I notice that people are very different with how much alone time or "me-time" they need. I know some guys who constantly need to be with someone and when they're not, they're looking for someone to do something with or trying to plan something.
On the other hand, people like myself enjoy being able to relax and do our own thing. Oftentimes, I just hang out with friends because they ask me to, not necessarily because I want to. I just like being able to do my own thing, like watch my tv shows when they're on, go on the internet and go to the gym and relax when I want to.
What does this have to do with? How we are raised? Our psychological security? Don't buddhists or something believe that obtaining "oneness" is the ultimate goal in life - when you feel as if you need no others for happiness?
2007-03-30 10:45:49 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
There are many different things that help make you want more 'alone time' than other people do ... part of it is just your 'nature' (you are born that way) and part of it is 'nurture' (the way you were raised). Generally, though, people who MUST BE WITH OTHER PEOPLE ALL THE TIME are 'less centered' than people who need a lot of 'alone time' ... and since you sometimes do things 'with your friends' just because they ask you to be with them, but you really wish you had more 'alone time' I think that you are one of the 'better' people in the world ... because you are both 'a true friend' to others, but you also 'appreciate yourself' enough to be alone.
Buddhists do believe that 'obtaining oneness' is the most important thing in life ... but that's not 'being alone' any more than the opposite is not wanting to be with other people. The 'oneness' that the Buddhist is interested in obtaining is actually 'one with the universe' ... knowing WHO they are, and 'where' they are and WHY at all times, even when they are 'doing nothing' ... and nobody does 'nothing' like a Buddhist.
2007-03-30 10:54:59 · answer #1 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very well put my friend. I used to go out with this guy, who later became my daughters father, and he could never understand it when I would tell him that I need my alone time. that was my time to do what I wanted alone,, with no one around me, I used to go drive my truck to a remote place out in nature and write my poems, I would vent alot of things that were going on in my life at the time that way.. I had to have that time. and now,, I am finding that I have to find that time again to be alone with myself to think, to feel, and to be able to make the next step in being more of the person I want to be.
there is nothing wrong with having that time for you..
2007-03-30 10:54:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
has nothing to do with how we are raised believe me, out of my two brothers, I am the more reserved one. even my mother is outgoing. my father is reserved but that has nothing to do with how we are raised. its inherited traits. I mean I like hanging out with my friends and what not, but i am also very comfortable with being by myself, whether its shopping, or reading a book. we all have different personalities that cannot change
spencer- very interesting theory
2007-03-30 10:52:27 · answer #3 · answered by Jahpson 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its as deep as all that.
Introverts re-energize by being alone.
Extroverts re-energize by being with people.
I am a huge extrovert, but I still need some alone time every once in a while.
2007-03-30 10:51:57 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa the Pooh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually people who are outside loooking in(shy) tend to have more alone time then others. And people who have their own activities inside their heads, like characters and stuff, want to think on it more. It's kinda like book writers.
2007-03-30 10:50:32 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Intelligence is the answer. The lowest form of mental activity is gossipy and dependent upon a stream of low level input from others. The more intelligent you are, the more you will seek alone time.
2007-03-30 10:50:26 · answer #6 · answered by spencer 2 · 6⤊ 2⤋
I think it has to do with how comfortable someone is with being with themselves... how much they like themselves. I think there can be many different variables as to why someone needs to be with other people. I think it all comes down to self esteem...
2007-03-30 10:59:39 · answer #7 · answered by shugarmagnolia420 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe you answered your own ?
2007-03-30 10:51:44 · answer #8 · answered by nelson n 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
theyre more boring
2007-03-30 10:50:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 7⤋