2007-03-31 13:05:37 · 31 answers · asked by fit45you 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Because most men are in fact unfaithful and compulsive liars.
2007-03-31 13:07:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋
I have dated more men who do cheat and when they cheat, I call them as they are. I have a man now who is not. He is honest and faithful. The other "boys" I guess were not mature enough to be totally honest and communicate that they wanted to date other women even though we were "dating exclusively".
If they are honest and say they want to date someone else first, then that is fine, if they do it and get caught, then that is when they get called a cheater and get dumped. They cannot have their cake and eat it too.
I am not saying that is what you are doing, that is just my experience. I don't catagorize men either because of my experiences. Honesty and communication go along way in any relationship. Some people, men and women have to have confidence in themselves too. I did date a guy and lived with him who always thought I was cheating and would even pick up the other line to see who it was. I only ever had one person ever call me. He was very jealous, insecure and controlling. That didn't last long. I am sure there are some women that are the same way, very insecure, etc. I am a faithful person and I have NEVER cheated on anyone nor will I ever. I respect everyone and deserve the same respect back.
2007-03-31 20:13:35 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Not all men cheat. Not all women cheat. I suspect there is almost a 50/50 balance of cheaters. The issue is (I think) that women are more verbal (and emotional) creatures while men tend to gloss over more issues of the heart, fearing being berated by others for their "girly" ways.
It's sad really, that as a society, we limit the emotional responses from men and then wonder why the are so homophobic.
I may catch hell for making a blanket stereotypical comment, but there's usually a REASON a stereotype exists.
2007-03-31 21:44:15 · answer #3 · answered by E_Tard 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all women call men liars and cheats - it's usually the ones who have been cheated on or lied to in the past! Or the ones who have seen a lot of that kind of behaviour from men (i.e. their Dad cheated on their Mom, etc).
Women cheat and lie too, and most women are aware that it's not just men who are the bad guys!!
xx Emmie
2007-04-01 19:53:01 · answer #4 · answered by Sparklepop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The girl you are with [or speaking of] is probably speaking out of experience. She doesn't truly think you will lie and cheat, but is afraid that you will. Imagine if most of the girls you date cheat and lie, how would you feel about a faithful, honest girl? You may not suspect her, but at once you feel scared she may end up doing something that will harm you. My best bit of advice is to allow her to trust you, not by telling her but showing to her that you can be trusted. It takes a lot, but it is worth the work if you really love her.
2007-03-31 20:11:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
they either have been in a relationship (or more then one) where they guy cheated on them and haven't gotten over it.
or they have seen someone close to get cheated on and haven't gotten over it.
also the ideal that men are hunters looking for more and more women is common in our society and so a lot of people assume that a guy can't be faithful and most be out looking for their next lay.
Just looked at the people in the thread that are saying all guys cheat.
2007-03-31 20:56:10 · answer #6 · answered by goldenbrowngod 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hate to break this to you, but it goes both ways. A lot of it is personal insecurity. You know the old addage of "Before you accuse me, take a look at yourself." It's an interesting foible with all us humans. It seems to be that we continually make the same complaints about others that we despise in ourselves. And it's not necessarily a sexist issue either.
2007-03-31 20:11:32 · answer #7 · answered by OP 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
They probably don't call all men liars & cheats, you just think they do. Do they have reason to call you a liar & cheat? As long as your conscience is clear then don't let it worry you. Why are you posting this in the lesbian, gay, bisexual & transgendered section though?
2007-04-01 06:57:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
45,
In all fairness, not all women are like that...seems like you've involved yourself with some that were done wrong by some @ssholes, and are still quite bitter about it.
All you can do is stay being a good guy. If she won't drop it, you need to let her know that it's going to push your patience to the point where you'll need to let her go.
2007-03-31 20:11:37 · answer #9 · answered by Wolfsburgh 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe they have been hurt before! us women are a species unto our own and it takes a brave man to crack us!!! if she has been hurt and lied to before then that could be the cause! or if you have a history of playing around (not neccessarily with her) then that could be another cause! Also all us women love a drama and an argument reason being...... making up is sooooooooooo good!!!!!
2007-03-31 20:09:40 · answer #10 · answered by PInky without perky!! 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Actually, you do have a point. I was very young & immature when I got married & I would accuse my husband of cheating until one day he just got sick of it & said if I'm being accused of it why shouldn't I do it. I did stop accusing him but the marriage ended anyway
2007-03-31 20:14:22 · answer #11 · answered by gitsliveon24 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋