My 4 yr old stepson has recently started saying that. He is definitely not learning it at home because my daughter is biracial and we just are not racist or prejudiced people. He does not get along well with my daughter and I was thinking that maybe that was it. His karate instructor is black and he is surrounded by people of different races and cultures. I dropped my stepdaughter off at her girlfriends house today (who happens to be black) and he yelled from the backseat "I don't like black people!". My stepdaughter and I were both mortified. I climbed in the back seat and whipped that butt. Probably not the best way to handle it but I refuse to have a little racist running around my home. What is your opinion?
2007-03-30 13:49:53 · 21 answers · asked by peach 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Why would I make something like that up? I am a good parent that is concerned about his upbringing. I think a lot of it is that he does not get along with my daughter and he associates her with all people of color. However, he loves his karate instructor I am confused. Kids can be confusing.
2007-03-30 14:05:12 · update #1
it sounds like you did the right thing. it is important that you catch it now rather than later. it could be just a phase he is going through but he needs to realize that kind of behavior is absolutely unacceptable. good luck.
2007-03-30 13:53:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
See if you can find children's book about famous black Americans or Europeans. Maybe a book about Booker T. Washington. There are children's fictional books with black heroines and heros. He may be mimicking someone , and he may be doing this for negative attention because he perceives that your daughter is # 1 in your life. This will take much time and effort because you certainly don't want your daughter to start feeling inadequate because of his remarks. As for whipping his little butt, I believe consequences should be immediate. My little butt was whipped for things far less than that and I didn't turn out to be a sniper or molester.
2007-03-30 21:27:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's exactly what I would have done in that situation, but you are going to have to take time to get to the bottom of this. Maybe his mother is behind it. Anything is possible. The world is full of racist people - of all races! But you do need to get to the core of the problem before he ends up thinking it's okay to not like someone based on their color alone.
2007-03-30 20:55:12 · answer #3 · answered by The Nana of Nana's 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
So much for freedom of expression.
Maybe he dislikes all the blacks he's met so he generalises the whole race are like that.
His reasoning: "If all the darkies i know piss me off, all the others i don't know are most likely the same"
You need to show him blacks are nice people, using violence on him will just make him more violent, he'll learn nothing, in fact when he's older he could be using violence himself to take it out on the people he feels have wronged him.
Ask him why he hates them then tell him how bad racism is, about how it causes even more problems which will affect him, maybe using a situation he can relate to (for example read the Doctor Seuss story about the Sneetches, it's an example of racism and how stupid it is).
2007-03-30 21:00:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
He has heard racist remarks somewhere. And it's apparently getting him some attention when he makes them. Explain this is not right or acceptable in your family. If he continues, give him time out or take away something he enjoys until he shapes up.
2007-03-30 20:55:10 · answer #5 · answered by beez 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
he probably got it from his little friends at school if he goes to school. but most of the stuff that usually comes from the mouth of little kids is what they hear form other people he's around if he is around any of his little friends say something like that he is most likely to repeat what he has heard. and if he doesnt hang around kids much he probably got it from a show or something like that. hope that helps alot. and you should tell to him that that kind of stuff hurts other people and he could get introuble for saying it.
2007-03-30 20:58:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well it's a good thing you handle this situation when he's young instead of when it's too late. you need to have a talk with him and because he's still young he doesn't know any better. i think you, your husband and stepson should talk about it and your stepson should apologize to your step daughter.
2007-03-30 21:00:55 · answer #7 · answered by jdukenumber1 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well that is not nice is it, my family are what you call black. but hey he needs to be told that he cant go around saying things like that, he needs to be pulled up now and explain to him why. he may be a little jealous of your daughter leaving him (you know no one to play with maybe) or could it be that his karate teacher is a little mean to him or picks on him, is he spoilt in anyway? besides a lot of kiddies at young ages tend to say things like that, but they do need pulling up and asap.
2007-03-30 20:56:12 · answer #8 · answered by boonoora 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
He's only 4, he must have pick that up from someone at school or wherever. You should just talk to him about accepting others, regardless or race, nationality etc..
2007-03-30 20:57:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am shocked at this. Sorry, but your stepson needs some heart to heart talk. Also, talk to his teacher, maybe some boogerhead in his class taught him that.
2007-03-30 20:55:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋