Lets see, I guess like talking to them, yet no physical contact. Talking online, phone, etc, but REMEMBER NO PHYSICAL CONTACT. To me it's not cheating because you can talk to anyone and flirts and go home and sleep with your spouse. Is it me or anyone else out there dissagree or agree with me?
2007-03-31 13:46:47 · 26 answers · asked by heavenlyours2000 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its not the fact of who or how many men you talk to, its the intentions behind the chatter. If your intentions are sexual, then while it isnt physically cheating, it kinda means you want someone other than your husband. Although, I guess, you could see it as something more like a fantasy that enhances your sex life with your husband. Like I said, its always the intentions that will determine if you are in cheating mode or not.
2007-03-31 13:53:04 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really don't consider it cheating, but I will say this.....If your saying anything that you wouldn't say right in front of your husband, then he's got a legitimate complaint. I think a little flirting is natural, and it makes you feel good about yourself. But....talking on the phone, on line, and anywhere else about "naughty" type things...even if there is NO physical contact is still wrong. How would you really feel about your husband speaking directly on line or on the phone with another woman? Also, one thing leads to another, and if you found yourself feeling attracted to, dreaming of, or even thinking of an "innocent" meeting with your new friend (and continued flirting will lead to that eventually) your flirting not just with the other guy, but also disaster for your marriage. My best opinion is this.....if you love your husband and value your marriage just stop now, even if you know it wouldn't go anywhere....if for no other reason do it out of respect for your husband, and your relationship. Good Luck!
2007-03-31 14:42:47 · answer #2 · answered by Green eyed girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I just answered a question like this 2 minutes ago. Cheating, actual cheating, isn't just physical. It's a desire to be physical! Or, at the very minimum, trying to entice someone to desire a physical relationship. (flirting) That's why I am one of the only people on the net that thinks married individuals posting nude photos is cheating. I mean other wise what's the interest? Why do it? However, having a chat buddy that is not available, couldn't be. There is no need to flirt, no need to have double meanings, no need to desire sex!
2007-03-31 13:57:08 · answer #3 · answered by delux_version 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Disagree.
If you are completely honest with yourself and your spouse about your feelings or potential feelings, then you may just realize that something is not right about what you are doing. If you are sneaking conversations, calls, or texts then it's cheating. If your spouse is ok then that's between the two of you. But if he doesn't know - then you knwo the answer. Why not just skip the flirting and go home to your guy?
2007-03-31 13:58:37 · answer #4 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's a good test for ya. If you would say the things you do with your spouse right there beside you, then no, it's not cheating.
If he would be upset with what you say online, phone etc. then give it up. It's not worth it.
2007-03-31 13:55:31 · answer #5 · answered by Elt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be cheating even with no physical contact, if the conversations are intimate - not necessarily about sex, but when you are disclosing things about yourself that you would normally talk to your spouse about, or should talk to your spouse about.
2007-03-31 14:52:48 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though there might not be any touching
you are having what is called an affair, and
although you are not cheating you are still not 100
percent for your spouse as part of you is for
someone else, and even though it is talking for the
present no-one really knows what goes on behind
those closed doors, now do we.
2007-03-31 14:15:06 · answer #7 · answered by RudiA 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, i agree with you but my ex wife didnt agree, so technically it is not but if you walk in your hubby's shoes, YES IT IS, sad huh? but it is different kinda cheating people say. So, kinda playing behind ur hubby's back and i am glad i am not him. I wouldnt want it if i empathize him, but for me, i used to talk online to people and didnt think it was cheating. So, it is a cheating for some and not for the others...
2007-03-31 13:53:10 · answer #8 · answered by AllsTar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i extremely do not evaluate it dishonest, yet i am going to assert this.....in the adventure that your declaring some thing that you does no longer say proper in the front of your husband, then he's were given a valid grievance. i imagine a touch flirting is organic, and it makes you sense strong about your self. yet....speaking on the phone, on-line, and everywhere else about "naughty" style issues...even if there is not any actual contact remains incorrect. How ought to you sense about your husband speaking straight away on-line or on the phone with yet another lady? also, one difficulty leads to yet another, and in case you discovered your self feeling attracted to, dreaming of, or perhaps taking into consideration an "risk free" assembly inclusive of your new pal (and persisted flirting will deliver about that ultimately) your flirting no longer merely with the different guy, yet besides disaster on your marriage. My perfect opinion is this.....in case you want your husband and value your marriage merely provide up now, even if you comprehend it does no longer pass everywhere....if for no different reason do it out of respect on your husband, and your courting. strong success!
2016-12-03 02:29:08 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's cheating if you like these people more than a friend even if you have no physical contact.
2007-03-31 13:51:58 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Sodas♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋