im 25 my husband of 3 years is 43 dont get me wrong i love him with all my heart, but lately everything about him has been buggin me especially his attitude, i was always chasing him for his love and affection as he is not an affectionate person so he was always rejecting me yet would flirt with all my friends, and now its at the point where I just cant be bothered fighting him for it anymore and i am at the point that i dont want his affection anymore either, i feel that it is taking a toll on our relationship. what should i do i have tryed talking to him but he always has excuses an never wants to talk about it.
2007-03-30 17:24:23 · 8 answers · asked by KYE_81 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Men 'refusers' come in too many 'shapes and sizes' to answer this. If your marriage is worth saving, then one of you needs to take the lead and get focused on figuring out each others needs.
When those needs aren't met for long enough, one of you will end up in an affair. In fact, it may have already happened. This is a 'crossroads' in his life ... in his 40s. Its the time men and women usually 'take stock' of things, find their regrets, and have affairs.
2007-03-30 17:50:18 · answer #1 · answered by Sultan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are willing to give your life to this man who doesn't even appreciate you,when you are his age you will be taking care of him .Not a fair trade off is it.You are still very young even if you don't think you are.I would give anything to be your age again.25 is the best age to be probably not for you the way it sounds.I'm telling you this when you reach my age you will look back at a life you gave away to a man who did not deserve it and you will hate your self for not listening to people who tried to tell you .You don't no me and I don't no you,I just wish I would have listened to others but I didn't so here I sit typing away trying to help others not to make the same mistakes that I have made.Go out and live while you still can there is a lot of fun left to have for you don't let this man take it from you.
2007-03-31 00:44:41 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you think that he would change? He hasn't. He is set in his ways. He isn't going to be any different. Either you will have to accept him as he is or leave. Personally, if he didn't want to talk about it, and you don't want to live the rest of your life this way..I would leave. Don't waste your time. You are very young and have plenty of time to find someone who treats you the way you wish to be treated. You say that you love him? What is it about him that you love? Think long and hard about that question. That will be your answer.
2007-03-31 00:30:31 · answer #3 · answered by Shawn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it really sound like both of you need to get counseling to deal
with what r really going on. you stated that you chase him when
you were dating him that may have been the problem you chase him and now that you have caught him it not what you
expected and now you dont feel anything. time to fiqure out
what both of you want in this marrige.
2007-03-31 00:30:25 · answer #4 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You age difference is now coming to fully to the front of your marriage!
Be very careful on how you deal with your actions!
2007-03-31 00:28:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try marrage counceling. if he isnt willing to do that,then I would say its time for you to move on and let him go on his marry way - youll be much happier in the long run if he isnt willing to try
2007-03-31 00:28:22 · answer #6 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need counseling with or without him.
2007-03-31 01:17:44 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats the question?
2007-03-31 00:28:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋