2007-03-30 18:23:21 · 9 answers · asked by Paradiddle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Trying to talk things out. Making an honest conscious effort to change your ways. My hubby and I calmly sat and took turns telling each other what was making us unhappy or feel bad. Then when we finished we each made a list of behaviors that needed to change in order for the marriage to continue. We both gave it our all and we are still together. Not every single thing has changed, but 90% has improved. We had to learn to listen, to compromise, to give up some control, to share household tasks such as kids, cleaning, paying bills, we had to learn respect, and we had to understand the true meaning of trust. Get rid of any outside negative influences. family and friends are quick to tell you to leave, get divorced, or whatever. That's not the kind of help you need. Keep those around who are there to support you no matter how bad or how good things get in trying to maintain your marriage.
In the end it was well worth it. Its coming up on 5 yrs we've been together now. This is the second marriage for both of us. I cannot imagine my life without him in it. I would be heartbroken and lost. Don't give up. You'd be amazed at how much plain, simple, and pure true love can pull you through the pitfalls of marriage.
2007-03-30 20:39:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think if the couple can really communicate, and if both parties are willing to let all the issues go, and realize that repairing the relationship is worth more than pride, winning the fight, whatever, most relationships can be saved. Both parties have to be ready to let the issues go. Negotiation and compromise are very important. Mutual respect is paramount. If drug or alcohol abuse is a factor, nothing can be fixed until the addiction is addressed. If violence is a factor, I would suggest that the relationship is probably not worth repairing. Good luck to you.
2007-03-30 18:29:04 · answer #2 · answered by alliebean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God of course as the one person has said but truly to make any marriage in the world work, being damaged or anything "COMMUNICATION" talk every day even if it is for 1 hour and NEVER go to bed unhappy even if you have to plant a kiss on the cheek for starters then so be it..do it but talk and things will work out
2007-03-30 18:29:07 · answer #3 · answered by Gina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes the both of you working on it. It'll never work if only one is putting in all the effort. The concern, desire, love, consideration, & communication needs to come from both sides. If there seems to be a stumbling block, seek an unbiased 3rd party professional to help to reach your goal together.
2007-03-30 18:32:11 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key to making any marriage work is COMMITMENT. Just refuse to give up and be willing to do whatever it takes to make things right, even if you didn't do anything wrong.
2007-03-30 18:30:37 · answer #5 · answered by tooyoung2bagrannybabe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication without fighting spending time alone together if you don't have the time to do so make time!
2007-03-30 18:27:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your woman to repair you long and hard with her camel's toe
2007-03-30 18:32:09 · answer #7 · answered by Joe B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Patience and lots of it.
2007-03-30 18:34:02 · answer #8 · answered by exaltedchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love and telling each other you love each other.
2007-03-30 18:34:04 · answer #9 · answered by Jim_atthedrive-in 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God is the key!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-30 18:27:18 · answer #10 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋