Can you tell when your partner is lying?

Question

If yes how is it you can tell

Answer 1

it took me 20 yrs...

but it's almost 2 now that I don't have to deal with it anymore...lol

towards the end I use to say I could only trust him as far as long as I could see him..., then it got to be I couldn't trust even if he was in view...lol

life is good ...should get better with each passing day....

Answer 2

Yes!! I can tell when he is lying, but unforunately, not always WHY he is lying and what he is covering up. He just sends off a guilty vibe! My EX-partner, actually!

Answer 3

I've studied human body language for many many years. There are so many classic psychological signs you give off without even knowing it when you're trying to hide the fact you're lying. It's easy to tell. I've taught them to my girlfriend and she can spot them to. That's why we're always honest with each other.

Answer 4

Yes, he doesn't look me in the eye. He could never lie to me looking in my eyes. So he looks down as he talks. This is one of the ways.

He is shy. He usually is very outgoing and talks a lot. When he says something quietly or looks like he is really not enjoying what he is saying, i know he is lying.

Sometimes he is shy, but others he laughs in a playful kind of way. When he is lying about something his mouth is trying so hard not to burst out laughing. He has a gleam in his eyes and he laughs when he talks.

This is how i know he is lying. He usually is lying about something trivial when he is laughing, but when he is lying about something serious he gets quiet and shy. He usually doesn't lie though....

Body language is really important! You can tell really easily people's moods by their body.

I found this on a website, it is pretty interesting:

How To Spot a Liar:

1. No eye contact. His eyes will look away. If the room has a means of egress - that's where they'll look.
2. Crossing of arms and/or legs (a protective instinct).
3. The pupils of the eyes will narrow. Lying is stressful.
4. Hands on the face, especially the mouth. They are "covering" the lie.
5. Talking fast. A liar wants to get it over with.
6. Sometimes the head will nod a "no" when answering a "yes" question or visa versa. This is a subconcious movement.
7. Mispronouncing the words or mumbling. A liar kinda thinks he is not lying when he pronounces words incorrectly or mumbles.
8. Overstated friendliness/laughing. He wants you to believe and he wants you to like him so you will believe him.

This is a really good website i found on lying:

How to Detect Lies
Become a Lie Detector
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Introduction to Detecting Lies:
The following techniques to telling if someone is lying are often used by police, and security experts. This knowledge is also useful for managers, employers, and for anyone to use in everyday situations where telling the truth from a lie can help prevent you from being a victim of fraud/scams and other deceptions.

Warning: Sometimes Ignorance is bliss; after gaining this knowledge, you may be hurt when it is obvious that someone is lying to you.



Signs of Deception:
Body Language of Lies:
• Physical expression will be limited and stiff, with few arm and hand movements. Hand, arm and leg movement are toward their own body the liar takes up less space.

• A person who is lying to you will avoid making eye contact.

• Hands touching their face, throat & mouth. Touching or scratching the nose or behind their ear. Not likely to touch his chest/heart with an open hand.

Emotional Gestures & Contradiction
• Timing and duration of emotional gestures and emotions are off a normal pace. The display of emotion is delayed, stays longer it would naturally, then stops suddenly.

• Timing is off between emotions gestures/expressions and words. Example: Someone says "I love it!" when receiving a gift, and then smile after making that statement, rather then at the same time the statement is made.

• Gestures/expressions don’t match the verbal statement, such as frowning when saying “I love you.”

• Expressions are limited to mouth movements when someone is faking emotions (like happy, surprised, sad, awe, )instead of the whole face. For example; when someone smiles naturally their whole face is involved: jaw/cheek movement, eyes and forehead push down, etc.

Interactions and Reactions
• A guilty person gets defensive. An innocent person will often go on the offensive.

• A liar is uncomfortable facing his questioner/accuser and may turn his head or body away.

• A liar might unconsciously place objects (book, coffee cup, etc.) between themselves and you.

Related Books:


Never be Lied to Again



Body Language
Verbal Context and Content
• A liar will use your words to make answer a question. When asked, “Did you eat the last cookie?” The liar answers, “No, I did not eat the last cookie.”

•A statement with a contraction is more likely to be truthful: “ I didn't do it” instead of “I did not do it”

• Liars sometimes avoid "lying" by not making direct statements. They imply answers instead of denying something directly.

• The guilty person may speak more than natural, adding unnecessary details to convince you... they are not comfortable with silence or pauses in the conversation.

• A liar may leave out pronouns and speak in a monotonous tone. When a truthful statement is made the pronoun is emphasized as much or more than the rest of the words in a statement.

• Words may be garbled and spoken softly, and syntax and grammar may be off. In other
words, his sentences will likely be muddled rather than emphasized.

Other signs of a lie:
• If you believe someone is lying, then change subject of a conversation quickly, a liar follows along willingly and becomes more relaxed. The guilty wants the subject changed; an innocent person may be confused by the sudden change in topics and will want to back to the previous subject.

• Using humor or sarcasm to avoid a subject.

Final Notes:
Obviously, just because someone exhibits one or more of these signs does not make them a liar. The above behaviors should be compared to a persons base (normal) behavior whenever possible.

Answer 5

Sometimes he can't look me in the eyes and sometimes if it's not a big lie he tends to hold back a laugh. For the most part he doesnt' lie.

Answer 6

when their lips are moving and words are coming out.

seriously,check out the book "never be lied to again" i read it from a criminal justice class,and it gives all the tell tale signs,and lots of info on how to read body language etc.very helpful and interesting.

Answer 7

yes i can definitely tell. because if they cannot look you in the eye and tell you something or if they just don't wanna be around you anymore.

Answer 8

Yes. I can tell because it's obvious. But I'm psychic, so it's easy for me.

Answer 9

I can tell she's lying because she's way shorter than when she's standing up.

Answer 10

yes i can...i can tell by his eyes...when he is lying he cannot make eye contact with me