My wife of 17 years left me for a coworker and tonight at my friends house I learned how he was bragging at the local bar on how he was able to pull my wife away from me. They told me that he got a huge ego boost from it and acts like he is gods gift to women. I was very upset and hurt by this. If I was in his shoes I would feel shame and guilt mostly for the children involved and the fact that hes a school teacher. whats your opinion ego boost or guilt?
2007-03-30 09:08:00 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He sounds like a very small and petty man. I would never pull a marriage apart and destroy a family, but even if I did the last thing I would do is brag about it.
This shows what kind of man he is, and also reflects badly on your wife for choosing him (well, she looks pretty bad just for cheating, but to cheat with a scumbag like this?!)
Your first inclination might be to march down to the bar and sock him in the face. Bad idea, that will only land you in trouble.
Instead keep in mind that while you might feel humiliated, you have done nothing wrong and have nothing to feel ashamed of. The real people who should feel humiliated and ashamed are your wife and this guy.
You might write your wife a letter (as opposed to a conversation which can quickly get argumentative) and mention that divorce/separation is an extremely painful situation for both of you and mention in sympathy what this guy is doing. I wouldn't act like it hurt me that much but rather take the tack of expressing sympathy for her that he's dragging her name through the mud with this behavior.
I've gotta admit, if I were you I'd also make a point of going down to that same bar just to make a point of hanging out while he's there, but that might be a bad idea if you feel like your temper would get the best of you. It's important that you do not engage him in any physical confrontation.
Anyway I feel for your situation and I don't understand anyone who takes delight in hurting others.
2007-03-30 10:46:29 · answer #1 · answered by Jon S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What goes around comes around...
Wait until your (ex?) wife gets "pulled" away from whats-his-name to someone else... we'll see how he feels then.
Some people would rather opt out for the thrill of the chase rather than stay and work on the problems they have. They don't realize that those same problems are just going to re-occur in their "new" relationship.
Definitely shame on him, especially for your kids!!!
2007-03-30 09:56:16 · answer #2 · answered by thedrisin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe in Karma buddy trust me what goes around comes around. Its never pretty! After a few years with him she will be out the door. Your wife should feel just as guilty and now he is using her as an abject instead of a person I hope she likes that feeling!
2007-03-30 09:14:45 · answer #3 · answered by chunkysmom3502 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My (now) husband left his wife for me.....and I didn't feel guilty at all, sorry. I did feel bad for the children, but I didn't make that decision, he did. They are happily with us quite often and I feel pity now for the ex because she is a washed up has-been that is 10 years older than me and is still single because she tries SO hard that she comes off as desperate.
2007-03-30 09:31:05 · answer #4 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel like shi*. Your wife is going to get hers too. it seems he was more interested in the chase than the prize. He's going to do the same thing to her. What a jerk. But she's no better either. She is just as big a jerk as he is and if he leaves her, she had it coming.
I'm sorry you have to go through this and I'm sorry your kids have to too.
2007-03-30 09:13:29 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only the people with no class get some kind of thrill tearing marriages apart.
I would have guilt.
2007-03-30 09:13:34 · answer #6 · answered by Pom♥Mom Spay and Neuter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is an immoral idiot! Who cares what he thinks!! I can guarantee that most of the people listening to him boast about his "big win" were thinking 'what an asshole'!! If he doesn't feel like crap now, he will when she leaves him for another guy! It sucks that you and your kids are going through this! I'm truly sorry, but you shouldn't give this guy another thought - he is a loser!!!
2007-03-30 09:14:27 · answer #7 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely wouldn't announce something like that. I wouldn't personally wouldn't want to be the homewrecker to begin with. It's a shame he even said anything about it. I'd feel the same way if I were you, and if I were to cross paths with the person; I'd definitely say something to him about it. =(
2007-03-30 09:15:10 · answer #8 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friends your wife was always complaining about the size of your johnson and she needed to move several inches down.
2007-03-30 09:12:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ur friend should be guilty..
Shame on him..
I wish somebody doing this to his wife in future..
2007-03-30 09:12:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋