My husband I separated and I really don't want to be married to him any more. We have been having a hard time with our daughter and we have been focusing on her. He has been living apart from us, but he comes over nearly every day to see her. She is going through a difficult time with everything and with school.
My husband and I have lost our common ground and have drifted apart from an affair. Neither one of us has talked about divorce recently. In the past, one of us has wanted to stay married, so neither of us would sign the papers. Now, I don't know why we are stalling.
2007-03-31 12:43:21 · 13 answers · asked by blue eyes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are stalling because you might feel that your daughter doesn't need one more thing to deal with, you might be stalling because you do feel something for each other and it might come out if things were calmer. A man who would come over every day out of concern for a child is a worthwhile man. You have common ground, you have a child in difficulty. See each other away from the home, like in a coffee shop to discuss the child, see if you can build on that, it does sound like its worth trying, remember most men take off at the first hint of difficulty, hes sticking.
2007-03-31 12:50:39 · answer #1 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are stalling because there is doubt. Maybe you two are working together better now, maybe you are even beginning to see some of the qualities that got you two together in the first place. I am the victim of an affair, and affairs can be overcome.
2007-03-31 19:49:42 · answer #2 · answered by Paul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you both don't want to admit the truth, that it's time to get a divorce and move on. Right now it's not really a reality to you but once you get a divorce, that's it. I think you guys are scared. But I feel once you get it over with that you will see it's not as bad as you thought and you'll feel a lot better.
2007-03-31 19:49:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me that your daughter is common ground. If you really wanted to be divorced there would be no stalling. so why don't you try counseling to help sort through the confusion? what ever you do I wish you the best with it.
2007-03-31 19:55:25 · answer #4 · answered by wondering_lefty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both of you are stalling, I think both of you don't want a divorce. If he comes by almost everyday and you 2 aren't at each other's throats then maybe it's worth another try.
2007-03-31 19:47:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're both afraid to make it final. You both need to face the fact that it was over as soon as the affair happened. Let it go and move on. Your daughter needs both of you and you shouldn't let her keep hoping that maybe you'll get back together.
2007-03-31 19:48:19 · answer #6 · answered by mamabear 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's so tough. I think my husband cheated on me. I never got over that and wish I could just leave him. To make this work will take some strong shoulders. Personally I wish I never gave mine the second chance.
2007-03-31 19:47:53 · answer #7 · answered by sweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question should not be Why? It's because he wants his cake and your letting him eat it too..... Don't think for one min,he still Care's the only thing he wants is to have the best of both worlds..Don't give it to him,or you'll be a fool all over again....
2007-03-31 19:56:12 · answer #8 · answered by BOBBIE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All right, get a lawyer. If this is what you really want.The child is the one that is important, He needs a time when he can comeover and a 24 hour notice.
2007-03-31 19:56:41 · answer #9 · answered by mybudnoobs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the rush? Why add more stress to your child's life right now by divorcing? Wait until your child is stable before destroying her life any further.
2007-03-31 19:49:57 · answer #10 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋