Why would he wait this long??to leave??

Question

My husband and i have been married three and half years.Hubby and i had problems we were trying to start a family for two years because hubby had always wanted a son.I am 24 and he is 32 the age difference caused him to treat me as a child on more than one occasion causing fights.Hubby works in Insurance and travels a lot he cheated on me with someone at work.This caused a seperation he went to london for 2 months for work.I was sad and lonley made a bad choice slept with an ex.bf who called to wish me a happy b-day.He got me pregnant . I told my hubby everything before he came home and he said he wanted to still give our marriage another shot.He was supportive and we started attending therapy i thought we were making progress.I came home a week ago to an almost bare apartment and hubby wont answer cell phone?Credit cards were canceled and joint account emptied. He left without a word?

I am 38 weeks pregnant why would he wait this long?

Answer 1

I am amazed sometimes by how men or women can't be honest with the other. He should have let you know what his intentions were. You told him everything and he make the choice to try and work it out, so when he knew he couldn't he should have been man enough to tell you. I would get a lawyer and get this man out of my life. If any of the money in the bank was yours it might be hard to get any of it back since it was a joint account. I would not bother calling this jerk anymore either, let the lawyer handle everything for you.

Answer 2

I hope you have some family members who will help you until you can get on your feet. Your husband obviously decided to end the marriage. You need to go see a lawyer. Anything yall bought while married is legally 50% yours also. As for your child, have you told the Father of child you are pregnant? Well you need to because he is now gonna be a big part of your life, He will probably request a blood Test to prove it is his and not your Husbands. The Courts will make him pay Child Support. In the mean time you need to find a Job and learn to support yourself and your future child. I wish you the best of Luck.

Answer 3

Hii, I am attempting to answer this with the short informations that is available / given by you.

At 32 men are still boys and may not have all that depth and maturity in understanding women and womens needs from the perspective of having children... etc... and more so do not understand dependability, providing security both emotional and financial.

If he has left .... and if you are wondering what took him so long...

Couple of possibilities...
1. The committment to bring up a baby must have scared him as the delivery date got closer.
2. He firmed up his relationship with some one else...
3. A drifter...

Answer 4

It sounds like you both had very unstable marriage to begin with. He waited so long because maybe he thought it might work and then decided it wouldn't or maybe he needed a place to stay until he could get the other wheels in motion.

Becaues he was such a DOGG I would get another credit card (he is still your husband) and replace the stuff he took. then I would pay a good lawyer, I would not normally say this but ..... a child conceved during a marrage is concidered to be the husbands child.

Good luck.

Answer 5

Knowing that he was not the father of the child got the better of his ego, and many would not blame him for that. Seems like there were problems before this pregnancy came about and this type of problem is quite common these days. You are young - enjoy your pregnancy and child and focus on where you want to get to - with or without a partner. I understand that you will probably be going through heightened emotions at this time, but you will get through it and you are better of without this man, really. He did you and your unborn child a favour (eventually you will see it this way). All the best of luck.

Answer 6

i know ur hurt but i have to be blunt. if this is the whole story and there is no other side to it then he used u. when u cheated it was a 'get out of jail' card for him. he probab;y thought that by ur cheating it wontlook bad on him for leaving u even if u r pregnant. seems like he left without a word so that there wouldbe no fighting so he could go peacfully, and so u would have no way of knowing where he is. he emptied ur joint account, knowing u r pregnant? need i say more?

Answer 7

Perhaps he needed that long to get everything settled. Or perhaps he sees the light. Your relationship with him doesn't seem to be safe, for either of you, and you should really think of a full divorce. Even if you have to struggle on your own, it's better than putting up with hell and ruining your life with it. Start going out with friends, even if you are pregnant, someone's bound to see you for you and be willing to be the father of someone else's child, to love both you and the child, and not be like this guy.

Answer 8

knocked up by someone else and your asking why? well it should have been over along time ago if he is screwing somebody else just the same as you are . if all you got was knocked up and an empty apartment your lucky. time to stick the old boyfriend for child support

Answer 9

Sounds to me like he has made a final decision for himself. Sometimes these things take time to realize. What concerns me is your lack of remorse in your post. You ask why it took him so long rather than accepting responsibility for your part. I am not taking sides. Sounds like responsibility lands on both your shoulders. Your focus of dwellings seems a bit odd to me. You are going to be a mother soon and I suggest you focus on that task at hand.

Answer 10

he waited so long because he had to move money and shut things down, it was well thought out and not cause you suspicion, good luck raising your child, I hope the real father is put on the birth certificate and taken to court for child support, you will find someone else, keep trying