what are the hardships of teenaged parenting
2007-03-31 04:59:41 · 20 answers · asked by Dee 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Life as you know it will be over, carefree living, spending time with friends, struggle with schooling or may never achieve any of your goals, If you want to travel and see the world, for get about it, you will be a full time parent and the child would have to come first. If you think that sleeping is overrated then you would know how precious it really is when that baby comes. The money that you earn, that you used to spend on the latest fashions and what you used to hang out with your friends will all now be spent on the child, because when it comes to being a parent the child needs always come first. And being a teen parent you are not earning enough money anyway to even be able afford to take care of yourself, let alone pay for the rent every month, pay all of your household bills, buy food, buy diapers, baby needs clothing every single month because a baby grows very fast, buy clothing for your self, if you have a car pay the car note and insurance every month, and if either you or your baby get sick, the hospital bills are ridiculous, and you are going to have to work so what about daycare, who's going to take care of your child, and daycare where I live cost about $200 to $300 every week, that might be your whole pay check. And are you really emotionally stable to raise a child? If you think that your parents are going to be there to help you raise your child, think again, and who's the say that the father will be around to support you financially, and emoitionally or to just be there for you period, all and all you would be alone, you would be the parent 95% of the time while boyfriend gets to do what ever he wants to do, you may not finish school, he will, you might not get that career you always dreamed about, he will, he would be able to travel, hang out with friends, date other people, sleep when he want to sleep, go when he want to go, do what ever he want to do, YOU WON'T! Your life would be over. And what's sad is that many young men think that all they have to do is pay child support or just send some money to the mother and don't have to or they don't spend quality time with the child. The relationship between you and the father will be terrible and tragic for the child, and if you think that you and him will be together forever you are dreaming. Your relationship will end and you two will be bitter towards each other forever, endless fights, resentment, not to mention that it could end up with paying for lawyers in a nasty child custody court battle especially if the father is in a better situation then you. Your life will be a nightmare. If you are thinking about becoming a teenage parent, don't. Live your life to the fullest, accomplish what you want in life, get married, and then have children. You have a lot of time to even think about having children.
2007-03-31 05:39:17 · answer #1 · answered by attheendofmyrope 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
parenting is difficult period. Not so many years ago teenage parents were the norm not the exception. It depends on if you have a good support system. your parents, grandparents etc. and if the father is supportive and responsible. Just be sure you understand that the child is the number one focus and try your best to enjoy the time you spend with them because those years will go a lot faster than you think.
Also don't put aside your own goals completely you will have to make some adjustments but it is important for your child to see you having an active full life -- you are modeling life for them.
2007-03-31 07:03:52 · answer #2 · answered by slinda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's difficult being a teenage mom. The hardships are that you can't go out like you use to bcuz you have the baby. Now it'll be different if your parents and the daddy is there for you because you'll hae people to back you up. But it's very hard because you'll have to care for the baby and buy the baby fooo, clothes, toys and things like that kids are very expensive now. I have 4 kids 2 sets of twins. I was pregnant when I was 19 but i got married that following year when I was 20. So it wasn't that hard for me bcuz I had people to help me. So If I were you I would think real hard about this but if your already pregnant then there's really nothing you can do about it well there is but you should hold on. Now if I could go back to all my mistakes and fix them I would but I can't I just moved that's the whole point of the life is to move on even if you do have a baby. If i could go back to when I was 19 I would and not get pregnant I would. Bcuz I was planning on getting pregnant when I was 24 but it seems like these things were meant to happen. Now I'm 30 and I just had my set of twins they are 1 month now. It's very hard bcuz I want to do things now but my husband is at work and when he does get here we never have time for each otther bcuz we have 4 kids running around. But it's not like I can't handle them but your too young sweetie a baby your not ready for. But my thing is that my mother takes them and Me and my husband have time to things we want to do but mom isn't always go be there or dad.
2007-03-31 05:20:21 · answer #3 · answered by cutie313 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The hardest part for me was losing all my friends. Not 'cause they were nasty or anything, just because our lives were so different. They'd call and say, "Hey, we're all hanging at Julie's house tonight", and I'd have to say, "Sorry, I can't come, the baby gets ear infections around all that smoking." or "Hey, there's a concert tonight and I have an extra ticket, want to come?" "No, I can't - if I had known two weeks ago, I could have found someone to watch the baby!" Plus, sooner or later, they get really tired of hearing about baby poop (and that's all that's on your mind as a new mom) and you have been so busy you don't know about the newest music and the latest fashions that they're interested in.
Also, I got really fat and I've never been able to get the weight off. That makes future dating a pain in the ass, let me tell you!
So yeah, it's hard for a lot of reasons, even more than the obvious ones like making school really hard, or finding a boyfriend or husband when you're a single mom.
2007-03-31 05:10:08 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
merely because you've a touch one at domicile does no longer mean you won't be able to quantity to some thing. you are able to stay out your objectives. If some thing being a teenage mom makes you strengthen up swifter and comprehend what you want in existence and also you ought to have a destiny so that you provides on your newborn! Teenage moms ought to no longer be looked down on. in spite of this i do not realize why little ones are dad and mom to larger then one newborn? does no longer you already comprehend how difficult it really is with one and verify you do not have anymore until eventually eventually you comprehend you're financially and emotionally strong and think ofyou've got complete college and were given a job??? i don't comprehend?!
2016-12-03 02:02:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby is a wonderful experience. But it changes your life forever, in good ways, but also in very difficult ways. In order to be a good mom, you have to be willing to sacrifice so much... and it's a very difficult transition at first, even for a mature adult. For a teenager, I'm sure it would be incredibly hard. Going from having time to do what you want on your own, to hang out with friends as much as you want, sleeping as late as you want, primping and caring for yourself...to not having hardly any time to yourself, not having time to hang out with friends and needing a babysitter when you do have the time and energy to do so, having your sleep interrupted continuously and don't even think about sleeping in for the next 5-6 years! And as far as having time/money/energy to primp and care for yourself - have you seen that commercial about how a certain (large) percentage of moms admit to "letting themselves go"? There's a reason for that!
Now I wouldn't give up my children and being a mother for anything, and I would gladly do it all again - even being fully aware of all the sacrifice and difficulty involved. But I was 28 when I had my first child... I was ready. And I'm sure there could be a few teenagers out there who have the maturity to handle it. Just the fact that you would ask this question, rather than assuming with a teenage know-it-all attitude that you can handle it, shows that you have a higher level of maturity. But you need to think long and hard before you consider being a parent - because that little life is in your hands....forever.
I just want to add-- if you are already pregnant, and you decide this isn't for you right now, I am not at all suggesting abortion. There are so many couples out there whose hearts are breaking because they want a child and their bodies won't cooperate. It's possible that the most unselfish, mature decision you could make is to decide you're not ready to be a mom and make the choice to make another couple's dream come true.
2007-03-31 05:25:45 · answer #6 · answered by April 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your life isn't over. It's just going to be very different. I had my first child when I was 16. We've been fine. It was a little lonely at first, but I switched my mind set from being an out of control kid to a mom. I've thoroughly enjoyed raising my son & think I did a pretty good job. He's 23 now, happy, smart, incredibly funny.
The hard ships for me were minimal, I'm not sure if I am the norm or not. I was lucky enough to have good family support. I lost my desire to go out & hang out...I pretty much just wanted to hang around my son & be a mom. Money is an issue of course.......schooling...You need that if you're ever going to make any money. My son grew up without his dad & is okay about that. Of course, he didn't have a mom who walked around villanizing his dad.....that probably helped a lot.
I think the biggest issue is the school/money thing. It was very difficult for me to go to school....mainly because i hated leaving my son with anyone. I ended up starting my own business....& run my own now....a different one, but mine nonetheless...
Anyway.........this is a sucky answer but.....there ya go :)
2007-03-31 05:31:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well for one thing, think about how you will feel when all of your friends are going to a party, a dance, or just to hang-out at the mall, and you can't. Think about how many teenage boys will want to be involved with someone with very little time or energy to devote to him, because of her baby. Think about not being able to provide a nice home, clothes, an education, vacations, or good food for your baby because you have very little education. Think about dealing with a fussy baby - walking and rocking a crying baby all night and all alone. Think about dealing with any illnesses this baby may get and having to deal with THAT alone also. Face it, honey- there is NO upside to being a teenage mother.
2007-03-31 05:58:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Parenting or being a mom is never 'easy' at any age...ask your own mom, grandma, auntie, etc...
Being a teen mom ... well, there's other things you should be doing as a teen - going to school/college, dating, goofing off ... things like that. It's not that the responsibilities are any different, it's probably more that there's other things you'd rather be doing, that's what makes it more difficult.
2007-03-31 05:06:27 · answer #9 · answered by NEWTOME 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
your childhood is pretty much over. Make the choice of getting a parent to help raise the baby.
2007-03-31 05:42:05 · answer #10 · answered by Kat 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋