how can I know for sure if he is cheating???

Question

I am 6 months pregnant and me and my boyfriend have been together one year and we are very very much In love!!! and once before I found out he was talkin to some girl he never met from like 5 states away and sayin he was single I seen a pic of her and she was very very unattractive...I dont know wat he gets out of talking to these girls from so far away...when he knows he will never meet them I dont know wat they could be giving him that im not...I asked him and he swears he isnt talking to the grls anymore and he said he realizes its time to grow up and be a man (he is 18) and I want to belive him so bad but I am soo scared of getting hurt and I am always paranoid cause i know he is a good liar...I dont know how I can know for sure because I live with my mom right now and he lives with his and we are 5 miles apart and I cant think of a way to know if he is still talking to these grls or not....help

and also we are saving up to get an apt. together and he has gotten 2 jobs since finding out I was preg and he has asked me to live with him until we get the money saved up and I refused because of his mother smoking in the house

and also we are saving up to get an apt. together and he has gotten 2 jobs since finding out I was preg and he has asked me to live with him until we get the money saved up and I refused because of his mother smoking in the house

and also we are saving up to get an apt. together and he has gotten 2 jobs since finding out I was preg and he has asked me to live with him until we get the money saved up and I refused because of his mother smoking in the house

and also we are saving up to get an apt. together and he has gotten 2 jobs since finding out I was preg and he has asked me to live with him until we get the money saved up and I refused because of his mother smoking in the house

Answer 1

If you find out now you will hurt more. Why don't you leave this issue alone at least until you can find some time to be with him alone. When you feel he is ready to open up talk to him. In the meantime don't have unprotected sex with him until you know for sure. This will be a hard subject for him to talk about so make sure the timing is right. It is hard to raise a child by yourself and a baby needs both parents. He may already be sorry if he is cheating on you, but he may also continue to cheat if the subject is not addressed. Maybe he has an ego issue of some kind. There is one thing I am sure of. This is not fair to you! Please don't allow him to treat you this way, if what you are suspecting is true. He will not stop if you let him do this to you.
Sounds like this is totally inocent conversation with these girls. He is probably just young, facing the responsibility of a baby soon and apartment. The fact that he is working and has two jobs is good. This sounds like he is really trying hard to please you.

Answer 2

He poses as a single guy online and he is, in your own words, "a good liar". You are also pregnant with his child yet he has made no move for you to move into his home or for you two to get a place together.

He may not be cheating but he definitely isn't committed to the relationship. I think you need to think about leaving him. But if you do, make sure you have an airtight child support/visitation schedule in place.

Answer 3

18 ???? you dont have a man.. you have a big child.. but
if he gets some work, that's a good sign..

maybe you would feel better living together.. mom can smoke outside.. or at least in one room..

understand 18 year old boys still have no idea about being in a serious commitment.. some boys never grow up..

give him a fair amount of forgiveness and leeway here..
talking isn't sex.. sex isn't a relationship..

and make sure you stay the most interesting one.. if you freak out too much, he might run away...

Answer 4

The easy answer to this question is that you can't be sure, period. You're awfully young to be in the position you're in, and he is too. Don't be surprised if he cuts and runs...whether it's soon or later on down the road.
He will most likely get to the point where he feels trapped and want out of the relationship...do not be surprised if this happens.
If he's cheating...dump him like the loser that he is. Take him to court and get child support...

And don't fall prey to idiots and their fool's charm again until you're much older.

Answer 5

Do u have his password to that site?
well, if you do u could sign on as him and see what these girls are saying.
If you classify it as cheating then it is!

Answer 6

If he smells like tuna.....he's cheating.