What do I do??????

Question

I am a married women. I married my husband because I got pregnant and wanted to do the right thing for my son. I care deeply for my husband but I don't actually love him. My highschool sweetheart, whom I was with for 5 years before my husband, is now back in my life. I love him so much. I don't know what to do. Do I stay with my husband, whith who I do not love? Do I divorce my husband and start my life with my true love? I don't want to hurt anyone involved, especially my son. Please help?

Answer 1

I'm really sorry, but you've already hurt people involved. Did you not already break vows you made to your husband? Now your son will find out you cheated some day....and you'll have to explain. I'm not trying to "slam" you, but you're not thinking clearly here. For sure if you do not love your husband, you need to let him go...THEN do whatever you like...but as long as you are married, your obligation is your husband and your child. But let me tell you from experience. Your childhood sweetheart in your mind is not the man he is now. You've both grown up, and you might find out when you're with him 24/7, that you aren't on all the same pages anymore. Don't mess up a good thing with a teenage fantasy that might be stuck in your head. Make sure your heart and mind are in the right place. But for sure, you need to cool your heels with this guy until whatever you're going to do with your marriage is settled.

Answer 2

Oh boo hoo for you. Look, grow up. You should have done the right thing for your kid, as should your hubby, before the kid was made. But you did as you both wanted and then you had a kid.

You married your husband. Circumstances dont matter. You freely took your vows and they mean what they said. Period.

Now, if it wasnt this guy from times before, it would be another one come along to tempt you. We always have temptations, so deal with them.

You dont worry about doing right for your son and you arent worried about hurting anyone. You are simply worried that people will look down upon you or will think badly of you if you do what you like and want and leave your hubby. Be honest.

Let me tell you something. There is a little secret. Yes, you have a right to be happy. What they dont tell you is that how happy you are largely depends upon how you act, your morals, your ethics, etc. You have a right to happiness, provided you do what you should to be happy. Doubt me? What if your hubby got happiness from thumping you? Would you say he has a right to be happy then? I doubt it.

Grow up. Stop giving yourself excuses. Do what you are suppose to do and start thinking ahead a bit.

Answer 3

You don't say how your high school sweetheart feels over this? Its so easy to think that life on the other side is greener? you will need to think not only about your son but yourself. its not a sin nowadays to break up a relationship so I wouldn't in courage you to stay in a loveless marriage, as long as it can be on the grounds that your son will still see his father. But before taking off and breaking up the marriage you need to speak with your other man and see why you two broke up and didn't stay as high school sweethearts? You know it may not be a bed or roses like you hope it would be. maybe if you speak with your husband and try to work out whats making you unhappy with your current relationship before giving up on it. like you say you have a son, try and make it work ? Good luck my dear. x

Answer 4

You are already hurting your husband if you are in a loveless marriage. File the papers and then go get your one true love. Make sure you allow lots of visitation to your husband. He's done nothing wrong.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 5

I feel you should be honest with your spouse and to yourself, I feel children need to be raised in a envioriment of love, if you are unfaithful then I feel the marriage will end sooner or later and it would be better if you are honest to your husband now before he finds out. It is better to get things out in the open,rather that going behind his back to see the ex. boyfriend.That way he will at least know you had enough respect for him to be trueful to him.

Answer 6

you need to take a step back and think very carefully. in reality everything might not be as Rosy as you think with your high school sweetheart as you think, your a married woman with a child now not in high school, how will he feel bringing up another mans child. have you considered marriage guidance. high school love is completely different, grown up love can sometimes manifest itself as respect and like. good luck in whatever you choose.

Answer 7

well, lets see, u married this man for the benefit of your son...has that changed...would your son suffer if u dumped the only father he knows...

Answer 8

Jerry! Jerry! Jerry!