had an account on adultfriendfinder...he had an account which stated that he was looking for erotic chat/email/phone fantasies and a discreet relationship.....he has been very very very stressed lately from other issues and me n him have not been getting along (my hormones r out of whack) this is our 3rd child together also. well,he denied the account and still does and i dont believe him. i found this out by going to his email where i get mail at too (i know his password)he is always home and doesnt go anywhere without me except for work...recently we have been doing ok and normal again...is this unaceptable behavior even if it is his account (which it is) or since he is not using it (i deleted it) should i let it slide?" please advice!!!
2007-03-30 16:38:41 · 10 answers · asked by Boo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow, what women put themselves through for the sake of a guy. I can't answer this question, I'm going to bed.
2007-03-30 16:42:50 · answer #1 · answered by rosie768 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your man is always home and does not go anywhere without you by his side then what is the problem? People are always going to fantasies about others and another life. Unless he is doing something right in your face he is not disrepecting you. At the worst he may be keep a few things from you but he is not disrespecting your nor your relationship. If you spoken with him and he denied it then what are you to do execpt accept what he said. Notice I did not say believe him, keep your eyes open. Just remember this, trust is a two way street. He may have broken yours with him by having that account, but you too have broken his by going into his email looking for something even if you do have the password your still in the wrong there.
That is not meant as a put you down. You have ever right to know if your man is unfaithful to you. But at the same time, if he is not doing wrong then he would have every right to be pissed at you. So is it that big of a deal to you really that your willing to allow it to destory your relationship?
2007-03-30 16:52:00 · answer #2 · answered by Sir James 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there are no doubts whatsoever that it was his & you know the account had recent activity, then you have your answer my dear. he was looking for a discreet relationship, which translates into "I want to cheat on my woman & not let her know." You're on your third kid w/ this guy...and that is going to be the most difficult thing at all. If he can hide it from you for that long, who knows what else he is hiding, hon. I would either demand immediate couples counseling (that is if you even want to attempt to save this relationship) for the two of you together or end the relationship. You & those kids do NOT need a professional liar in your family, destroying the family you have made together. You have to ask yourself: Is YOUR happiness & the happiness of your children worth risking in order to save a relationship with a man who has been lying to you & attempting to cheat for GOD knows how long? Only you can answer that question, hon. best of Luck.
2007-03-30 16:46:07 · answer #3 · answered by Spiral_Dancer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Third child on the way, and your man as you say is
with adultfriendfinder. It's time you had a long talk
with your man and explain to him what you don't
like about what he is doing. If he is really your man
then he will know to cancel his account and if he
does not then you need to start thinking what next
to do as more kids is not the answer.
2007-03-30 20:39:41 · answer #4 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
on the turn facet, I dont' comprehend what the quantity of this "account" became, yet I consistently get emails from adultfriendfinder, and that i do not use it. I push aside them as unsolicited mail, and assume they arrive from some thing I signed up for on the internet (a set, communicate board, etc). It in no way hurts to get help inclusive of your courting, and optimistically he will both come sparkling, or isn't mendacity. both way, perfect needs for you and the recent infant (and both toddlers). merely evaluate the actual incontrovertible fact that there is continually a risk he genuinely isn't mendacity (until eventually there's a web page he's set up with all of his own information, etc.)
2016-12-03 01:36:32 · answer #5 · answered by younan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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It all depends. Do you still trust him knowing he had this account? Can you continue to trust him? Ask him why he had this account and tell him you seen it and deleted it.ee what his reaction is to that. When a man can not look you straight in the face when you ask him a question like that then you know he is lieing to you and really doesn't love you like he says he does.
2007-03-30 16:48:53 · answer #6 · answered by michele k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would let it slide this time.. but if it happened again, i would put my foot down.... counseling mandatory. better make sure the credit cards arent being billed for his adventures online.. and continued billing either (those slutsites continue billing).
then go get a keystroke program at best buys or office depot or staples or something. this will tell you exactly what he's doing.
if you need a convincing point, tell him how much his child support would be if he f's up again....
CHILD SUPPORT CALCULATOR
http://www.alllaw.com/calculators/childsupport/
YOUR STATES CS POLICY
http://childsupportcenter.org/stateprofiles.php
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2007-03-30 16:59:55 · answer #7 · answered by Yvette B yvetteb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like you said he is stressing give him some time for him to cool down or talk to him
2007-03-30 16:44:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it time to really sit down with this man and talk to him there
a problem that need to be address. this will not go away just
because you delteted this. dont let this slide, you have 3
children with this man, and he need to respect you,
2007-03-30 16:43:53 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well try asking him when he made it and why?
2007-03-30 16:56:29 · answer #10 · answered by Trisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋