on his day off. He finds it hard to express affection for me and says the mess is part of the problem. What can I do?
2007-04-01 01:11:51 · 11 answers · asked by Toothyfish 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Remember above all else that housework if done properly can kill you!
Then relax for a moment and prioritise. You don't have to be Wonderwoman.You have a business to run, a husband to contend with and a young child.
GET HELP!
If money is tight think what you can reasonably do without for a bit or change your shopping options- Thrift Shop clothes for kids are great. They grow out of them before they wear them out and toys don't have to be new.
Then put an advert in the newsagent/local paper for someone to come and clean for an hour or so a day.
If you hate housework don't do it.
Love yourself a little more each day and look at your housework helper as a business expense.
Good luck and loads of love.
2007-04-01 01:22:56 · answer #1 · answered by Christine H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tidy house, tidy mind as they say. sounds like the cleaning issue is not the real issue at hand in my opinion. It seems the messyness is a symptom of how your mind works....and you admit you are juggling many things at once PLUS depression which would exasperate the messyness. Sort of like a catch 22. You should perhaps seek out some help - try the person with whom you are talking about your depression with (if they are not a family friend but a paid professional). Thats a nice start cause once you find out where to start, you have a direction in which to move. Good luck this cant be easy but you will get there in time. Keep on the up n up.
2007-04-01 01:20:32 · answer #2 · answered by kelstar 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who do you think you are - super woman?
i think you are being to hard on your self. get that lazy good for nothing husband of yours and tell him he either sorts it out himself or he shuts the f*ck up.
Why can't he help? Is he incapable?
Marriage is a partnership not a dictatorship. So get him kicked into touch girl and stop being a doormat!!
Then your depression will go and your problems will seem soluble!!
Do a duty rota. Make each other responsible for certain jobs around the house, this should help a little!! And go to the tip rather than ikea!!!
Good luck honey - I'm messy too but so what ? I'm happyish!!
2007-04-01 03:38:23 · answer #3 · answered by kiku 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not alone...and it becomes very depressing when the house isnt clean...either cos you dont have time - or cant drum up the energy to do it - only to have it messed up by other people.
i HATE cleaning house with a passion,...so much so - that i pay a nice lady to come once a week...spring clean through...4 and a half hours - and its the best investment i have ever made!! - maybe you could do the same? you sound too busy to bother with housework...treat yourself!!
2007-04-01 02:48:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get a maid. They arent that much and come in like once a week or you can get them to come in ever other day. Whichever works best for you. Just make sure to be in the house when they come.
2007-04-01 01:57:56 · answer #5 · answered by saadutr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with the others on this....get a cleaner in...and the stuff that's piling up....do you use it? if not give it away to a charity shop, or store it in the garage and keep everything to a bare minimum, that was the place is not cluttered and you have less dust at home, also if you keep ornaments, they are known to gather dust, put them away or throw them out.....my nanna always said if you don't use it...trash it....
2007-04-01 01:39:35 · answer #6 · answered by Dazzlebox 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a get cleaning company to come in and sort it all out...get the house up together and then you can start a freash and keep it up together, alittle bit each day
2007-04-01 01:22:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-02-17 20:10:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
does that mean you h8 showers???
BTW you should go and clean a friends house before your own
it sounds weird but you will find it so much easier and it will fill you with confidence
2007-04-01 01:47:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to a therapist.
Seriously.
Then, get a maid.
2007-04-01 01:17:02 · answer #10 · answered by Vanora S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋