here is a tough question for you Christians out there or someone with serious morals.?

Question

So there is this girl I really like and she likes me and we are both sophmores. she and I would like to take our friendship to the level of Boyfriend girlfriend, but I can't do that because I am a christian and she is not, and the most important thing in my life is my relationship with my God so If I did this it would definitely effect it. I also think she is curious about what is so great about my God, and I would like to know how you think I should present my standards to her without hurting her feelings, of feeling forced into Christianity.

Btw I would never break our friendship. I just can't have the person closeest to my heart no know about the person who I live for

Answer 1

I think that your relationship with GOD/Christ is a very beautiful one if she has yet to accept Christ as her lord and Savior you cannot do it for her, you can impose your values on her (not forcibly) but let her know what is more important, i mean after all they are more important! If she, your parents, friends forsake you they will ALWAYS be there, do what is RIGHT and what is not the norm!! GOD is ALWAYS watching and knows that you will be faced with many temotations but hoepfully you will overcome them with help from CHRIST. Your young, you will have plenty of time for girls and experiences when you get older!

Answer 2

I don't recall ever hearing a comandment condoning the union of two lovers who happen to have different religious views. Correct me if I'm missing something - I'm not too incredibly savvy on the Bible's content aside from the basics. And if this is your own personal philosophy, then you must decide for yourself where she fits in to the equation.

You are obviously attracted to her, and I see no reason that you two should be denied the right of partnership. I respect you for upholding your religious values, your relationship to your god, but if you want to involve this girl in your life then you may have to shuffle your beliefs a little and keep an open mind - not disregard those beliefs, of course, but evolve them. Either way you are right: this will affect your relationship with the Divine, but how it will affect that relationship is another story, and you've already written the first chapter.

I think you should explain your Faith as best you can to her without putting her off. I would start by making it perfectly clear that you have no intention of challenging her beliefs or morals, you are merely putting forth your own, and she can either take it or leave it. If she is opposed enough to not want anything to do with it, then she's probably not for you. However, if she doesn't mind your choices and you are cool with hers, then go for it.

The only way she won't feel forced into Christianity is if you don't force her. It's that simple. If you want this relationship, you may have to make some personal sacrifices, but don't go beyond what you're comfortable with, and if you guys are not compatible, then trust that your time will come.

Answer 3

I began dating a man who was not a Christian when I was a sophomore. He showed interest in my faith because he liked me but not because he felt a call from God. We dated through high school and got married. Our life has been a struggle for me because he frequently does not understand my point of view. Some of the responses you see on this site resemble some of his responses. If you have as strong a faith as it seems then remember that when you start dating anyone, there is a possibility it will become serious and stay that way. It is much more difficult later on to cope with this kind of relationship.

Answer 4

In relationships it is always best to ask in plain terms if your partner feels what you think they feel. If you think she is interested about your personal relationship with God then ask her. If she says yes then stop, think about how YOU FEEL about it and then tell her you are open to telling her about your spirituality. Keep your religion out of it - the dogma of one Christian religion is a lot like any other Christian faith. Tell her how you feel about your relationship with God - not what Bible study says you should feel.
If she seems to want to change the subject ask her if she would rather change the subject. If she does then drop it. If she is interested she will ask later. If you try to keep going it will feel to her like you are pressuring her.
If she is interested in your spirituality, are you interested in her's? Can she feel free to tell you about her spiritual side? If so then let her know that that is ok - be ready for some surprises and make sure that you are really ready - She could have any kind of spiritual attitude - and some are not very acceptable to Christians.
If she is open enough to allow you to share your spirituality you should be open enough to listen to her's. You already love her so she must be a person of high character. When we share the most important part of our lives it is always frightening because the ones we care about may not feel the same way after we share.

Answer 5

You said she is curious about what is so great about your God, so that's a positive sign, and you should invite her to your church events, or start sharing to her about your relationship with God. Don't start off with presenting rules or standards. Rather, talk about how you came to believe in Christ, what He means to you, and all that kind of thing. She cares about you and seems to want to understand you better. She could well be open to receive Christ, if only you would share with her. Keep praying, and I do hope she comes into the fold.

Answer 6

Well, the bible says that you shouldn't be unequally yolked; meaning, if you are a christian and she is not there is a slight chance she might pull you out of your faith. But that is mostly about marriage. Either way you should be trying to witness to her and everyone whether she is your girlfriend or not. She should also be able to tell the difference between you and a non christian by your faith walk. I don't know how much faith you have but the first thing you should always do is pray.

Answer 7

for me and a lot of Christian friends that i have, the rule of thumb is if the person is truly pursuing God and trying to see what it's all about then dating is alright as long as the relationship with God is more important. it could be a great opportunity to lead her to accepting Jesus Christ into her life. but i think it's alright to date her as long as you constantly KNOW that she is making progress. if she is not making progress or God is not number one in the relationship... then to quote you (kind of) you can't do that because you are christian.

Answer 8

Dont you think maybe the LORD put you in her life to be a witiness? Do you ever think about just sitting and reading the bible together? START with the BOOK of john. LET your light shine. AND pray 4 her. YOU may be the only one who cares where her soul is going.

Answer 9

Since you are a Christian, you know that you should try bringing her into the fold. You say she is interested. Why not take her to church and see how she feels about it. If her feelings about your church are negative, give it a little time, she may decide she wants to be a Christian after all. I believe that God wants us all to love no matter what.

Answer 10

well you have to remember in the Bible says that you have to be equaly yoked. and if you get with her it is most likely that you will fall into her ways, like start falling into temptation more. and you will probably conform more to the world. and you can still be friends with her and slowly introduce her to the Bible and teache her about God's Word. Dont push her or if not she might just be a "Christian" because that is what you want her to be. So first be friends, like you are right now and then slowly introduce her to the Bible. But make sure that she doesnt just become a "Christian" because she wants to be with you.
GOOD LUCK!