My husband's ex wife is taking him to the cleaners. HELP?

Question

My husband's ex wife had an affair years ago with the neighbor which ended up in a divorce. Since the divorce my husband has paid faithfully on his childsupport. Not only does he pay his childsupport but he also pays for all the medical bills and 1/2 of the school supplies and clothes. He's doing so much more than most would in this situation. He picks his kids up every single day off since I've known him. He by far is not a dead beat father. He truly cares for his children. This ex wife of his is on her 3rd marriage now. She married a very wealthy man that has trained her to develop very expensive taste. Because she is in debt due to her huge purchases she now wants to take my husband back for more child support. Keep in mind she lives in a $350,000 home with inground pool and expensive furnishings. We live in a $82,000 home with the bare essentials. She is taking complete advantage of him to pay off debts that have nothing to do with her kids. What do you make of this?

Between her and her new husband they have 9 children. All 9 kids went on a cruise out to Mexico last year. Just heard she would like to purchase a new convertable. Does it seem fair to have to rob my husband of his last few pennies to keep this life style up for her. Where do you draw the line. Her kids are doing well and you could even say they are spoiled in some areas.

Furthermore, she decided to put BOTH daughters in braces at the same time knowing he would pay. She could have done one at a time. I really feel she is out to ruin him financially. Someone please give some good advice here.

Answer 1

Child support will make the determination whether to increase the monthly support. If your husband has gotten a raise in the last 3 years or you two have a child now that also will be a deciding factor. He does not have to pay all the medical bills, they should be 50/50 after what the insurance doesn't pay. It doesn't have anything to do with her new husband's wealth, only what earned income she has, so whether she lived in a dump or a hugh home plays no factor in it. He is only to support his children and not her. Every 3 years she or your husband can have child support to review the case for a change. Good luck

Answer 2

It's funny I just wrote in about the same kinda situation. There really isn't much you can do. Try court's but that doesn't work well for the poor fella's out there. I know it seem's very unfair the dad's and their new families live in poverty while the mother's live like queen's. There is a lot of greedy mother's who live off their children. The court's will only say it is for the children and the father will loose no how.

My x-s wife called us and said she wanted to send our daughter for the Summer. She said she will pay traveling and while she was here we did'nt have to pay CS. When the Summer finally came and we called her to tell her we had contacted the court's about the arrangment's they both made she got furious.She said my husband should have trusted her. Then she said if we want to see her we can pay for everything and the child support to. Because of what we pay her we live on a limited budget. (as you seem to know) so we couldn't bring our daughter here. We simply couldn't afford it. We tried the court's but they decided we would pay the child support anyway and we never even had a day in court to explain. They just decided and sent us a note. On top of that we are both working and now would need a babysitter for the Summer. We called a lawyer and he said it was to late the judge had already decided and we would loose, so hiring him would be a waste of our money.

There seem's to be no justice for the party without the child. And let it turn around and see if the mother would have to pay. Hell no. At one point our daughter had asked to move with us and the mother said well let him take me to court he won't get much. And ya know what she's right we would get it stuck right up our A@@. And the mother's know it. All the sudden she had no job and no income.

My husband is by no way a dead beat dad but he get's treated like one anyway's. She moved away and called him from the airport to tell him. That was like maybe 7 year's ago, so he hasn't really seen his daughter. The mom bad talks about him to his daughter and that is unfair, but what can we do. We try not to cause waves cause we know we will loose.

In my situation we have not been able to do anything about it. My husband's x-wife was using the money for drug's but we couldn't do anything about that either. The court's only tell you the child still need's the money. They take vacation's every year and or several time's a year. We can't. They all have computer's and laptop's for everyone. We only have one it took me a year to pay off.

My husband's x-wife is also on her third marriage and has three kid's with three different dad's. All you can do is let them pay for their action's on judgement day. You seem to be a really caring person and your husband seem's to be a good man. Be there for each other, cause that is probable all you can do.

The bottom line is she is a greedy b*#*@ and you can't do nothing about it. Support your husband the best you can and stand by his side.

If you go into court's make sure you have a lawyer and be sure you won't loose more.

Good Luck and God Speed to ya.

Answer 3

The courts can not make him pay more money if he can prove to the courts that he only has so much money. They will not allow her to "ruin" him. Your husband needs to seek an attorney. The fact that she is married to a wealthy man may work against her in court. Again, talk to a lawyer.