my husband never starts handshakes with other girls- it doesn't matter if he knows them or not.i have been keeping this inside but always when my husband and me visit some people which include 3 girls (about my age or younger) but we don't visit for just them.i saw he starts to give his hand to all 3 of them. I saw that before but I didn't like to think there was something wrong. I'm afraid to ask my husband about that because im sure he will deny and say the girls start. I have a feeling my husband likes one of these girls. I'm not comfortable with them when husband is present.we all dont even talk to each other but I have a feeling something is not right (he might have a crush on one of them) I am shy to ask him about why he gives his hand to them bc he will think im jealous-ialways trust my husband/he is with me always so this is hard for me to see.why do i have a feeling he likes them or1 of them? just bc he shakes hands with them. i need advice/anything
2007-04-01 00:01:12 · 4 answers · asked by boop2beep c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I live near Mexico and here people kiss each other on the cheeks so guys take advantage of this so it could be worse but maybe your husband recognizes he has a weird phobia about shaking hands and is trying to deal with this. Also, next time he does this bring up that you noticed he is trying to deal with his phobia about shaking hands with women and that way you bring up the topic without mentioning the ieda or cheating. It might also embarras him if you do this and stop him from shaking thier hands.
Now, here's the truth. He might be crushing on one or all of them but that doesn't mean he will cheat on you. It is only natural for people to wonder what life might be like on the other side of the fence. The point is he is with you and hopefully happy. IF you are worried about him straying then what you are really worried about is your relationship.
Think about the other aspects of your life together. What are you unhappy with that you think he would be so unhappy about that he would cheat on you. Maybe you think about him crushing on someone because you think about your crushing on someone because you are unhappy.
You are his wife and he is with you and you trust him for now so do things to make YOU feel more comfortable in your relationship. Go out more, spice up your sex life, stop spending time with these women... etc.
2007-04-01 00:24:55 · answer #1 · answered by Don Quesadia 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What country are you from. It's not usual Western behaviour and I wouldn't worry too much. However, your culture might not be the same and then you might be picking up things that aren't clear to us.
Make sure you shake their hands too - take your lead from him. If it embarrasses him, he'll stop it.
2007-04-01 07:06:20 · answer #2 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
better his hand than his tounge. take care of him and you wont have to worry
2007-04-01 07:05:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy, are you mesed up!!
2007-04-01 07:05:14 · answer #4 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋