My mother in law loves to be the center of the attn, all she talks about is how everybody envies her and that she feels bad about it, when we go to see her my husband forgets that I am there, I look like a babysitter whenever we are around her, he only pays attn to her he wouldn't even look at me when there is any conversation, they talk about her and people they only know, I don't know how 2 handle it, I want my 2 boys to enjoy ther G-ma but at the same time, but with my boys if they do something wrong she gets mean to them, even when I am around, I feel so left out and that I don't fit in, I already talked to my husband, he doesn't get it, I just want to have a good time when we are together, what should I do?
2007-03-31 16:40:39 · 11 answers · asked by Leci 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Smile and act as if.
2007-03-31 16:43:58 · answer #1 · answered by Jay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in situations like that before. The best way to handle it is lessen your exposure to the unpleasant environment. Visit every other time and let your husband go visit on his own or he can take the kids. Just do what you can to see her less. Tell him he doesn't pay attention to you when you are there and you feel left out. It is no fun for you. Life is short.
2007-03-31 23:48:25 · answer #2 · answered by Rmalko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that is a tough situation. I am married and I have some in laws and your Mother in Law is really mild compared to mine. If your husband is very close to his mother which he appears to be he may not see it at first. His mother appear to be lonely and is Little threaten by how much your husband loves you and this is why she goes out her way to make you feel inferior! She is trying to drive you to the point that you want come and her being mean to your sons will make you like any good mother keep her children home with her before you will let them be with her without your watchful eye. I think since you have spoke to your husband and you seem to be different from me (my children and I stay home and it is all good! but since my husband has notice it he has begun to pull back from his family. So now my in laws are making a attempt to be cordial because they realize that my husband loyalty lied with me.)You need to have a good women to women conversation with your mother in law. She needs to leave the discipline to your children to you and your husband. You should tell her how you feel and you may want to fore warn your husband just in case after your conversation with her she calls him all crying and twisting words!! Good Luck!!!
Wife Power!!!
2007-03-31 23:54:21 · answer #3 · answered by sexychocolatecity21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't do anything with your mother-in-law but you should have a serious conversation with your husband and let him know you expect him to start behaving like a man with a wife who deserves to be treated as such instead of acting like a little boy who is still tied to his mother's apron strings. Loving and respecting his mother is an admirable quality but his behavior when in her presence is simply "unhealthy", especially when they are both also in your presence - and the presence of your very impressionable children.
2007-03-31 23:53:42 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't hear mention of your father in law, so I assume he is not there. She may just be really lonely and want to make herself feel better, so she talks about herself all the time. Sorry you have to deal with this. It is hurting you. You should tell your husband more about how it makes you feel. Don't slam her, but just let him know your hurting. Your boys need their grandmother. So its best to play nice and try to make it work, she is not going anywhere and neither are you:)
2007-03-31 23:54:23 · answer #5 · answered by Denise K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, how often are you guys at her house? If it is not that often, then maybe they need some time to connect. I would just do what I could to be included, like you could say, "Who are you guys talking about?", or "Tell me more about them", or something applying to what they are talking about. I don't know her, but she sounds mean. Just hang in there, and do your best to be included. If she gets mad at your kids, you have to draw the line right there. Let her know that you are in control, and that you can discipline them on your own. Good luck!
2007-03-31 23:48:30 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And yet you married your husband with a mother so damned bad...hmmmmm if you couldn't stand the situation WHY did you marry him? His mother was obviously a part of his life then...just as she is now...
2007-04-01 05:15:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let dad and the boys go. When she questions why you dont go over anymore. Give her your reasons for feeling shut out.
2007-03-31 23:49:52 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Praise her cooking and do the dishes. When you're at home, expect your husband to do the same. Explain it to him, if he doesn't get it.
2007-03-31 23:44:02 · answer #9 · answered by Yesugi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't over-concern yourself with the monster-in-law and just concentrate on your family at hand .
2007-03-31 23:51:35 · answer #10 · answered by steel_n_fire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her she will then look for your attention and as for your kids they will realize things for themselves and will eventually do the same.
2007-03-31 23:54:54 · answer #11 · answered by desiree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋