A few questions actually. Was it your choice not to find out? Or did the baby just not cooperate? What was it like when the doctor said "it's a boy/girl". If you could do it over, would you have found out? How did you prepare all of the baby stuff?
2007-03-31 05:33:40 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
We have not found out with any of our babies (we've had three so far) because we never want to do any testing that isn't absolutely medically necessary.
Yes - there are some risks associated with ultrasound.
http://www.mothering.com/articles/pregnancy_birth/birth_preparation/ultrasound-risks.html
Plus, everybody loves surprises so much! It's so much fun to call on delivery day and announce to everybody whether it's a boy. It's sort of anti-climactic when everyone already knows. All they ask is "what did you name him/her?"
It really gives the mom an extra thing to work for as she's getting through contractions and pushing. You're wondering "is it a boy or girl?" and "I can't wait to find out!" So it gives you an added goal.
We prepared by buying lots of white, yellow and green stuff. It's not a big bummer like people think. Newborns don't need fancy clothes or outfits anyway. White onesies are all my babies wore in their first weeks. You've got LOTS of time to buy blue or pink stuff after they are born.
Plus, there is nothing more frustrating than to be told you are having a boy or girl and the ultrasound is wrong (it's happened several times to my friends and family). What new mom has time to return all that stuff at the store? And what if you went ahead and painted the nursery?
Here's another plus with not knowing. No matter what the sex of your next child is, you will have newborn stuff they can use. Imagine if ALL your baby gear was frilly pink girl stuff and then you had a boy. Think of the money you'd have to spend "re-buying" baby stuff.
There are very few true surprises in life. I would suggest you keep this one and let God have His little secret!
Bless you.
2007-03-31 05:42:25 · answer #1 · answered by Veritas 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
With my first we didn't find out intentionally. Throughout my pregnancy I always referred to the baby as a boy, I was sure it was a boy. So when the doctor said girl I made her repeat it. I think I may have been a little disappointed for the briefest moment but it was a wonderful surprise. Regarding the stuff, we did the nursery in Winnie the Pooh and bought only a few items of cloths, all gender neutral.
2007-03-31 06:44:38 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We wanted to be surprised. I just felt it was more "fun" that way. I did not care either way, so I wanted to have that little surprise at the end of the delivery.
My mom, another nurse, and my Midwife delivered my baby. It was my mom who said "ooh, it's a little girl!" and I said "Really!?" because I was sure I was having a boy. I had all the "boy" signs. Round belly, all out front. things like that. But I was THRILLED because I dreamed of having my little princess. I just wanted a boy for my husband's sake. But deep down I think he wanted a girl because he works long hours and he wanted me to have my princess too.
Nope......if I could do it over, I would have still been surprised. I loved now knowing!
Easy......Winnie the pooh playpen and swing. A unisex carseat. and lots of yellow. I did not buy many clothes. Just the bare basics........and when she was born the pink came pouring in! Friends, family, everyone bought pink stuff. so I sold the unisex stuff on Ebay and bough more pink with it. we only bought 0-3 and some 3-9 before she came. and bottles were Evenflo Classic, which are clear. It was not hard to stay gender neutral. even her nursery is still very basic. I am waiting til she is a bit bigger to do her room. I want her to have some say in it. so for now we still have the unisex crib set and matching stuff with that. but she is only 1. we have time.
hope this helped....
2007-03-31 12:57:37 · answer #3 · answered by ShellyLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine waited to find out and it was a nightmare to buy her a baby gift. Its really tough to find neutral clothes etc. these days because most people are choosing to find out the sex.
As far as an ultra-sound being dangerous goes, so is crossing the street. You see my point....The average ob-gyn will order a minimum of two in an average pregnancy. And if you have complications (like I did) you'll lose count of how many you have.
However, the decision the find out the sex of your baby is a very personal choice. You should give it some serious reflection and do what you feel is right for you.
2007-03-31 06:19:53 · answer #4 · answered by Nice try 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was my choice not to find out with all 3 of my children, I wanted to be surprised. And their sex didn't matter just so they was healthy, The joy and tears of finally seeing them meant more then their sex. I would do it all over again, Baby items are easy just stick with neutral colors, I know of several friends who was told boy and had a girl or the other way around, so staying with neutrals is the best way to go till you are holding your new baby. If you'd like to have that special outfit to take them home in buy on for each sex, wash them up and no matter what you have you'll be ready for the big day!!
2007-03-31 06:01:15 · answer #5 · answered by charmedones32007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was our choice not to find out, and it was the right one for us. Baby stuff was pretty easy to prepare - we stuck to oak furniture and a lot of white, yellow and green accessories! When the baby was born, I specifically asked the doctor and nurse not to announce the gender - I wanted to hear it from my husband instead. As soon as the baby was born, my husband said "well, hello there Michael" and that is how I found out. We would definitely make the same choice again.
2007-03-31 05:44:02 · answer #6 · answered by Ana A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We chose not to find out. And the moment after delivery when we did find out was really special! I can remember the moment perfectly with both my children. If we had another child, I think I would like to wait to find out again. As far as baby stuff, I just got neutral colors. There is lots of cute baby stuff in yellows and greens. The first few weeks you'll probably keep the baby in nightgowns and sleepers anyway. And after the baby is born, family and friends will buy cute clothes for whatever gender the baby is.
Funny story-- When the baby first comes out of you, his/her genitals will be swollen and red because of your hormones in his/her body. When my daughter was born, and I had a c-section so my head was behind the curtain, the doc held her up for my husband to see and said "What is it, Daddy?" Well, because her genitals were so swollen, she looked a little weird, and my husband did kind of a "well...uh...hmmm...it's a...uh..." As I started to panic, I finally hear someone say "It's a girl!" and my husband's like "uh...yeah..it's a girl!" The doc laughed and said that, yeah, she's a little swollen, it's normal, and we relaxed and enjoyed welcoming our sweet little daughter. Definitely a moment to remember!
2007-03-31 05:53:57 · answer #7 · answered by April 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother and sister in laws baby wouldn't cooperate. So when I through the baby shower alot of people bought netural colors. Some people bought for a boy and some bought a girl. So my brother and his wife had to wait until the baby was born to exchange the clothes they didn't need.
2007-03-31 12:28:08 · answer #8 · answered by crevels23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't answer any of the other questions but the one about preparing the baby stuff, I knew someone who didn't find out the gender of her baby until it was born and she just bought gender-neutral colors so it didn't matter :)
2007-03-31 05:37:38 · answer #9 · answered by Bex123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a sonogram at 5 months...i didnt want to find out the sex of the baby but at the sonogram my husband (now divorced!) asked the sonographer and he said he was 90% sure it was a boy....
i choose just to not believe the sonographer and wished the rest of the pregnancy that it was a girl (a sister for my three old daughter ) well, that baby was born at home...my midwife said nothing, passed the baby to me wrapped up and i unwrapped to check if it was a boy or a girl....and i saw that he was a boy and wrapped him up again...and about 5 minutes later, forgot...and unwrapped him and checked him again....LOL in that minute, when you have pushed this little bundle out of your body, and are holding he/she/it for the first time...you just DONT CARE what gender the baby is!
2007-03-31 07:24:09 · answer #10 · answered by motherhendoulas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋