My kids father has a girlfriend, and she is trying everything she can think of to ruin my life, and I have 3 kids with this man, and he's also in on it with her, and he doesn't even care about what his kids think, my kids get mad at him for that, because they're trying to look out for their mother. She been with him for a couple of years now, and she's trying everything, and her power to ruin my life, I think she is a very jeolous person, I guess everytime she fell at something she wouldn't let it go, she will wait for a little while, and she will try again, what can I do, because I'am tired of her.
2007-03-31 16:08:56 · 17 answers · asked by Snugglebunny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your ex's g/f has self esteem issues and is very insecure, I think she feels threatened by you in some way. Lay down the law! Let her and your ex both know that you and him are the parents not her and she needs to back the F*ck off.
2007-03-31 18:20:28 · answer #1 · answered by I Like Grapes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop giving her the power to affect you. Keep her at a far distance from you. You had a relationship with him--there's no need to interact with her. Call his personal cell to chat about the kids and do not allow her to come between the kids and their father. If he is not interested in being a father, you can't force him. Just live your life in a healthy way for the sake of your kids.
2007-03-31 23:17:15 · answer #2 · answered by bahjij6 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kill her with kindness. I'm not sure what she is doing to try to ruin ur life. Is it her having a thousand kids by him? Don't ever let her see that she is getting to you. Move on and act like you don't care, well you really shouldn't care! Detach yourself from her and that entire situation.
or Plan B
Whoop her A*S*S! Bet she'll leave you alone then!
2007-03-31 23:32:14 · answer #3 · answered by BE HAPPY! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak with your ex- calmly and in private. Emphasize how you want to be civil (polite) and that the happiness of the children should be #1. Mention that adults fighting can really wreck the lives of kids (scarring them for life). Be prepared for him to rush to the defense of his gf. In the meantime, live your own separate life as best as you can, tell your kids that both mom and dad love them (even if they are no longer together) and be very careful when dealing with the gf. Don't be alone with her if possible.
2007-03-31 23:21:05 · answer #4 · answered by Santa C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My ex and his 2nd wife did that to me also. I use to be a very strong willed person. If you hit me , I hit back so on and so forth. My mom is the same way, but one thing she taught me is... they want you to act a fool so they can say ''see everybody, I told you she...''. Unless, they are physically hurting you, I would let it ride, he will get his soon. My ex is on his 3rd marriage and the 2nd wife that use to help him lie on me and try to destroy me to my kids, is now the one with her head hung down when I see her, now he and his 3rd wife is dragging the 2nd wife thru the mud. See I told you '' what goes around, comes back around. Pray and ask God to cover you with his peace and love and most importantly, tell God to forgive both of them. My ex can't even look me in my face, the sound of my voice scares him. Just hold your peace, pray and watch God intervene for you.
2007-03-31 23:44:59 · answer #5 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there. The kids finally just have to forget they ever had a father, that is about the only way to have semi- peace. Best Wishes and Good Luck
2007-03-31 23:20:13 · answer #6 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Confront her and let her know you are not interested in your kids father. And tell her the adult thing to do is for everyone to move on.
2007-03-31 23:12:03 · answer #7 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How is she ruining your life you have not given any examples of what she is doing.Secondly you are in control of your own life people can only treat you the way that you allow them to..
2007-03-31 23:17:57 · answer #8 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Call Nancy Grace.
2007-03-31 23:18:01 · answer #9 · answered by Buckwheat 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't mention what it is she's doing to you that's ruining your life (aside from dating your ex, which is never fun). Can't give a solid answer until you tell what the problem is exactly.
2007-03-31 23:15:12 · answer #10 · answered by Jon S 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋