t, my only friends are his and all he does is complain and he says I have it made..Thanks
2007-03-30 15:53:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i would say he is very controlling, wants to keep u away from everyone, he is insecure, has no self worth. it would really be hard to live with such a man, i would leave him, otherwise u will emotionally suffer, u need to confront this man, and not allow him to treat u as if u are his property, like he owns u. what we allow and don't face will just continue.
2007-03-30 16:14:46 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this but your husband is being controlling. Not only does he not want you to work it appears that he does not want you to have any friends of your own. What does he complain about? Is it the fact that you are short on money, that there is not enough money from payday to payday to pay the bills or go out? Maybe he is afraid that if you go to work that you will talk to other women and realize that marriage should be 50/50. You said he does not take you out right? Bet he goes out though. Excuse is probably that he makes the money and he can not afford to take you along. He thinks that if you make money he would have no excuse for not taking you. You should sit down and discuss this with him and if he does not understand then you need to decide if you love him enough to let it go on. Only you can decide if you are happy living this way. But remember, you are married to him so don't jump before trying your best to resolve the situation.
2007-03-30 16:27:34 · answer #2 · answered by susie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband does sound very controlling. I can understand if you have children and he wants you to stay home with them, but no friends?? You do not have it made if you are not happy with your situation. You should get a hobby and find friends of your own. You could also work from home. I license music from my home and love it. It gives me some independence and my husband likes the fact that I bring in a little extra cash. Even though I work from home I have been able to meet a lot of people and even make some friends.
2007-03-30 16:38:17 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that he is being very possessive and controlling of you . You at least should have some of your own friends. Why does he never take you out? Why does he not want you to work if i may ask? If there are no kids then you should be able to work. Go to http://www.drphil.com and email him for help and advice in this matter and I hope that things work out for you. Good luck.
2007-03-30 15:57:43 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems you didn't set things straight from the beginning, and now you don't like the bed you're sleeping in.
Either you accept your situation or put your braces on, be strong and stand up to your husband. Be prepared for some tough arguments but first get your mind together and know how to approach it, otherwise, he'll beat you down again!
Good luck!
2007-03-30 16:00:15 · answer #5 · answered by avechm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a form of abuse. It's called isolating. He wants to be in control of everything you're doing. You don't have it made, because you are losing your place in this world and becoming a pawn in his. Eventually, you will lose your own identity and become an extension of his.
Are you afraid of him? Are you afraid to defy him by going out and working anyway? Would you be afraid to make your own friends and go out with them? If you attempt to do something that he 'won't let' you do would you be afraid of his anger? If you can answer 'yes' to even one of these questions I'd suggest your going for some abuse counselling, and definitely don't let him know that you are.
2007-03-30 16:12:40 · answer #6 · answered by Plexed 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is abusing you and you are allowing it to happen. Won't "let" you work? What can he do about it? Go out without him and make friends. Get a job and make friends at work. Best advice, dump him. He is a loser and is abusing you. It will get worse, not better. He considers you bought and paid for, someone he owns.
2007-03-30 16:04:55 · answer #7 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants to have all the control and you are not able to do whatever it is you want. You should let him know that it is not right and you are a grown woman and should be able to do what you want, especially if it brings more money into the household
2007-03-30 16:15:51 · answer #8 · answered by JCaton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good man has more interest in his wife's dreams, not just his.
A good man supports his wife in reaching her goal in life.
A good man is not a selfish man.
A good man builds a woman up.
A good man restores hopes and offers vision!
2007-03-30 16:14:45 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have children? if you do maybe its best if you do stay home with your kids unless you want someone else to get to know the better than you do. But i also think maybe is playing with you when he says that. and if he isnt ask him how you have it made,and if he cant explain then show him why its not.
2007-03-30 15:58:30 · answer #10 · answered by keithleyjustin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋