My brother is Gay and my parents hate him!?

Question

My brother is a gay stripper he is 19 and my parents turned their backs on him. I love him like a brother but I do not know what to do. Should I tell my parents off ro what? I do not know what to do please help!!

Answer 1

You are not going to be able to change your parent's minds.
I would treat your brother like you always did. Be there for him if he needs you and let him know that you accept him as he is.
That's more than anyone could ask for.

If my parents asked me how I felt then I would tell them. I also would not hide the fact that you are seeing him or talking to him.
They're the ones who are in the wrong not you or your brother.

Good luck to you both.

Answer 2

Being gay is tough. It's not socially accepted (regardless of what TV tells us, most people still consider it a deviant life style). Add to this that mom and dad will most deffinitely be disapproving. And if all this isn't enough, he's a teen and all the problems that come with that. He lives in fear of being found out by his classmates, his parents, and how he will find other gay friends. Gay people are subjected to violence, disease, and general abuse from his peers. He has a hard road to go down and he needs your support. Help him keep his secret until he's ready to come out. He's 15 so he might not even be gay, just confused. So if he's outed and later he decides he's not gay things are screwed up still. As a gay teen he's going to feel like an outsider among his peers so he will be lonely as well. Turn him on to various gay teen groups online so he can share his feelings with other that have gone down that same road. Good luck and wish your brother luck.

Answer 3

Your brother will need your continued support. Ultimately, his relationship with your parents is between you and them, but if I were you, I'd make no bones about the fact that he's still your brother, and you still love him no matter what your parents think.

If you can have a respectful conversation with them about it, it might be a good thing. You could tell them that you love your brother and them unconditionally and that you would hope that they'd love you and your brother unconditionally also. It might not change their minds, but it may do some good if the three of you at least are clear on how you all feel about it and why.

Then, just give them some time. They may come around. After all, a parent's love for their children is extremely powerful.

Answer 4

The fact is, a prent should never turn their back on a child. Your brother cannot help being gay, not that is is a bad thing anyway, but your parents probably turned their back because they dissapprove of him being a stripper. How would you feel if your daughter were a strripper? It is an awkward situation for them. Although, they shouldnt disown him, he is probably wasting potential he has on stripping. If he were a more respectable employee like a doctor or lawyer tehn im sure your parents would love him regardless of he is gay or not. Did your brother become a stripper to bother your parents? If he did then that is selfish and spiteful. If he needs the money and its a last resort then you NEED to step in and talk to your parents explaining them your brother's situation. Remind your parents that he is their son and they shouldnt abandon him for any reason!

Answer 5

I am not gay and my parents still hate me. So they will hate you no matter what if you do something they don't like. Just because you want to follow a different way in life that they want for you and they will hate you for that.

Answer 6

That is just pain wrong what he is doing. Now look I personally dont have a liking to gay people but I highly doubt that will change in him but to be a gay stripper thats just a whole other ballpark thats going WAY TO FAR.

He needs therapy but Im not sure if I would mention this to him since is might fuel some anger obviously. but he does need some personal help so maybe somehow you could have a therapist call him up with you known as "anoymous" if you plan it out right.

Im not one bit suprised that your parents dont like him but they should try to get him some help before just hating him. Politely have a conversation with your parents about him attending some therapy classes so hes in a better frame of mind.

He is 19 so it is not to late to change and put his life in the right direction. Please consider my words of advice.

Answer 7

I would stand by your brother. There is nothing wrong with being gay or being a stripper. Its not hurting anyone.

Your parents should ashamed though of turning their backs on him. After all, he is still their child.Its not like hes a rapist, murderer or drug dealer. They need to get over their prejudices and love him for who he is not for who he sleeps with.

Please don't fall in the trap of your parents and become a bigot. It takes a strong man to be open-minded in todays diverse society.

Good Luck

Answer 8

NO NO NO!! your parents made the right choice, go support your brother by reading him the bible and arrange a blind date with a hot girl for him so he can turn straight again, i dont care what all the other faegs say, NEVER BE A HOMO!!! you will then end up in heaven :)

also hope you dont turn gay too

Answer 9

I'm sorry to hear about your brother. Ones sexuality should never be an issue...you should love your children unconditionally regardless. Continue to love and support your brother always. He needs you right now.

Answer 10

Your parents may be afraid for your brother, or afraid of your brother, or even both. Isn't that sad? Here's a resource which might help. Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians & Gays (PFLAG) is a big US non-profit organization "with over 200,000 members and supporters and over 500 affiliates in the United States... PFLAG supports GLBT people, their families and friends through local PFLAG chapter helplines and support group meetings and locally and nationally produced resources. PFLAG educates families and provides public education on sexual orientation, gender identity and GLBT issues. PFLAG chapters educate their communities through a variety of local projects and nationally PFLAG continues to provide fair and accurate information about GLBT people and their loved ones. PFLAG also advocates for equal rights for gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgendered people. Locally, PFLAG activists work for change in their communities. Nationally, PFLAG staff and volunteer leaders lobby for fairness and acceptance."