well my bf wants 2 have sex without a condom and i'm not sure why he does'nt
want a condom but i relly do cause i dont wanna get pragnet right now
Give me advice plz
2007-03-31 06:05:03 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Just say NO. No Condom = No Sex
2007-03-31 06:21:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Its all about communication. How long have you and your bf been going out for and how is the communication between you two ? I'm in a similar situaion with my bf. We both want to have sex without a condom, though we are both fully aware of the consequences and until now have used condoms without question, no matter how much we would have loved to feel skin to skin contact.
The only cicumstance that you can or should be having sex without a condom is if you both know that neither of you have no infections or STI's and that you're on some other form of contraceptive other than the condom. Regardless of anything, you should ALWAYS get sexual health check ups every few months to make sure that you haven't picked up anything.
He might say he has nothing, but don't take his word for it. If he has nothing to hide, he shouldnt have a problem getting tests done. Go with him, let him come with you for yours. Do it all together. Its all extra re assurance, and its very good to have company as you can be in the waiting room for a few hours! Once both of you know that you're both clean and you're on a very affective form of contraception, then there's no reason why you can't have sex without a condom if you feel comfortable that that is what you want to do.
BUT TALK! it always helps :)
2007-04-03 11:02:41 · answer #2 · answered by Lynda N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a few reasons why guys dont like wearing condoms during sex, not all of them are good reasons, and NONE of them is a good reason for you to do something you dont want to do, but if you were curious...
You have to know your guy tho, sometimes guys will claim....'its the closeness' and so on, emotionally speaking ya know, but what I believe to be more of the reason why he doesnt want to wear one, and why most dont...is because it feels better. Guys are all about the feeling, and granted...it does feel better to have sex with out a condom, it doesnt make it safe or even worth it to explore.
The advice I would give is to really talk about your partner about WHY he doesnt want to wear a condom, have him explain it to you, and then explain to him why you want to. Ask him about what would happen if you became pregnant...ask him about STDs (mention you both, so he doesnt feel like you're saying he has one) and if you're comfortable with it, maybe other forms of birth control, to satisfy you both. I dont completely know your situation, so I dont know if that is even an option, but you must know, there are many options. :) I hope this helps.
2007-03-31 13:24:21 · answer #3 · answered by Kat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you have the right thought in mind. You dont want to get pregnant but that's really the least of your worries. There are many std's floating around some of them incurable like AIDS, Herpes, VD. Look at your options. Continue to use the condoms and be worry free. OR don't use them and open yourself up to a lot of unnecessary headaches.
2007-03-31 13:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by hunney_21 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that u are not willing to risk having sex with him without a condom because u dont want to get prego. if he really cares about u he will be okay with that and he will wear a condom
2007-03-31 19:18:16 · answer #5 · answered by I love you 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ever hear of the word NO. YOU have a choice as to what goes on with YOUR body. if you don't want sex without a condom don't have sex without a condom.
2007-03-31 15:52:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound young, and you definitely don't need a baby or a disease at such a young age. If he isn't mature enough to realize that unprotected sex causes those things, or respectfulenough to realize that you don't want them, then he doesn't deserve to have sex with you. Plain and simple. Tell him condoms are cheaper than babies...and a lot more fun than poopy diapers.
2007-03-31 13:23:29 · answer #7 · answered by grayhare 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is an easy one to answer. No condom, no sex-unless you are ready to accept the consequences if you get pregnant, or contract a STD.
2007-03-31 14:23:53 · answer #8 · answered by Lori C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a lack of respect to me. Why? Because it "feels better"? Yeah, but it is all about you because you are the one who will need to deal with the consequences regardless of whether he sticks around or not.
Respect yourself and insist on a condom.
2007-03-31 13:50:05 · answer #9 · answered by CG 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No glove, no love. Yeah it feels better, but unless both of you for ready for that kind of commitment, then don't do it. Not to mention, how many trusting and faithful women have gotten STDs from their man? And trust me, my 4.5 year old daughter is proof that the pull-out method isn't nearly as effective as we could hope.
I reitterate...
No glove, no love. Plain and simple. If he can't handle that, you need yaself a new boyfriend.
2007-03-31 13:22:32 · answer #10 · answered by MamiZorro2 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋