I'm pregnant...I'm only 14?

Question

I've been with my boyfriend for 8mnths n havin sex for 4mnths...we usually use a condom...vut a couple of times we haven't been...i've missed my period and i've been eating more and being sick...i have took a test and it was positive but i dunno where 2 go from here!! how do i tell my parents? what do i do? Please help!!

Me and my boyfriend are still together and he's 16...If i'm pregnant i'm 2 mnths along

Answer 1

Be straightforward with them. The sooner the better. You don't wanna hide something like this for too long otherwise things would get worse. Also have you bf tell his parents asap so that they can all get together and discuss your options.

Answer 2

I totally disagree with the first post as the question of a teenager having a baby is not an opportunity to preach religious belief - everyone is entitled to their own religious beliefs and there are more pressing and urgent issues in this case. Firstly, find out if you are pregnant - do a test after you missed a period (they can be a bit unreliable beforehand). Even if it comes back negative do one again a few weeks later just to be sure. If you are not pregnant, think very hard about your contraception options so you don't find yourself in a difficult situation again in the future. If you are pregnant, there are lots of things you will need to be thinking about. Abortion is one option and you should be aware that an early termination is less complicated (medically and psychologically) than a delayed one - most countries have limits on the number of weeks you can be pregnant and still have an abortion. You can get counseling to discuss your options and certainly should do this. Few people can contemplate parenthood at 14 without a lot of support - if you don't get along with your family then find someone else to talk to - a doctor, a school counselors, a teacher. You are not the first 14 year old to get into this situation and you will not be the last - you just have to take a deep breath, take the test and then make your decision after getting some objective advice.

OK Hun, the first thing you need to do is tell your mum. It is important that you get all the support you can, especially that of your parents. If you are scared to tell your mum alone, maybe you can tell a schoolteacher and they can bring your mum to the school and tell her together.

You cannot try to deal with this on your own. Does your ex know about this?

You can go to the local family planning clinic and get a free pregnancy test, or you can buy one from a chemist.

Best of luck Hun, keep us informed.

but i think you need to go the Dr and talk to them and ask what you should do if your going to keep it but i would not kill the baby course you do you will be able to have a baby you kill the baby i did pregnant

Answer 3

First of all, go to a local heath centre and ask for a nurse, or heath visitor. She will help put you in the right direction. there are organisations who can help.

Are you ready to look after a baby? It will be hard, but being a mum is going to be hard for a teen or a twentysomething. It is also the best thing in the world, rewarded with love between you and baby.

Dont let anyone tell you to get an abortion.

If you think abortion is best for you at this time, then that is a descision you have to make yourself. Dont let anyone knock you for it. maybe you are not ready and that is fair enough too.

likewise, Dont be forced into pregnancy if you really cant take it on.

DO NOT BE FORCED INTO ANYTHING. IF THE DESCISION IS NOT ENTIRELY YOURS YOU WILL REGRET IT FOREVER.

Good luck, I really do wish the best for you and I am sorry about the bad advice youve received on here,dont take it to heart.

Answer 4

I cannot imagine how you must feel about this. But how you feel IS important, as your decision will affect you the rest of your life. You know your options: Adoption: Raising the baby: Abortion.
I am not going to mention the boyfriend , as this is not his decision.(In fact, when you tell your parents, it might be best if he is not there.)
Do you have a family member like an aunt, uncle, Grandma , family friend or someone close to your parents age that you like and can tell about this? I hope so. Tell them what is going on and ask them if they could be there when you tell your parents. That person will help by being there when your parents freak out and ask you seemingly stupid questions-"How could this happen? Didn't you know better? You are ONLY 14! What were you thinking?" etc.
PLEASE try to stay in school, and know that other teens have gone through this and still have a great life.
I wish you the best.

Answer 5

People are such a$$es these days. First off, tune out all of the negative comments and such, they're no help. Next, the easiest way to tell your parents would be to just come right out and say it. You really do need to tell them so that they can get you the prenatal care that both you and your baby need. The sooner you tell, the sooner you can get healthcare and make sure that both you and your baby are ok and are getting what you need. Does your boyfriend know? You will need all the support you can get. Especially at your young age...whatever you do, try to stay positive...and stay in school. It'll be challenging, but it's not impossible. My older sister had her first child at 14...She continued school and graduated on time with the rest of her peers. But when you decide to tell, make sure you let it be known that you need support through this rather than people being upset and angry. Good luck!

Answer 6

First of all, if you think your mature enough to have sex than you need to be mature enough to tell your parents your pregnant. If you don't miscarry, realize your life will never be the same from this moment on. Wave goodbye to your youth! (Which you did when you started having sex!) Secondly, realize that you may be raising that baby alone because chances are you won't stay with your boyfriend and it is not your parents job to raise your baby! You need to take responsibility for your actions. Thirdly, having an abortion is taking the easy way out and murder. Do the right thing.

Answer 7

You made the adult decision to have sex and you must go through this in a responsible way. You can wait until you are showing to tell your parents if you are scared and I recommend having the baby and considering adoption. Starting from the time you get pregnant you are a mother and having an abortion does not erase the fact that you are a mother and you have God's creation living inside you. Don't let anyone force you into having an abortion. Stop having sex before marriage and take care of the situation at hand

Answer 8

For the person who recommended an abortion, do not heed that person's advice- yes you are too young to raise a child, however you are not too young to carry one to term and place for adoption. Tell you mom and dad though, they love you and can support you- besides the abortion taking the life of a child, it is harmful to you in many ways- physical and emotional. Do not for you own sake do that to your body. If you are 2 months along your baby already has a beating heart- at 3 weeks after conception- brain waves are forming. Everything is there that will be at birth except smaller. You had sex at 14 which is far too young as well, but you felt you were old enough for that so be responsible. I will be praying for you that you make a good choice.= remember one thing though- a baby, conceived at any age, is a gift, not a choice.

Answer 9

Well I'm 16 and pregnant, and I'm keeping my baby, i figure i need to face my own consequences for my actions and not take the easy way out and abort it, but it is your choice, I'm not saying people who get abortions are murders, because alot of people that are "pro-life" don't realize that forcing a 14 year old to have a baby most likely won't be a good life for the baby, but you will need to tell your parents

What i did was told my boyfriends parents first and sat down and talked with them (which trust me your boyfriends parents should be nicer about it then your parents) and then we told my parents to come over to their house so we can all have a chat. and so basically his parents told my parents for me. I didn't get yelled at but i sure as hell did get lectured.

Since you're even younger then I am you most likely won't want to keep a baby, but abortion does cost money but you can go to the planned parenthood and if you aren't too far along.. i think less then 6 weeks you can take the morning after pill and it will end the pregnancy and it will be like a heavy painful period and you might feel sick for a few days.

if you are further then 6 weeks and less then 14 weeks you can have a surgical abortion but these cost hundreds of dollars and you will probably need to tell your parents to get help paying for it.

if you are against abortion then maybe think about adoption or keep it but you will need ALOT of help and keep in mind that babies grow up into children and they will be a part of your life forever. so its a big change.

I'm telling you almost exactly what was told to me at the planned parent hood.

Answer 10

Look up the number for you local Planned Parenthood office and get an appointment. They can confirm your pregnancy and tell you how far you are along if you are indeed pregnant. They will also counsel you on your pregnancy options. You really should speak to your parents, you could use their support at this time, but once you know your options you may wish to proceed on your own. Counselors can help guide you.

Answer 11

Well, is not time to be saying that you should use a condom!! So, congratulations first and mmm get ready for the bumpy road, cause is hard, I'm 23 years old and I got pregnant when I was 21 and eventhough I was an adult it was hardo for me to tell my parents, and I had to do it over phone, because I studied in another country.. Well, be honest, first consult with your boyfriend and both go to youre parents and tell them. You have to talk to them and say that you will be responsible, and will finish school, will get a job if you have to, that this is not going to ruin your future, demonstrate to them that you are capable of dealing with the situation, and figure out what you are going to do with your boyfriend, get more serious or stay the same. Good Luck!! and take care of yourself and your baby....