I'll be graduating from high school in 2 months. I live in Missouri and I want to move to California to go to college there. St. Louis doesn't have many colleges/universities that provide Fashion Merchandising but out-of-town colleges do. But I WANT to go to California and attend a community college instead (because of my grades) and stay there for a year so I can get in-state residence tuition for a university when I transfer. After that I might want to go FIDM (a fashion school) which is located in California. But my mom is a foreign asian woman, so with that being said....you should automatically assume that she doesn't know how to speak english well.....she doesn't know how to read or write in english...and I'm needed for EVERYTHING. If I leave, I'll be worried about her. My parents are seperated so it's only me and her and my mother has NO family members in the United States at all. I think going to California would help better my life, but I don't know what to do with my mom.
2007-03-30 12:24:55 · 9 answers · asked by . 4 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
I also understand that California is EXPENSIVE! And yes if I do go to college in California I would be attending both a community college and then a university with dorm rooms. So finding an apartment and everything is the least of my worries. ALSO....my older sister lives in Orange County, so it's not like I'm gonna be there on my own. Even though if I'm able to move out to Cali, I wouldn't be that close to my sister....but the feeling of having a relative out there isn't that bad. The worst part about it....I didn't tell my mom or my dad (who I'm not getting along with right now) about me wanting to go to California for college. I know that when I DO mention me wanting to go to CA for college, the idea of my mom would come to my mind. I don't know what to do!
2007-03-30 12:27:57 · update #1
My mom won't even LET me go out-of-town for college. Think about her going balistic over me going out-of-STATE. She always brings up....her writing checks/deposit slips (which I have to do), she can't read street signs, and the most of my worries is her not being able to read and write. Because the legal age in Missouri for you to move out is 17. I KEEP STRESSING the point that my sister is in California....if I attend college there I might be a few hours away....but she is in her mid to late 20's....and a college graduate and she'll be able to look out for me. I don't know why BOTH of my parents won't allow me to go.
2007-03-30 12:34:34 · update #2
I LOVE my mother to death. But she has to understand that St. Louis would not help me at all with my career. If I suggest that she moves with me....she'll complain about her not being able to find a job because she can't speak english well and everything. I don't know. Everything is so stressful in senior year.
2007-03-30 12:36:50 · update #3
Can you get your mom to move out there too? Maybe she could go stay with/near your sister?
2007-03-30 12:29:07 · answer #1 · answered by Vegan 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your parents raise you to become an adult. I am sorry to hear, but it sound like you mother relies on you to live her life. Sorry sister.....you have you own life to lead...all this time your mother is worried about what you are going to be doing with your life! Why haven't your mother taken the time to Learn English. They have many classes that teach English as a Second Language. After all you are in the United States......your mother should learn the culture! Sorry but If I was in Rome, I would have to do as the Romans do! How about you guys come to a compromise......either she moves to California with you, or you go to a community college in Stl Louis then move to California to complete your last two years of undergrad. Also are you ready to leave the nest? Soon as I was done with high School I was outta there! I went away for college! Of course I visit home.....but never to live there again! I say this because some students I went to college realized after attending college away from home, that were not able to really get into and ultimately they moved back home with their parents. You have to be able to go and mature for the next stages of you life and be ready for culture shock!
2007-04-07 18:59:28 · answer #2 · answered by Lady D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Missouri Chick!
Well, even though I am a Cali girl at heart, I visit Missouri every summer faithfully to see my grandparents and it's a great place but for fashion merchandising. . . humm. . . FIDM is the way to go by far!
I understand moving away from home and leaving your family but in the end, it's your life and you need to make yourself happy. You only have one life and you don't want to do what your parents or others may want you to do because you may miss out on an awesome opportunity!
Ok, with that in mind, you should apply at FIDM. You may think your grades are "so-so" but let me tell you, the admissions counselors at FIDM look at alot more than just grades: they look at the student as a whole and sometimes that's more important than grades. If you have talent, drive
and determination, you can come to school at FIDM.
It's a great school for fashion merchandising, as you know. The instructors are skilled in their field of study and offer students real-life experience that they take with them when they graduate. So students here are getting a lot more than just a piece of paper, they're getting real life experience that will take them far in their career.
I know that parents can be hard, my parents didn't want me to come to LA either but I followed my heart and it hasn't led me astray so far.
Follow your dreams and don't let anybody compromise your voice :)
2007-04-02 11:19:35 · answer #3 · answered by Latasha B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first I thought you must be an only child, but then you mention a sister in California--are there any other siblings? It sounds like you are bearing the burden of taking care of your mother and your sister is not. Have you spoken to your sister about this? If you have been helping your mom for the past few years, perhaps it's your sister's turn to step up to the plate. Good Luck.
2007-03-31 09:48:25 · answer #4 · answered by njyogibear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I respect your concern for your mother, HOWEVER, if you do not get a proper education (which you now have the opportunity to do) you will be in the same boat with her, maybe even together with YOUR kids! See your school counselor, or the college counselor that you plan on attending, they both have this information available. Even your local library. Please hang in there!!!!! Call your local 211 information.
There are answers!!! I
If you don't find them here, keep searching, my heart goes out to you, I believe you have the sense to work this out and be stronger for it! Local churches may be able to help you as well!!
2007-04-07 17:05:57 · answer #5 · answered by Texas Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. Could your mom move with you? Or you can begin to teach her English. I'm also Asian and my parents can do fine without English. Just think about all the Hispanics who are in the United States. They only know Spanish, and they're doing more than well. I think she'll be fine. Your education is more important, sorry!
2007-03-30 19:29:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get married. I believe that will solve all problems cuz you will have your own family to worry bout. You can still take care of your mother though. Cheers
2007-03-31 04:34:43 · answer #7 · answered by ATG74 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmm sounds like you need to make a decision.. Are you living Moms life or are you living yours..
OH and YES California is VERY expensive... SoCal (Which is where the OC area is..) I doubt you could afford it anyway..
But its yer pick.. But i think you would be better off with mom.. you arent ready for the real world.. particularly in CA... its brutal here...
In other(less kinder) words.. yer still a kiddie.. so act like one eh? Mommy will take care of you till she passes on I'm sure..
2007-03-30 19:43:13 · answer #8 · answered by darchangel_3 5 · 0⤊ 5⤋
Lots of colleges but only ONE MOTHER...
2007-03-30 19:31:00 · answer #9 · answered by Grand pa 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋