How can you get someone out of your mind you want to forget about?

Question

Especially, when this person has let you down and hurt your feelings time and time again.

Answer 1

One technique is with visualization. You can imagine in your mind’s eye that you are both standing on a beautiful beach. There is rope of light tied around the waist of the other person and it connects to you, also tied around your waist. Imagine that you untie the rope of light from your waist as the other person gets on board a boat. The rope goes into the water as the other person floats away. You can repeat this visualization as many times as you need to until it works.

Letting someone go is easier to do if you can release them with a blessing. That doesn’t mean you have to like them or even forgive them. Usually when someone is hurtful, it’s because they are in pain. A blessing means that you wish them well. They don’t have to hear the blessing; you can just do this in your own heart. (Something like, “I bless you that you should heal and be whole” is good.)

Sometimes having an “affirmation”—a sentence that you can say to yourself for strength is good too. Like: I release you and let you go so we can both move on to something better.

It’s also helpful if you can acknowledge the things you learned about yourself—the gifts that the relationship brought. Maybe you learned how to set better boundaries, maybe you learned to laugh a bit more, or maybe you learned you need to trust your own instincts better. Being kind and tender with yourself in this process is really important too.

Be willing to be amazed at the new and beautiful people who come into your life.
Good luck! (And many blessings! :-))

Answer 2

Note: This method will cause no trauma to you or your mind as the suggestions above this will.

This is called the box method. It was created by psychologists and psychotherapists for this very reason.

These are the steps:

1 Imagine building a box in your mind, as strong or as weak as you would like with as many locks and safeguards as you wish. The box can be made out of anything (preferably not clear).

2 Place the thought that you would no longer wish to remember inside.

3 Close the door to the box in your mind and lock any locks that you put on it.

4 IMMEDIATELY replace it with a positive or happy thought.

Just like anything, this will take practice to do well. If you begin to think that thought again, simply do the process over again. Because you want to forget a person, it is likely that you will need to repeat this many times with many memories of that person. If the reason that you want to forget them is in any way negative, I recommend talking to someone about it because you can create internal trauma that can lead to depression and such if you don't.

If you have any problems with this method, feel free to message me.

Answer 3

Find a different perspective on the situation. Speaking from personal experience, you really don't forget someone for doing you wrong. However, there is growth to be found in changing the way you look at the experience. If you look at it as tragic, negative, harmful, etc then you always will feel vindictive about it.

However, if you look at it as "what did I learn from this experience?" or "how did ever even meeting this person and the experiences involved help me grow to the place I am now?", then it becomes a positive learning experience.
When you change the way you look at things... the things you look at change.

Growth does not come from negativity. The situation is past, give yourself credit for finally getting out of it and turn your focus to your own growth. Often times our greatest teachers are those who seemed most detrimental to us.

Answer 4

If you want to forget fast you should put a rubber band on your wrist. Every time you think about that person snap the rubber band. Don't be too hard on yourself, or get carried away. It does help to find people and things to keep yourself busy. Perhaps learn a new skill or read a book. Spend time with friends that you trust. Go some place new that you never shared with that person. Remember each time you think about the person, snap the rubber band.....worked for me.

Answer 5

Think Hobbies. Often cleaning, shopping, and pychical activities help. If you have some songs that you san really get yourself into, that would be a good way to go as well. Some people(like myself) hate cleaning but when you are actively focused on something or someone else it is so much easier to forget them.

Answer 6

Remember when you think of that person that they betrayed and hurt you, more than once it seems. Immediately train your thoughts to slide off into something or someone else every single time the betrayer's name enters your thoughts. It just takes practice and getting involved in something you like.

Answer 7

The best remedie to move on is to find another special person that reminds you nothing of the previous one. And if you are not ready for another relationship, Make your mind busy. If your mind is to busy to think, you can't think of that person.

Answer 8

I loved a boy for 3 years...than I tried to do something to forget him...but it didn't work...than I started to ask him questions and i realised that he's a lieing asshole and I didn't love him anymore, because I was dissapointed

Answer 9

Ever time you think of him/her pinch yourself. It will remind you of the pain that person caused you!