Im scared about having my baby. She is due in June and I watch the shows on birth and now Im really nervous. T

Answer 1

When I was pregnant I watched that Time Life movie that documented conception to live birth. When it came to the last part I decided not to watch because it made me scared. I advise that you not watch those shows anymore. Now I love to watch "A Baby Story" on TLC, but back then childbirth shows just caused me unnecessary anxiety. Everyone is different and your childbirth experience will be unique and special. Mine went without a hitch and after beind admitted to the hospital my son was born three hours later, so in the end all that worrying would have been for nothing. Just focus on taking care of yourself the best you can, physically and emotionally. Listen to your doctor, take your vitamins, get plenty of sleep, and don't forget to work on your emotional health too. Get the book "What to Expect When You're Expecting."

I only have one last piece of advice for you: Epidural!
Congratulations and good luck!

Answer 2

Most of the shows show the most extreme births or most dangerous births they can get. Really only 2% of women have trouble having the baby. But don't worry, the hospitals are trained in many things to do if anything goes wrong and what they can do to help the mother and baby survive. That it the reason they work so hard, to keep both alive and well, and they will be there for you the whole time even if your family has to leave for some odd reason.

Answer 3

It is really scary, but please don't listen to all the horror stories you hear. I'm sure some people want to make out that they had a worse time than anyone else. When you go into labour then try and keep active. That will help to move things along. The worst bit is transition when your just about to push, and it is does make you feel a bit out of control, but it's only a small bit of labour and once you start pushing then your body takes over. I've had 5 children and every one I've had completely different experiences during the birth.When you're doing it yourself then you just kind of go into a world of your own. I was with my sister when she had her baby and she had a really easy birth but I found it quite hard seeing her in such pain. She said afterwards it was great and she enjoyed it! It is painful but usually your body helps you to cope and make it seem not so bad. I hope you are able to relax a bit and not let your fear ruin the last bit of your pregnancy. In a few months you'll have your story to tell and be able to help other mums to be! Good luck and congratulations when the big day, and don't worry I'm sure you'll be fine.

Answer 4

Stop watching that stuff!

Remember, they tend to show the more dramatic stories, 'cause that makes better television. I'm constantly shocked at how many of those women have c-sections or other interventions most of us don't need, and how few of them even try to breastfeed. That's not how it really is.

Think about it this way - does the show COPS show how most of us interact with police officers? NO - most of us barely talk to them at all, maybe once in a while for a traffic stop. They show the crazies, the druggies, the really dramatic chases and the stupid people. Childbirth shows select their stories just like that - not the most common experience, but the one that makes for better television.

What you should do is find a childbirth class in your area. Your doctor should know of some, or call your hospital for a list. You should take a tour of the hospital you'll deliver at to meet some of the nurses and see the equipment (call them and they'll set it up.) You can talk to the actual nurses there and get an idea of what your experience is probably going to be like. These are ways to get a more realistic idea of how most people's childbirth goes. I think you'll find this kind of information reassuring, not scary.

Answer 5

I was scared to death when I had both of my children. Mainly, I was scared of the pain. I don't deal well with any pain. I tried to wheel and deal with my doctor to schedule a c-section, and she would laugh and tell me not to worry. Then the day came! Girl, be sure to get an epidural! I didn't feel a thing with my first child. I remember after having him, I kept saying over and over in astonishment - "I just had a baby! I did it! I can't believe I did it!" LOL! We moved to a different state when I was pregnant with my second child. Again, I was scared to death. I got my epidural, but I could still feel the pain. I insisted they pull it out and reinsert it because I had had one before and knew that I didn't have to feel any of it. They sedated me, so I was asleep between contractions, but finally a couple of hours before I had him, they reinserted the epidural. I delivered a 10 lb 5 oz boy and didn't feel a thing. So, I agree with everyone else, stop watching those shows, and if pain is your concern, keep asking for the epidural early!!! It really can be a piece of cake, and that is from one of the biggest scaredy cats out there!

Answer 6

Remember that TV is geared towards entertainment and so they are going to air the most dramatic births out there to keep people glued to the tube. Who wants to watch a lot of women calmly and quietly delivering their babies?

Yes, birth is painful but every time you think of this....please remember the MILLIONS of women who have had babies every year for THOUSANDS of years.

In this day and age it's never been more safe to have a baby. Be glad you and your baby have access to good care. Get as educated as you can.

I highly recommended "The Birth Book" by Dr. Sears. It's full of firsthand stories from women and births of all different kinds as well as pictures and helpful tips. It will help you to be postive and focused.

A pregnancy class is useful but remember that every birth is different and so you need approach delivery with an open mind and be willing to have a "backup plan."

Best of luck to you. You can do this and it's going to be awesome!

Answer 7

I totally know where you're coming from. I'm pregnant with my first and she's due May 22nd. I'm excited, but scared. The thing that has helped me the most is attending childbirth classes. To me the more educated I am about the whole process, the less scary it will be. Don't get me wrong I'm terrified especially since I've decided to try to do it natural, but think of it this way. For many many years women have been doing it and just know that your body is made for it and it will all be worth it once we meet are little angels. Congratulations on your pregnancy, good luck to you and God bless.

Answer 8

I used to watch those shows all the time and i used to be scared off my mind about giving birth. And when my due date started getting closer i was even more nervous but anxious and then when it really started to get closeer i just wanted the baby out. I just wanted to hold my baby that i forgot about how much it was going to hurt, i forgot about everything and thought about holding my baby in my hands for the first time. When i was in labor it hurt im not going to lie but i forgot about the pain and pushed my baby through. When your due date gets closer trust me you will forget about all the problems and think about your little angel.

Answer 9

please dont be all nervous because more than 3 quarters of the woman population has had birth or going to. If i was in your shoes then i would be very nervous and probably crying but you just think after your birth that you have a lovely child and really it only takes 20 seconds tops to get it out. please tell me what it is called

Answer 10

i've just had my third child and it was a different experiance every time ,don't let people scare you cause its different every time try not to let it put you off this is the easy bit its bringing a child up thats the hardest part so just enjoy what time you got left goodluck