it was my husbands decision but now he also decided he wants a divorce but is going me to different signals. He wants to life a married and single life and i can't do it. We have a son together and its time to grow up. He realizes he needs to grow up but doesnt want to. I don't know whether to punch him or laugh at him!!
2007-03-31 12:17:28 · 18 answers · asked by Jenn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sign the papers and move on. Your husband is very immature and he will realize, probably too late, what a wonderful wife he had...
2007-03-31 12:19:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how long you've been married, your ages, or the age of your son, but I have a nephew who is acting in the same way. Married a beautiful wife, they have a son who is a growing up with his mother, father seeing him with choice (I believe), and now the niece-in-law is filing for divorce because the nephew is acting like your husband.
As I feel about the nephew, "kick his *ss!" But that doesn't mean anything. He's got his own brain, feelings, and life. So, give him the divorce. Show him you're a stronger person than he believes, a better person in the future, and that son of his has a better life also...after he (your husband) grows up, too.
2007-03-31 19:28:07 · answer #2 · answered by AlbeFree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a relationship with someone that does not feel the same way or have the same goals is an impossible situation. It is impossible to make someone feel something they do not feel for themselves. You have been raising your son and it sounds like you have been the only responsible parent in your house. You husband has two choices and he can make changes and stay or you need to send him away. You do not need a player as a husband. Marriage takes two adults. Give him a limited amount of time to decide if he is going to accept his responsibilties and stick to the plan you make. Do not allow him to hurt you more. You and your son deserve a man, not a boy in your house.
2007-03-31 19:26:42 · answer #3 · answered by justclicktherubyslippers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm always a woman who champions marriage and say work out your problems. i think nowadays people don't take marriage as seriously as our ancestors did and are too quickly ready to call it quits. but if he decided to leave and he asked for a divorce then it pretty much means he either has moved on already to someone else or he's just not mature enough to handle the responsibility of marriage or that he doesn't want to hurt you by cheating so he chose to end the marriage first. if that's the case the have some respect for him. unfortunately people do fall out of love sometimes. it happens and maybe it's not easy to hear it but it's true. sometimes we as women are so focoused on our careers and children that we forget a/b our men. stop and take this opportunity to re-evaluate just how much time you spend in the home and see if what i'm saying is true. and most definitely learn from this experience in what not to do in your next relationship. it's easy to move on. trust me a man will not ever leave his home unless he truly wants to. the fact that he left at all has given his answer. just try to be the best parents together that you can be and be happy that you parted as friends and not enemies or that he didn't cheat. i'm just assuming that b/c you didn't mention it. but if he did then remember you're better off w/o him. best wishes on your new life.
2007-03-31 19:32:18 · answer #4 · answered by freedom fighter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-31 19:19:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Laugh. Let him live his own life and don't try to spare him the agony and consequences of what he is going through. He does need to grow up, and life is the best teacher for that. Thankfully, you seem like a very strong woman...your son will need that...good luck and take care.
2007-03-31 19:24:21 · answer #6 · answered by Paul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Laugh! And don't give it up to him. He can't have it both ways.
I divorced my husband two years ago. We have a son together, too, and we're still friends. He takes advantage of the situation to sweet talk me, but it doesn't get him anywhere. They just can't let go sometimes!
2007-03-31 19:21:32 · answer #7 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a child together, do all that you can to make the marriage work. Maybe a change of attitude would help you deal with things better, or maybe counselling might help.
2007-03-31 22:12:28 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants his cake and eat it too. Give him a time frame to make his mind up what he wants. Don't live in limbo waiting until he makes his mind up. He will one day have to grow up and by the time he does it just might be to late to save his family.
2007-03-31 19:21:05 · answer #9 · answered by Krinta 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a immature wuss.
I'd say punch him and laugh as you walk away.
2007-03-31 19:20:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋