It really bothers me when I email my mother in law and she replies to my husband, but she just assumes that I would know everything in his email too.
2007-04-01 00:13:22 · 7 answers · asked by growing inside 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let her knowhow this bothers you and tell her to read who sent it and then reply to just you or if it is his name sighned at the bottom then reply to him. This should clear up and confusion or misunderstanding in this matter. Good luck to you.
2007-04-01 00:49:54 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its very understandable that you feel ignored and non-existent when your mother in-law uses her son as the middle-man for her communications with you.
But, its also possible that she thinks she's doing the right thing ... by not meddling in his marriage. Unfortunately, this sort of triangular style of communicating isn't unusual, and it often has something to do with how women (especially past generation women) perceive themselves as 'under' men's authority.
It may take a while for your mother in-law to understand your feelings; but you need to talk with her woman-to-woman. She needs to know that there is no way to be close to each other without having direct communications; and that you want that. She may also need to come to terms with the reality that there is nothing wrong with it, and may actually help you love her son better.
2007-04-01 03:21:09 · answer #2 · answered by Sultan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is such a bad assumption. In my parents' house that would work- they share an email account. In our house it might work- he's fairl;y good about passing things along, and I am better (I am the communicator of the two of us). I wouldn't even assume about his mom and step-dad- he assumes a certain level of ESP that just does not exist in reality (still and after all proof to the contrary).
YOu have two options- she blithely assumes that her son tells you everything or she doesn't care for you. Talk to her. Then, if that doesn't fix it, have HIM talk to her. If that doesn't fix it, accept things.
2007-04-01 06:02:51 · answer #3 · answered by heathrydge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because married couples should be sharing all family information with one another.
2007-04-01 01:35:05 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what is emailing a couple?
2007-04-01 00:16:48 · answer #5 · answered by Munyet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop emailing her and let her wonder why.
2007-04-01 00:16:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell her!
2007-04-01 00:16:30 · answer #7 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋