Kiss ME?
Im with a guy now weve been together a while dating for quite a few months but we were taking it slow, anyways he has a strange hang up with germs (over the top ridiculas) so Ive never really questioned why he didnt french and only pecked me (of course I want more) anyways the other day for the first time we fooled around a little and I was in shock when he went down on me - Now why in the heck would he do that and not kiss me? Keeping in mind weve been together a long time without any sex so thats definetly not why hes with me???
2007-03-30 10:55:25 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Does he get an erection when you guys fool around? Take notice, he may be struggling with his sexual identity. Going down on you doesn't require looking at you, so maybe he isn't that into you. Best way to get the answer to this one is to ASK HIM!! Make your own decision based on his answer, and maybe move on to someone who makes you feel sexy and can't keep his hands...err.....lips off of you!!
2007-03-30 11:25:31 · answer #1 · answered by missliss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesn't like french kissing, it could be as simple as that. If you've never lead him to believe you wanted it, he may not even think that you want to do something like that.
As weird as it sounds, I can kind of identify... I was a late bloomer and didn't really kiss a girl until I was in my 20's. I remember the first time I french kissed a girl I actually didn't like it at all and was surprised that it felt nothing like what I thought it would be like. Now it turned out she was a bad kisser (and so was I of course; I was just learning how) and french kissing isn't so bad, but whether it was just that first experience turning me off or whether I never would have liked it in any case, it's still not one of my favorite things.
On the other hand, I do love to kiss, passionately lip to lip, I just don't like having a tongue forced down my throat or shoving my tongue down her throat either. I still do it sometimes because I don't consider it the worst thing in the world but it's just one part of kissing and I enjoy other parts better I suppose.
Also my dislike of french kissing has nothing at all to do with the like/dislike of going down on a girl. I really like to do that, sometimes I'm just in the mood for it. So that's a separate issue.
Anyway, it could be your guy just has some of the same preferences I do, and this 'germ phobia' explanation doesn't even apply.
2007-03-30 11:56:23 · answer #2 · answered by Jon S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just don't like french kissing. Maybe he thinks your mouth is dirtier than your other parts. Why don't you ask him? Sometimes people don't want to kiss that intimately until they are ready to give away their heart. Kissing is, in my opinion VERY intimate. If you like him enough to continue the relationship you need to be open and honest with each other. If he doesn't like french kissing and you do, then you have a choice to make. Live without it or find someone else. Or he has a choice to make....learn to like it or be single again. Good luck.
2007-03-30 11:07:02 · answer #3 · answered by StrawberryShortcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lucky u! ;-)
he must have heard that there are more germs on your teeth than anywhere else in your body!
i would get this sorted as soon as poss - it may turn out to be very tough for you if not. having a good old passionate kiss is massively rewarding and delicious -
all due respect huni - but how about being sure you have super fresh breath! - just a thought!
i would definately tackle him about this - and see if he wants to get it sorted - it is not a great way to carry on - and may lead to other obsessive behaviour.
hth
good luck
xx
2007-03-30 11:06:58 · answer #4 · answered by emma m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you done the breathalyzer? Sometimes our breath can be offensive and people don't want to kiss us. I love to french kiss, and I always keep something in my mouth to keep the breath from hummin'. Check yourself. And then again, you may be surprised how many men just aren't good kissers and have to be taught how to wake up the juices!
2007-03-30 12:01:16 · answer #5 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he read somewhere that the vagina has less bacteria than the mouth; and maybe that's true,I don't know.
Can you imagine when your getting married and whoever is performing the ceremony says "you may kiss the bride". Nobody attending will ever forget your anniversary.
2007-03-30 13:32:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just doesn't like kissing? It's not everybody's cup of tea, just like not everyone likes to hold hands or hug.
2007-03-30 10:58:48 · answer #7 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be you have bad breath. Could be he has a phobia. Sounds more like bad breath since he is willing to "kiss" you elsewhere.
2007-03-30 11:01:54 · answer #8 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you got yourself a serial killer or something weird, run like the wind, girl!! I am serious!!
2007-03-30 11:02:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you / he has halitosis (Bad breath) nothing worse than garlic breath......Best way to get the answer, ASK HIM , rather than rattling your brain and losing sleep over...just ask him already
2007-03-30 11:56:15 · answer #10 · answered by K F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋