What is the secret to a happy marraige? im three years in and everything is stressfull and we are arguing an awful lot. Money, the house, staring a family etc etc. I would love to get back to how it used to be. I miss it all so much....
2007-03-30 10:01:13 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Everybody goes through this. I have been married almost 8 years. We split around 4 years and I did some things that were wrong and you can never take it back...lWe are together now and after a lot of work things are really good.
Just remember the grass is never greener on the other side and all of the great memories you have from the beginning ..Keep working on it and you will be fine!
2007-03-30 10:06:12 · answer #1 · answered by jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage can be rough, especially once kids come along. We mainly fight over the kids and finances. But, we all need to take a time-out and have a dinner & movie, or just a stay-at-home night and "schedule" romance, if necessary. TALK about what each want out of the relationship and goals for the future, including finances and big purchases. There should be a guy's night out and a gal's night out once in a while, but since you're married now, that does not mean doing the clubbing scene - that can lead to trouble. Do something unexpected (a love note in a luch box etc), take a mini-trip to some unexpected location. It's the spontaneous activities I miss. Good luck and have fun! :)
2007-03-30 10:07:28 · answer #2 · answered by DRIX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication. You must keep the lines of communication open at all times. You can agree to disagree, but come to a viable solution so the marriage can grow. Sometimes we women will lay aside what we feel and think for the sake of peace. When the peace is prolonged, we can talk to our husbands and get them to come to some type of middle ground. Your marriage is young, and you should really still be on the honeymoon! get back to what brought you together in the beginning, and build from there. Bringing children into a stressful relationship, only causes more stress. Wait until you are in a good place and having children will add joy to that.
2007-03-30 12:12:28 · answer #3 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rekindle the Romance" by Family Life. They offer this service for married couples and it gives us a chance to Go back to the day when You first fell In Love.
You Re-New your vows. The women recieve a long stem rose. Your given a pic-nic luncheon out in the grass with the picnic blanket. It's all done with a large group of about 200 people!
Yea, it's like going to a Super Bowl Game! It's an easy place for the men to show up at. You know, theres no one on one, it's all out in the open.
Beutiful to see that many couples loveing one another.
You can also check out their marriage conferences! Awesome!
2007-03-30 10:31:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave your partner a note saying, "I would love to get back to how it used to be. I miss it all so much...." because that is really sweet. Then agree to take time to talk when you are not upset and tackle things one by one..take one day at a time and enjoy the simple things together. Don't start a family until you can find the way back to a peaceful situation. Avoid yelling and agree to talk instead of scolding each other. Focus on being a lover and you will be loved.
2007-03-30 10:07:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lot of interesting answers here, let me give you the only one that will actually change your life. Love. Seriously. Not the squishy, wonderful feeling you felt when you first "fell in love," but real, enduring, to the end of time love. What is that? 1 Corinthians 13 (in the Bible) is world famous for its description of love. It says that love is not rude, self-seeking, hurtful, or boastful. Love endures anything and always has hope. This kind of love is not a feeling, it is a decision, an unending choice. If you determine to love each other with this kind of love, your problems will not disappear, but they will cease to have an affect on your relationship except to drive you together.
2007-03-30 10:11:40 · answer #6 · answered by jwpoteet2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Communication is the key. You must both agree to put aside your emotions and talk out your problems. You may need some outside help with this. A neutral third pary can often help you communicate about difficult subjects more easily.
2007-03-30 10:04:47 · answer #7 · answered by MOM KNOWS EVERYTHING 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It has been my experience that a good marriage is not made it's fought for . I have been married for 32 yrs. and we fought like cats and dogs for 7 of those because we were establishing the ground work for open and continued communication thhe rest of our lives which were very important to us both . We established one rule to begin with and that was to never ever go to bed mad at each other , because that is the one place that arguments should never enter.
2007-03-30 10:14:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am single, though from hearin and reading alot of marriages, It takes alot of giving and taking from the both of you. One shouldn't always be the giver and the other shouldn't be the taker.
Communication. NOT just shouting or pointing fingers. Really listen to what each other is saying and feeling. Its hard not to be very emotion about it all.
If anything at all,go for couseling with someone from church.
The very best to you.
2007-03-30 10:16:52 · answer #9 · answered by anne_9268 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not married yet but im in a serious relationship with all the drama your talking about. Laugh often. dont take everything so seriously. try doing some new experience for both of you together. something physical, like paddleboating, or rollerblading. When your tired together, its hard to fight. You need something to remind you both of the great times that brought you together. try something new sexually..spice it up! You want him to want you, so do something desirable.
2007-03-30 10:07:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋