my boyfriend lived like 2 hours away, we were together for about 7 months but all of a sudden he stopped calling me like he use to. when he would call he would tell me that he was out drinking and didnt want to call while he was drunk n he would swear on his nephews life he didnt cheat just was guilty of drinking with his cousins.well,now we live together and he says if he would of cheated he wouldnt have moved over here with me.i just dont know why he wouldnt answer the phone when i would call if he was just drinking? i dont know, he swears it to this day he never cheated but im still wondering about it. what you guys think?
2007-03-30 10:45:24 · 10 answers · asked by lilsexymexi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If the only thing you are basing this on is him not answering the phone I think you should let it go. Has he ever done anything to make you not trust him? Have you ever caught him in a lie?
2007-03-30 12:48:15 · answer #1 · answered by Zabes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the underlying issue here is trust and really, the bottom line is that it's your decision how YOU will move on (with or without him).
Really, worrying doesn't solve anything and instead is anxiety-provoking. First, realize that the more you think about this issue, the more agonizing it will be for YOU and that it will eventually build up enough tension in your relationship, even to the point where it will ruin it... it's probably not the best thing to choose living where the back of your head is continually spilling, "What if?!"
Decide if you are willing to trust him, and if so, you must forgive and move on... bringing up past issues is damaging to the realationship.
As for your boyfriend, you have no control over his actions and really, if he is a liar, it's almost like trying to hide a pregnancy in the sense where the truth will eventually come out for everyone to see. Also, the truth doesn't contradict itself... if you want to know my age, you can look at my birth certificate, ask my parents, look at my hospital records... the truth will always be consistent. Now think about this stories and his friends... people tend to hang out with people similar because the people that we associate with impact us greatly. Are his friends truthful and loyal to their girlfriends? Are they liars and cheaters? Don't make the mistake of thinking that your boyfriend is the only saint in the group of demons.
Get to know your boyfriend better... not physically but intellectually, emotionally and socially. You'll learn a lot more that way and find that you'll compromise your values less.
2007-03-30 18:06:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why won't you let this go? Why lose him after getting him, over something if he's got good sense he would never admit to.You are now nagging him over this thing and I will be willing to bet, you haven't been totally faithful to him. Just because he didn't answer the phone does not mean he was cheating, it's not like you was knocking at the door and he wouldn't open it.Gosh move on with your life.
2007-03-30 17:54:12 · answer #3 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to leave this in the past. He probably was out having fun - with or without other women - and your constant calling may have made him ignore you.
If he did 'cheat' on you - you need to decide if this really makes a difference of where you want this relationship to go. Will you drop him if he admits it? If not, stop thinking about it. If it does affect your relationship, you both probably have more issues than this one that you need to deal with.
2007-03-30 17:50:51 · answer #4 · answered by katydid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing that could happen to you is if he did so now right in front of you.That is what I did with some sad mental obsessive.....took them to what they were looking for ! Then you can come face to face with the demon pestering you and deal with it. He ain't under obligation to be monogomous with you...not one bit. You have no right to someone's private business just because they share some of their life with you, and you have no undertaking to each other,so the word cheat doesn't fit. You're unsure about YOURSELF ! And a psychic vulture, which is a major turn off ! I hope he goes elsewhere today and that you come across the scene raw.
2007-03-30 17:59:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should get on with your relationship and leave it alone . I tell people all the time why worry about something you have no idea about . It is time to move on and if he is lying guess what god don't like ugly and what goes around comes around !!!! Good Luck and make the best of this relationship now , stop asking questions and make him happy so he will never think of being with someone else .
2007-03-30 17:53:00 · answer #6 · answered by Me777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that does not make any scense, when your drunk your not thinking and he would have just answered the phone when you called. he was doing another girl or doing drugs or another guy, either way it was something he didnt want you to know about. so what else could he be lieing about?
2007-03-30 17:51:20 · answer #7 · answered by Sir Hard & Thick 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no way to know if he cheated on you or not, so all you can do is either believe him or move on. It's your choice.
2007-03-30 17:50:06 · answer #8 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cheated!
2007-03-30 17:52:39 · answer #9 · answered by Sparkey 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HE CHEATED
2007-03-30 17:49:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋