How do you not let other people's opinions influence you?

Question

My mom suggestin II should no longer talk to a girl I met online because she thinks all people on online communities are crazy, I told her that she is just an easygoing, funny, intelligent girl to talk to and I really would like to develop a long lasting friendship. How do I not let my mom make me feel miserable about my decision to continue to talk to her after all there is no harm in talking to the girl.

For those who may be thinking I am gay I am not, and if I am so what

And for those who has a question about whether or not she really is a girl I have talked to her on the phone and I know well enough to vouch for identity.

Answer 1

No...I don't let them influence me at all...I have to make my own decisions and suffer my own consequences...but I do take them into consideration

Answer 2

LaLaCool: this is a very good question and one that isn't so easy to answer. The only people's opinions which should influence your decisions are those people who love you and that you love. Your mother is in the category. The girl you met on line is a "new friend". Many times in my own life I have had friends who were "wild" or at the very least, on the wild side in their behavior. I had a girlfriend when I lived in Tampa (Florida) who cheated on her husband, would pull her shirt up and show her bare boobs to any guy who wanted to see them and she also did it to women who would be shocked by it. Never, Never in my life would I have acted like Nancy but for some weird reason I wanted to be friends with her. It was as if I was living vicariously through her actions. I am telling you all this because-- you don't have to let your friendship with this girl change you and you don't have to let it upset your mom. Your mom has put a lot of work into raising you to be a good and moral person she is just concerned that you might begin to slide the wrong way if you are friends with people she does not know. The only way to comfort your mother's concerns is to prove to her that you are not weak and that you are not stupid enough to meet this girl alone and then be in some really bad position. If you want to meet the girl face to face ask your mom to go with you the first time. This will accomplish several things One you will be safe, two your mom will feel wanted and needed, three your mom can be reassured that this girl is really ok, and four if thegirl isn't really ok then your mom will be there to protect you. Remember, you may not believe me now, but someday you will want your Mom to be your best friend. Good luck toyou -k-

Answer 3

most of the time, your parents are correct because they have had a lot of experience than you and i had to learn this the hard way. people have a way of trying to find something out for themselves. take part of your mom's advice and maybe just keep the other part in mind. the part you should take seriously should be that you should not take your friend too seriously cause you don't know what she might do all of a sudden that will surprise you. it's very hard to gain trust and very easy to break it. so just let time take care of it. over time, if you and that friend are still talking to each other and you don't feel a boundary between you guys, that might mean it's real friendship.

Answer 4

Other people's opinions can matter. That depends on the issue, what the opinion is, and who gave it. Don't discount the opinion, but consider your own, and whether what your mum has to say is a valid point. But at the end of the day, the decision of how to proceed is yours. Take what your mum has to say into account, but don't feel your opinion or your actions must be the same as hers.

Answer 5

I will always listen to someones opinion, but I will respect my own as well. If you feel alright in what you are doing, no matter what..you have to respect your own opinion.
There are times when we need the opinons of our family and friends...if we keep getting the same opinions from people..it is time to think maybe they are right.
But in this situation this is only 1 opinion even if it is your mom..that does not make her every opinion right. To be a adult one must think for themselves and not be swayed easily.
So I see no harm in a friend you talk to..but you do not need my opinion either...just your own!
Ciao

Answer 6

What the hell does it matter what your Mom thinks? Just becuase someone has an opinion doesn't mean you have to listen to it. As I'm sure you've heard before, opinions are like @ssholes; everyone's got one and they all stink. Forget about it and live youre own life. I'm not sure why it matters to you what your Mom thinks anyway.

IDK why anyone gives a crap what other people think anyway, that's just plain madness. A very common form of madness, but no less mad.

Answer 7

First off you can start by not letting your mom get to you. Also, you shouldn't feel the need to add that you are not gay in your question. It doesn't matter.........this is another way to not let other's opinions bother you. Just don't tell Mom as much and make your own decisions...........good luck

Answer 8

your mom has a point many online people are looney and some can be criminals and etc..But if she is a ok person then you can keep it online , but don't invite her to your house because you never know exactly what you are getting online from a computer screen.Just like in real life outside the house you are selective about whomyou meet in person .Be selective about your information and whom you chat with online.She may be cool , but mom knows best so please listen to your mom.I'd hate to see your mom on Nancy GRace or any other news program looking for you ok.

Answer 9

Maybe your Mom would feel differently, if you both, met your friend. You can't blame your Mom for being protective, in this day and time.
Maybe the two of you could get together this summer....

Answer 10

you should listen to how you feel and if u want to talk to her still then do soo but also try and think about ur mothers opinion shes only looking out for you