I met this man and fell for him and then found out he as a notorious womanizer in the past but now b/c he is older and worried about STD's he has a new strategy. He started dating me and then confessed that he also dates another women regularly. Therefore, I guess his new thing is to have two full time women. After getting attached I found out about her and was hurt but then he convinced me to keep seeing him. Last week I had a tantrum and insisted he dump her or I was gone. He said he would make a decision and get back to me. Everything was fine for a few days and now he is suddently not calling me (It has been three days). Do you think this means he dumped me for the other woman because I told him off and said I would tolerate him seeing us both? He is also divorced and had a bad marriage.
2007-03-31 14:43:58 · 17 answers · asked by lover_girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why do u even worry that he isnt calling u? Hun, u dont need that bull in your life. If he wants several women, and ur ready to settle down, then dont try to settle him down. He isnt what u need in your life. You need to find someone who wants the same thing as u do in life.
Let the player go.
U move on to something better.
Good luck.
2007-03-31 14:49:00 · answer #1 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Run away from this man, stay away. Once a man is considered to be a "notorious" womanizer, he will always be that way. If he was truly worried about stds he would not be a womanizer.
If he is worried about stds that means he has be having condomless and brainless(thinking with the little head instead of the big one) sex on more than one occasion.
If he has been having unprotected sex, and you have had unprotected sex with him, you have had sexual contact with everyone he has had sex with, and everyone they have had sex with....you need to be tested for stds and HIV/Aids yourself.
Divorced and a bad marriage...does this really surprise you? He probably told his former wife he would give up the other woman and/or women and lied so she dumped him.
He will never be true to one woman, if he was going to be he would've stopped acting like a hormonal teenager with no control decades ago.
You need to think more highly of yourself than this womanizing loser.
Have a good night.
2007-03-31 14:56:44 · answer #2 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is practicing classic womanizer psychology on you. He stopped calling so that you'll question yourself. Nuf said.
You're giving all of your personal power over to this guy. It's really hard to get out from under the imprint (like a duck) of a guy like this after he gets under your skin, but believe me, he's not concerned about your feelings (just try asking him about his) and he's pulled the same crap on women for years.
If he's dumped you, it's the best thing for you. Fight the urge to contact him, and resist that little bone he throws you now and then to keep you thinking he cares about you. Google "womanizer" on the web (try clicking around on www.sosuave.com), and you'll recognize his routine. You'll feel like an idiot, but at least you won't be his idiot any more.
...and he should be worried about STD's, and so should you.
2007-04-02 16:56:24 · answer #3 · answered by wizened 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how can you be so stupid to keep seeing him after his self disclosure? wake up and smell the coffee because you are allowing this fool to use you. Take some time from geting involved in romantic relationships to love yourself and to try to figure out why you would tolerate a man to blatantly disrespect you.
---cut off contact with him---change your number or don't pick up when he calls you cause you deserve so much better than that
----don't let a man disrespect you like this idiot is doing to you in the future
*you should have kicked him to the curb as soon as he told you you were one of two women he's seeing
2007-03-31 15:44:00 · answer #4 · answered by Ghanaian Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you giving him a chance because he had a bad marriage before? and than because of the bad marriage...he feels that nothing in this world is worh it anymore...in other words, he's heartbroken.
It might be true that he doesn't want to settle down anymore and wants to run around.
Do you really like him all that much though? First off, I wouldn't want to date a guy if he has another women. Don't you want a guy to love you wholeheartedly? If he really did truly love you, he wouldn't need to think about anything.
2007-03-31 15:01:40 · answer #5 · answered by fishygirl07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look it is obvious he is only using you, i would've dumped him since the moment he told me he was seeing someone else obviously he doesn't care about you and is only interested in the sex, honestly that was a very stupid move from your part... i think that if he isn't calling you is because he left you for the other woman, but you should've known you were gonna end up hurt guys like that aren't worth it specially since he didn't care about you from the beginning...
2007-03-31 14:50:10 · answer #6 · answered by sadgreeneyes3 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He did you a favor. No one should have to share their spouse or bf/gf with anyone. Be glad this has happened. Personally I wouldn't have even given him that ultimatum. I would have dumped him as soon as I found out he had another. What a jerk.
2007-03-31 15:54:22 · answer #7 · answered by sweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. He told her about you, and she offered to pay him to dump you, so he dumped you.
Now, he's looking for another second woman to see if he can get HER to pay him to dump the OTHER other woman . . .
It don't pay to play with a playa. Take it as a compliment that you're outta there, and if he gets dumped by everybody and calls you, don't answer the phone, the door, or your name when he calls it.
2007-03-31 14:49:45 · answer #8 · answered by nora22000 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry you got involved.... and it sounds as if you are becoming "attached" to him.
he doesn't seem to be interested in a serious relationship, and doesn't want pressures.
you don't need a 'bad boy' type do you?
probably need to take care of YOU and move on.... hopefully he will call and ask you out again so you can say NO THANK YOU....
take good care, ok?
2007-03-31 15:00:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be happy he's gone. Why would you share this man with another woman. Don't you have any self-respect. You don't have to put up with this. Believe in yourself. Know that you deserve better.
2007-03-31 14:54:00 · answer #10 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋