my ex boyfriend of 3 and 1/2 years hit me and pushed me down while i was seven months pregnant...?

Question

me and him have been together for 3 and 1/2 years and it's been a really tough relationship. he has cheated on me twice while we were together and out of my kind heart, i had forgiven him. he had started being abusive towards me and the last time he hit me and pushed me down, i called the police. this was february 8. i pressed charges on him for domestic battery and i was fed up. after that, i started to forgive him, but i never dropped the charges. now we are not together and he is running aroud with other females. i am now 8 and 1/2 months pregnant with my first child and i am alone. after getting in a couple of other altercations, i had checked to see if he had that domestic battery charge on his record. but he doesn't yet. i dont want to be with him no more but just tonight he had a girl call my phone back to back calling me names and telling me that she is with him now and some more. what i am asking is is will he get what he deserves by going to jail or will he get away with this

Answer 1

Although not pregnant but a mother of 3,I have been through this and the kids had to live through it and it has certainly left it's scars.
This guy will probably get probation and may have to attend some kind of anger management classes BUT even if he doesn't,he will get his eventually because this kind of behavior does not go away without work and it doesn't sound like he's wanting to do the work.
He'll keep doing what he is doing and one day,the law will deal with him like they have never dealt with him before or some guy is going to hunt him down for beating his sister etc and whip his lovely &#)%&^% and then there is the wrath of God.
DO NOT go back to him. If you thought things were bad before,they will only get worse and you might not live to tell about it.
Watch what you do about picking the next guy because women like you and me tend to pick the same kind of guys.
Change your number,get it unlisted. Have your baby,put his name on the birth certificate and then file on him for child support.
I would almost bet you won't get the child support because he sounds like a loser so after a few months of not getting child support you can file on him. . . .file on him any time he gets behind on child support or flat out doesn't pay it. . . .even if you can't make his life miserable now you can certainly do it after this baby comes.
After enough times of being filed on for non support,the state will get tired of his behavior and he'll end up in jail for several months if not several years.

Answer 2

Yea you need to stay the hell away from this guy. If he hits you while your pregnant, what will he do to the baby when he or she is born? Will he hit and push the child to?? Men like that dont change and i think you've noticed that. Tell the stupid hoes that call your phone that they can have the piece of ****, after he's done beating them he can move on to the next. You dont need to be stressed out right now, it affects the baby to. Things will be better, after the baby is born you can start over new. Just hang in there.

Answer 3

Make sure those charges are pursued. Add more, like stalking or something--whatever will stick. Talk to the prosecutor. Don't let yourself be alone. Find some group like Birthright or whatever that will help you and your baby. Consider, very seriously, giving your baby up for adoption to some family where it will be safe from this jerk and have a decent chance in life. Then make yourself safe. Find a local women's shelter (do that now, too!). See what they can do to help you LOSE this guy and get yourself a new life. Good luck.

Answer 4

The best thing you can do is get a restraining order. You have a baby to think about and you dont deserve this. Even though restraining orders dont always work it will look bad on his record when he does get what he deserves. As long as you stay on top of the attorneys office he shouldnt get away with this. Hope every thing works out for you and Congrats on the up coming baby :~)

Answer 5

probably not. if it is his first offense. he will get probation and will not be able to come around you,for how ever long the judge decides. just don't take him back it will only get worse. i have been there.we fought so much the cops and judge got tired of seeing us.they just started giving us the same jail time. we both did 60 days,30 days for one,28 for the next,of course i finally left,the point is it only gets worse.once a beater always a beater.stay away!

Answer 6

I didn't even bother to read your whole message. I got as far as ex-boyfriend, hit me and pregnant.

Men who hit will always hit. "See, you drove me to it, *****" Sound familiar? He will never change. And that he hit you while pregnant is disgusting. He NEEDS to go to prison. No forgiving. No hoping. No closing your eyes to the possibility that he'll hit the next woman he's with. Don't stay silent and help him abuse other women.
We women need to hang together or we'll all hang seperately. Do the right thing for yourself, your baby and your fellow woman. Hang tough.

Answer 7

I am so sorry for everything that you are going and have gone through. The thing about your question is...you never know. But, since he was abusive to you, it's probably not his first or last time, and i'm sure that he will get in trouble sometime or another. It's unfortunate that it hasn't already happened, but it will, sometime sweetie! Good luck with everything! Much luvs for you and baby!

Answer 8

It looks like he's going to get away with it, since there are no charges on him. Get a restraining order so the charges will stick. He's going to keep after you to avoid paying child support.

Answer 9

First of all, you are better off without him. Second, get her for harassing communications, have a tape recorder ready the next time she calls & record her, then have her arrested . He may or may not get what he deserves it's all up to the judge & his cell mates.

Answer 10

i am so sorry for u , next time this happens call the police right away. he should be in jail! call americas most dangerous people that will get the case!
nxt time punch `em back! or can him in the nuts
sorry again !
congrads about your baby!