Is it possible for them to go back to being the people they were when they first met?
2007-03-30 10:52:33 · 10 answers · asked by guardianangel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think we can ever be the same people we were in the past. However, I do think it's possible for you and your husband to reconnect.
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2007-03-30 10:57:53 · answer #1 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are an idealist and incurable romantic, I'd say yes.
But....People change over time. It's part of life and of learning.So it's common that two people that once had a lot in common (dreams, ideas, etc.) could drift apart as they grow at different rates.
That is why marriages that last for a lifetime are so rare and beautiful...Because they managed to survive to sooo many things and problems!
2007-03-30 17:59:55 · answer #2 · answered by Nena S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion there is no way. Once you drift apart, there is no going back. People change just like the seasons change. We are not put on this earth to stay the same we grow old and end up changing who we are.
2007-03-30 18:46:37 · answer #3 · answered by Theresa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a great question....
But so hard to answer! It's very hard to "get back where you started." It depends on what's transpired during your time together. Does the good outweigh the bad?
Chances are...getting back to being the people they were when they first met is just a fantasy...people grow, feelings change.
2007-03-30 18:05:00 · answer #4 · answered by Dodger's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is, if both put some work into it, one can certainly initiate the recovery process by starting a conversation, an honest one.
Keep the faith, the grass is never greener, and it SUCKS starting over, talk to each other!!!
2007-03-30 17:58:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time can heal ANYTHING. You and your spouse BOTH have to want to though. Look for a fun hobby that you both enjoy and do it together and spend time getting to know eachother again. Love your spouse for who they are and not who you want them to be. Let eachother know what you do still love and see in them...focus on what you still have and not on the past. I hope you can work it out and can rekindle a relationship that is more beautiful than you could imagine.
2007-03-30 18:26:11 · answer #6 · answered by Kiara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but you have to work at it you have to figure out what got you in this situation to begin with . I don't know you so I don't know your history , You need to get your selves back on to common ground and start from there. Comunication is the key to a great relationship.
2007-03-30 18:00:30 · answer #7 · answered by Tree70 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to break out of the rut you are in. Put some spice into your love life. Go on dates. Make out without sex. Monotony can kill a relationship. Exercise with him. Buy sexy undies. Try a new position. Get out of the rut.
2007-03-30 18:06:53 · answer #8 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is possible if you both will only do it. You know that you both only need to want to do so and to honor the things your vows said.
2007-03-30 17:56:51 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they want to. it can be as good as they desire. peace
2007-03-30 18:00:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋