In a very controlling and emotionally abusive relationship for 8 yrs now. When I pretend things are ok then he is fine. When I live in reality. We fight constantly. He is also a compulsive cheater. Like he needs to be validated constantly by other guys with sex.
If I leave I leave with nothing. My car is in his name. I don;t work because it just gives him more time to cheat.
Not allowed to have friends. Or go to the beach. Has GPS on my cell phone to track me thru out the day. He doesn't think I know. Calls every 15 mins to see what I am doing.
People start their life over all the time right??
I'm afraid to leave and afraid to go. Will not have a car for while.
Feel so alone down here.
Caged in Ft Lauderdale
2007-03-31 12:44:08 · 9 answers · asked by tropicalfreakfla 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm gonna try my damnest to get a job and act like things are fine. I could have the car pd off in 3 months. I want to move out of this area and back up to Orlando. Have all my friends there. I know a car is just a car, but I have been in this for way too long to leave with nothing.
2007-04-01 16:13:19 · update #1
You could spend another 8 years with him or leave him.
2007-03-31 13:21:16 · answer #1 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, yes, LEAVE. Start over, dude.
But it will be stupid to leave without money at all. You do have a workplace, right? Just move to some other opt. and pay the rent yourself. If the car is the issue, ride the bus for a while until you can afford yourself a new car.
It will be alright.
2007-03-31 19:55:38 · answer #2 · answered by Jack D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out. Get out NOW and take whatever you can with you. There must be someone in your family you can turn to. If not, contact your nearest mental health hotline or gay community centre for a referral to an agency who can help you. In Canada there are places to turn when you're in an abusive relationship and they are not solely for straight women. There must be something similar in Florida.
Get out of there NOW.
2007-03-31 20:36:45 · answer #3 · answered by castle h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first you have to have friends and family and that's where you need to go. The fact that the car is in his name doesn't matter, leave it and regain your life. No one deserves to be with someone who cheats on them and treats them the way he is treating you and the fact that you don't work to keep him from cheating is insane.
You need to regroup and prioritize and make yourself number 1.
2007-03-31 19:51:17 · answer #4 · answered by Broken hearted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sneek some money away and open a bank account. then take all your stuff and sell or pawn it get the cheapest place you can find whatever it is it's better then what your liveing now, get a job right away and save till you can move to a more suitable place and yes start over it IS possible.
2007-03-31 19:52:10 · answer #5 · answered by alexhotpenis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
THAT iS BAD...REAL BAD YOU SHOULD GO STAY WiTH SOME FAMiLY MEMBERS FOR A WHiLE UNTiL YOU FiGURE OUT HOW TO GET YOUR LiFE BACK iN ORDER. YOU DONT DESERVE THAT. YOU DONT DESERVE TO BE TREATED THAT WAY. iT MAKES ME WANT TO CRY THE WAY HE HAS REATED YOU. : ) BUT i KNOW THiNGS WiLL BE BETTER iF YOU LEAVE AND p.s. dont take your cell phone...he'll track you down ...OH YEA i ALMOST FORGOT! SERiOUSLY YOU NEED TO GET A JOB TOO! : ) GOOD LUCK!!
2007-03-31 20:03:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must go. Starting over is scarry but what your going through is even scarrier.Starting over is can be a good thing.We fear change but we must change fear. Time heals is a saying that is really true. Good Luck.
2007-03-31 19:54:19 · answer #7 · answered by garstar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave and start over...you can disappear...what's a car anyway..just $$....your life is worth way more...take his cell phone ...leave yours for him.
2007-04-01 00:34:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want my advice... I'd kill him. I really would.
But if you can't bring yourself to commit murder, then you go ahead and leave and start over, because no one should have to live like that. That's terrible.
2007-03-31 19:52:57 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋