Is it just me or have the court's became rediculous with Child Support.?

Question

My husband pay's Child Support and has since his daughter was a baby. The Mother moved away about 2000 mile's and never let's the father see his daughter. Outside of that she is alway's bad talking about him to his daughter and the first one born he thought was his but turned out not to be his. Ok she cheated and lied. He still took care of both. Now last Summer she was supposed to send his child and offered to pay her trip and said we didn't have to pay for the Summer she would be here. At the last minute when my husband called her to tell her he had contacted to court's she got furious at him for not trusting her. She then expected us to pay her and the traveling at the last min. Of course we lost in court, as a father alway's does. He told the mom to keep her child home and keep her money. She made her child think it was him and blamed him, and I think that is wrong. Any opinion's. I'm fed up with this greed woman and the court's. Child has not seen her dad in 8 years

Answer 1

To be completely honest the Mother of the child is at fault. A proper agreement does not get changed last minute. However she managed to get the child in the first place is a complete fallacy.

My suggestion is to start keeping active records of these incidents. Next time you decide to go to court, then you have at least some tangible proof of the issue, rather than just a bunch of hearsay.

However, I have to agree, what she is doing is wrong. And it sounds more like the mother merely has the child because she wants the Father's money.

Answer 2

I am the other woman. Ill tell you my story to maybe give you an idea of what shes feeling. My son is my very heart and soul and I wont lose him to anyone. Your story may be completely different but try not too think shes just out to get you. There is more going on in everyone elses life then youll ever know.

I got pregnant with my son right after graduation, but the father took off and wanted nothing to do with him. Now my son is 3 and after almost 4 years of knowing of him he never contacted us and never wanted anything to do with him. I get child support and in my opinion my son deserves whatever his donor as I call him has too pay. If he had cared in the beginning I would have let him see his son and kept in touch. Now I have a family. A husband and children. My son has a wonderful father and doesnt need someone who cant make up his mind whether he wants to be a father or not. My ex wants to try for custody now. And there is no way I will ever let him have my son. Ive suggested visitations but here not in another state. Supervised as my ex was a drunk.

Answer 3

Here’s a way to prevent all this mess…be selective about who you chose to have children with. Only have kids with decent, mature, responsible people.

But once you have kids, don’t moan because society expects you to support them.

“He told the mom to keep her child home”
So he got pissed at Mom and made the child suffer as a result. That says A LOT. Put any spin you want on the story, the bottom line is money and his anger at Mom was more important to him than seeing the child.

“Of course we lost in court”
Yes, of course you did. Mom didn’t deny him visitation. He TOLD her to “keep the child home”. And all this after Mom initially offered to pay for the trip (which she didn’t have to do unless a judge had ordered it, BUT if he had taken her to court when she moved and requested that she be ordered to pay *all* the travel expenses on the basis that she created the distance, then a judge might have done that, but I’m assuming Dad didn’t do that). And Mom offered to suspend child support while the child was with Dad (which a judge would have never ordered, because that child still needs a home to return to when the visit is over).

Answer 4

NO its not rediculous, since according to the census bur, 106 BILLION dollars are owed in child support.

but what your talking about is visitation, and both issues are separate in court, for each is NOT conditional.

i'm so tired of hearing that 'fathers in court' crap.

there are no "fathers rights" in child support
there are no "mothers rights" in child support
there are ONLY the childs rights.

every state is different (slightly) with the guidelines of child support as well as visitation. since we were not at the court hearing, and dont know exactly what laws there are in both states, and the details of both sides, its a bias comment.

most states require the parent making the most money to foot the bill of travel expenses (usually men make more money then women).. and it would have been reversed if SHE had the larger salary.

yes, it sounds like his ex is an idiot.... but there are idiots of both sexs, i can assure you. yes, what she is doing is wrong (sounds like a real gem of a catch)... but she wont change, so you need to take the high road.

request webcams to chat with her online, call more, write letters and just pay for a plane ticket once a year. do what it takes.

CHILD SUPPORT CALCULATOR
http://www.alllaw.com/calculators/childsupport/

YOUR STATES CS POLICY
http://childsupportcenter.org/stateprofiles.php

Answer 5

Did your husband consent to her moving out of state with the child...in some states unless abuse can be proven, then the person with the child(ren) cannot move out of state without the other parents consent.. if that is the case in your state and she did this, then he could petition the courts for custody..

Answer 6

Remember that there is two sides to every story. I know that you want to support him but no one knows exactly what went on in their relationship but them. I would think that if he really wanted to see his daughter NO ONE could stop him, I know I would move heaven and hell to see my kid. As far as child support goes, that is what happens when you marry someone who has a child. Stay out of it and let your husband be a man and handle his business.

Answer 7

Sounds like your husband needs to fork up more money and get a better lawyer or take a trip to see his daughter.

Answer 8

visitation can be enforced. perhaps u can travel to where the child lives, rent a motel/hotel room nearby, and do activities with her during the day. it would be like a vacation and reunion all at once.

Answer 9

sorry, need better lawyer!