When I went to the university in the early 1980s, one fellow thought "Mike's a man and men don't like their wives working !" so he figured I wanted a housewife . At another point, he thought I'd insist on my wife staying home and being a housewife . In reality, I'd have nothing against my wife working and bringing home a paycheck . What's the point of a man insisting on his wife staying home and being a housewife ? Is the only reason the chance to say "I make all the money, so I make all the decisions ?" . Isn't that kind of sexism old -- fashioned in this day and age ? If a man can't make enough money to finance his marriage, he shouldn't complain if his wife goes to work and helps him out . If a man refuses to let his wife work and make a paycheck, why shouldn't his wife refuse to stay married to him ?
2007-03-30 10:36:25 · 14 answers · asked by I_hate_being_single 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In a way, she is working. Being a full time mom is an important job. It should be a decision a couple should make. It shouldn't be forced. If the husband cannot make enough money, then maybe the wife should get the job and he stay home. However, if they can't afford to live on what one spouse makes, than both should try to work.
2007-03-30 10:43:01 · answer #1 · answered by momo5j7 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personal history, cultural norms, and ego just to name a few...
There is a difference between insisting, and preferring. If there are kids involved, it would be logical for the father to want the mother to stay home with the kids and not rush them off to a daycare or babysitter while both parents are at work.
If kids are not involved, it could be a cultural difference, or a passage of right that the male figure may not feel the wife is ready for. Your questions poses many contradictions, and somewhat answers your very own question. There is no obligation for a woman to stay married, as equally there is no obligation for her to work or not work.
If this is a question about money and power, then yes, men probably often times feel threatened by a successful woman, especially if that woman is his wife.
2007-03-30 10:43:01 · answer #2 · answered by G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because the house job needs to get done; the children need to be catered for, the house need to be cleaned; someone has to mak the dishes, wash the clothes, plan the family budget etc. And thats full time work. Yeah some men like the idea of control; but many othere prioritise well.
2007-03-30 10:57:37 · answer #3 · answered by Elder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Despite what feminist try and tell everyone, some women like to stay home and work in the house. To be truthful maintaining a household and doing chores is the HARDEST job there is, especially with kids running around all the time.
2007-03-30 10:40:46 · answer #4 · answered by Samantha T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That kind of thinking IS old fashioned, however, from a female standpoint, I would LOVE it if my husband told me he wanted me to stay home and be a housewife! Among other reasons, there is a definite difference between kids who go to daycare or have nannies, and kids who are cared for by a parent. Not that there is anything wrong with daycare or nannies, but you can't trust anyone with your child as much as you trust yourself.
2007-03-30 10:54:04 · answer #5 · answered by Dodger's mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's about power and a man being able to say he can support his family without any help. It makes them feel more manly. I don't think there's anything wrong with a woman staying at home with her kids though. If the family can afford it, it's a great thing for the kids.
2007-03-30 10:41:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kind of like the idea of being a housewife and making my house a home. However, today's economy doesn't always make it easy. The man to whom I hope to become engaged to would like for his wife to stay at home. I like to shop, and I have always worked, no one has taken care of me, and he has to make enough for me to comfortable. Some men like for their wives to stay home so they can have bragging rights. If a man can't make enough to care for his wife and or family properly, he should be glad for the financial help that she can offer him, and not be sexist.
2007-03-30 12:17:40 · answer #7 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the foundation your marriage started on. Was your oath before God? If it was, have you studied the way Christ would direct you to handle your marriage or was your oath before God a ruse to get the girl and familiy to accept you?. If it was not in a church what are your beliefs? If they are guided by human law you have a shallow relationship. If you did not take an oath before God they any decision you make with your wife working applys. Now you must evaluate your relationship. Hope you find something you like.
2007-03-30 10:51:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A mother who comes back from work doesn't feel like preparing dinner and washing the dishes. Someone has to take care of the children in any case. I guess if you're infertile it doesn't really matter.
2007-03-31 02:00:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend sounds like he grew up in the 50s. That's a pretty oudated mindset these days. Personally I think it's hard to make ends meet without that second income.
2007-03-30 10:56:10 · answer #10 · answered by m k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋